My usually mild DH is having tests on his heart, basically he's become breathless and exhausted - after a lifetime of activity and robust health.
None of the numerous scans and tests seem to have given any pointers as to why this has happened or how to deal with it.
He's taking 9 pills every day but won't tell me what they are for, or what they are supposed to do, but insists on carrying on as though nothing is wrong. However I sometimes find him leaning on a wall gasping for breath, but when I say anything (such as 'come and sit down and I'll make a cuppa' he snaps at me and says I must stop fussing.
He won't discuss his problem or tell me when he's due for another test. He just clams up and refuses to speak at all if I ask. I am not allowed to attend hospital consultations with him or drive him to and from scans when he's patently unfit to drive himself.
We're currently in day 2 of the silent treatment after he had a cardioversion (where I think they stop your heart and restart it) but I only found this out by being nosey and looking at the hospital letter he forgot to take with him.
He was away all day and I was frantic, but when he returned and I asked where he'd been he said 'where do you think?' and hasn't spoken a word since.
I want to scream at him but know its pointless, he's obviously terrified but is lashing out at me.
Its driving me nuts - he sits in his chair watching tv and sleeping - and ignoring me unless I nag, when he walks out and returns wheezing and gasping for breath. But speechless.
He's 84
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
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