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Living with someone with mental health issues

(35 Posts)
Gin Sun 03-Sept-23 14:39:55

It is so very hard. If you love someone you just cannot walk away and getting help is very hard especially as the person often will not agree they need help. A friend of mine is in this situation and I see her getting more and more depressed and physically ill herself. I try to help but can see no way forward for her. I just get her away from the situation for a treat now and then that is all I can do.

Hithere Sun 03-Sept-23 14:06:26

Mental health issues is never reason to be abused.

If the person is not doing what's needed to control his/her MH, that should be the main goal

If refused, stand up for yourself

Glorianny Sun 03-Sept-23 13:05:50

Allsorts does your local authority have a carers support group? Some do and they might offer you something which would help, even if it is just a chance to meet and chat with others in the same position as you. You are obviously desperate. If you have to leave to protect yourself please do so. I do hope that is what you mean by not being able to carry on. Just getting away for a short time might help. You are entitled to a peaceful and happy life. Please look after yourself.

pascal30 Sun 03-Sept-23 10:43:47

If it's PD, which is so difficult to help, I would try to leave and restart your life elsewhere.. if that is possible

Shelflife Sun 03-Sept-23 09:16:43

Alldorts, I am thinking about you. The time may come when you just have to walk away , easier said than done I recognize that but eventually self preservation comes to the fore! You MUST take good care of yourself. 💐💐

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 03-Sept-23 08:47:22

It’s very very hard and you have all my sympathy, the only thing I can say is that if you aren’t able to take frequent breaks away, is to walk away and preserve your own Mental Health.

From our experience the Mental Health teams won’t have the time or inclination to help, we have been advised that if there is a problem we can’t deal with to call the Police. Very helpful, I don’t think. The last thing a mentally ill person needs is to be locked up.

It’s a pity there aren’t any respite homes for people with MH problems, but of course they wouldn’t go there, would they?

sodapop Sun 03-Sept-23 08:42:20

Families and partners of people with mental health problems are often overlooked. Can you get support & help from your mental health team or relatives support groups. As fancythat said try and take a break so you can recharge. Good luck Allsorts

fancythat Sun 03-Sept-23 08:34:11

I dont know your history.
Are you able to take a break?
3 days away somewhere, and you may be able to see more clearly what to do?

teabagwoman Sun 03-Sept-23 06:17:51

All sorts have you got any support for yourself? It sounds as though you need to leave the relationship and I would urge you to find counselling support to help you through that. Good luck.

Allsorts Sun 03-Sept-23 04:31:40

Living with a person with a personality disorder or mental health issues is like being on an emotional roller coaster. The emotional abuse gets too much. It comes to a point where in order to survive yourself you can't carry on.