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Can you smell but not be aware of it?

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Tennisnan Tue 05-Sept-23 20:29:24

Is it possible to smell but not detect it yourself? I ask because when I stay overnight at my sons house to babysit, he has started hurrying to the room I use, to open both velux windows and one other before he thinks Ive noticed. I visited my second son this week and he appeared to hold his breath before hugging me. I shower or bathe every day, wash clothes thoroughly and often, and take dental hygiene seriously with regular checkups. What's going on?

HelterSkelter1 Wed 06-Sept-23 15:10:29

The Japanese soap looks lovely. I shall add it to the next amazon order.
Coffee breath is always a worry for me. Mints help....hopefully.

I think you must ask your sons. I expect you are worrying unnecessarily, but you will never know.
I certainly smelt different when undergoing chemo and also before I was diagnosed. I expect a sniffer dog would have sniffed me out. Every GP should have one.

It is an interesting subject. I know I loved my husband's smell when I first met him and disliked some other men's smells. I don't mean aftershave, just his smell. Very important.

Fleurpepper Wed 06-Sept-23 15:19:03

Just was reminded about the joke about second opinions at the doctor's- lab work and cat scan smile

Hetty58 Wed 06-Sept-23 15:19:03

Oh dear - I do tend to fling the windows open when I have visitors - because Covid is still around - and there's increasing case numbers in this area.

I'm just trying to look after people, so I hope they don't think that they smell!

caz6853 Wed 06-Sept-23 15:37:13

I’ve noticed a lot of older women go for the same perfume don’t know what it is but it’s just awful you can smell it a mile away and know just who is there!

Hetty58 Wed 06-Sept-23 15:42:47

Rive gauche? (awful)

StacyAnna Wed 06-Sept-23 15:43:44

I tend to be prone to UTIs - would the persimmon soap be ok does anyone know?

Welshy Wed 06-Sept-23 15:53:06

I don't know if anyone else has metioned this as I've not read all the posts sorry. But could it be your breath smelling rather than body? I have noticed that with several people.

4allweknow Wed 06-Sept-23 16:18:25

Very difficult to detect your own bad breath unless you specifically seek to do it. Regular cleaning doesn't always prevent it, could be a gum issue,leaky filling. Check that first before you start trying to figure out any other smell.

Loobyloo12 Wed 06-Sept-23 16:21:09

Persimmon is a nice clean smell not really perfumed more like, say grass or a natural smell.

Hetty58 Wed 06-Sept-23 16:23:35

Welshy, it could well be diet. Onions, spices, garlic and alcohol cause smelly breath - and maybe body odour too. I'm sure that stress makes people smelly - as it definitely does with animals.

I'm vegan and eats lots of green vegetables (containing chlorophyll) so that should help neutralise odours. I can always tell if somebody has been eating fish.

Does somebody here have shares in the soap?

StacyAnna Wed 06-Sept-23 16:35:26

Does somebody here have shares in the soap?

Yes, I wondered that! The company won’t know what’s hit their stockroom after this thread!

Cambsnan Wed 06-Sept-23 16:50:11

Ask a close friend!

Gransey Wed 06-Sept-23 16:52:16

There was a thread about this before, it’s a real thing 2-nonenal
The persimmon soap smells…. soapy? Fresh but not fruity or flowery. I purchased some when this was last mentioned.
I enclose a screenshot from Wikipedia, sorry not great with links.

cc Wed 06-Sept-23 17:04:49

I don't think that you can smell yourself, sadly, it would be easier if we could!
My husband can get a bit niffy, I think he doesn't wash his hair enough. I used to have to wrestle his fleece from him when I wanted to wash it but I have now got a few of them, all roughly the same age, so he can't tell them apart.
My father had a great fear of being a smelly old man, but sadly only lived to 60.
I got some sheets out the other day that I hadn't used for ages and they didn't smell nice, not musty just slightly sour if that makes sense? It was a big heavy cotton duvet and I did wonder if it was the smell of stale fabric conditioner.

Esmay Wed 06-Sept-23 17:07:14

Don't get upset about it .
It's natural .
Your sons are really lucky that you can baby sit for them .
Some people have the unfortunate pong and some don't .

The Japanese have made special studies about it and produce great soaps , which you can buy on Amazon .

Drink lots of water
and green tea .
Don't rewear clothes .
And bath daily - not forgetting to wash your hair .
Sleep with the window open .

Grammaretto Wed 06-Sept-23 17:59:35

I have a dear friend whose breath pongs. I was once going to mention it but decided not to because what can she do about it!
I like her a lot and it doesn't bother me.

I would sleep with the window open at DS house tennisnan

Old people's smell is a thing a mix of urine and stale clothes. Perhaps dirty furnishings as well.
I can remember being shown into my gt grandmother's bedroom when I was a little girl. She was a real Victorian. Her bed was high, her curtains were drawn . The room smelled foustie. She reached out her papery hand with its liver spots and held my hand in hers.
I couldn't wait to get out into the sunshine.
Oh dear, I am probably just like her now.

Fleurpepper Wed 06-Sept-23 18:09:21

Grammaretto 'Old people's smell is a thing a mix of urine and stale clothes. Perhaps dirty furnishings as well. '

well, no, that is the whole point. It is something else altogether for many. Even when showered every day, clean clothes and good deodorant.

For some it is the above, but thisis probably NOT what we are talking about here.

Idolovetobebesidetheseaside Wed 06-Sept-23 18:11:38

I’m not taking any chances, i’ve ordered the soap

merlotgran Wed 06-Sept-23 18:14:05

Idolovetobebesidetheseaside

I’m not taking any chances, i’ve ordered the soap

🤣🤣 I’d better order some before Amazon sell out!

Kim19 Wed 06-Sept-23 18:25:29

To smell one's own breath, cup hand firmly over nose and mouth then exhale strongly. Someone did suggest it might be difficult.

rowyn Wed 06-Sept-23 18:40:46

The answer is YES.
One member of a group of friends ,who have known each other since the 70s, started to exude BO some years ago now. I think we all must have noticed it - I certainly tried very hard not to sit near her when we met up - and it went on for a long time. It started after her husband died and I suspect that we all felt that we couldn't mention it to her, partly because of her grief, but also becasue she is quite a sensitive person who would easily take offence.
Fortunately for the last year or so it has stopped. I'm guessing that someone maybe said something or she overheard a comment.
So I assume she had no idea about the B.O for a very long time.

rowyn Wed 06-Sept-23 18:46:39

And I should add that I belong to a choir of (very) mature ladies. A new member joined recently and sits next to me in the altos. She has very bad breath! It's OK when singing, as her face/mouth is looking ahead, but a short sideways conversation with her is ghastly!

Nitpick48 Wed 06-Sept-23 18:46:49

When he was at uni my son used to hang his freshly washed clothes indoors on a clothes rack and leave them in a room for a few days. If he left them too long his clothes got very musty as the room didn’t have any ventilation. I had to tell him his clothes smelled horrible. He didn’t have a clue, he couldn’t smell it!

ExaltedWombat Wed 06-Sept-23 21:32:45

If you wash, aren't incontinent and aren't TOO much of a mad cat-lady you probably don't smell too bad in yourself. Do you wear perfume? Lots of men find more than a touch of scent quite unpleasant.

PamQS Thu 07-Sept-23 06:20:05

I dread smelling of wee - though I do everything possible to prevent it! I haven’t noticed anyone I know of around my age having a distinctive ‘old lady’ smell, and I have no idea what that would smell like, so maybe I’m already ‘nose blind’ to it.