Anxiety attacks

In the 40.# women were out on Valium theses poor women were soon addicted and were on them for 40 yrs. a bloody sin

Poor man isn't getting much sympathy, is he? Don't force him to do anything he doesn't want to. Just leave him to deal with things as he wishes. Being forced into situations against his will only makes things worse,

As Bonnybanko says, anxiety is hellish. I was of the 'get a grip' mindset until it happened to me. It can lead to agoraphobia which is what I'm trying to fight now. Please be kind to this gentleman. I hope he is feeling better now.

Lathyrus

It’s not always being “left out”.

My relative refers to stay away from events and scenarios that make her anxious. To live a life that contents her.

The problems come when others want to help her lead the life that they like.

I agree it’s important to include those with anxiety without embarrassment by anyone, but it’s also important to let them chose without pressure to conform

I agree that the person must be in control of what they choose to do.

And your comment The problems come when others want to help her lead the life that *they like* is spot on!

Its others that need to adjust their behaviour really but in a context of understanding fully what someone needs when they are "having a meltdown" or whatever and supporting them accordingly, rather than being embarrassed, laughing or getting irritated or whatever.

I hope your husband and you can find a way through this that works for you both Carenza

This sounds like a difficult situation, and understand that it may be difficult for you and your family. First, discuss your feelings with your husband. Try to understand the reasons for his anxiety and stress. Explain how his condition is affecting you and your daughter. It is important to emphasise that you want to support each other.
Consider seeing a family therapist with your husband. A professional can help you understand each other better, discuss difficult topics, and develop strategies for managing anxiety. Ask for support from other family members. Perhaps your parents, siblings or close friends can offer help and understanding, creating a more supportive environment.
Help your husband create a stable daily routine that can help reduce stress levels. A healthy diet, regular exercise and adequate sleep can have a positive impact on emotional well-being.
Explain to your daughter that you are working to make family gatherings more comfortable. She may also want to consider seeing a family therapist for individual counselling.