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Doodle continuing to pray for you both. Don't worry at all about posting. Look after yourself. We are all thinking about you. Love and hugs. xx

HVDY I knew you'd be snacking!😄
Your gs sounds very sporty indeed.
Your brother is a bit cheeky or lazy, but better to be kind.
In answer to your questions. Books, I will read anything except scary horror or crime. Love reading. Do you read? Do you have time?!
And no I rarely facetime sadly. My DD in England isn't comfortable with it so now I feel awkward. The grandsons facetime the other grandparents with their dad. My son in England only does it if he wants to show me something. My sons family in NI don't really care about seeing us.
I do envy you all seeing your children and having happy family times..
Sorry, this is all about me, and I'm tired again. Back soon.

Doodle Please take care of yourself and if you have anything to help you sleep tonight take it. You need to take care of yourself for your dear husband for when he comes home. I hope the v best of care tomorrow will see you able to talk to whoever you need to and your DH will feel better. Thoughts and prayers with you. Xx

Agree, Sweetpeasue And take care all BD's despite all xx

SweetpeaSue So sorry your pain has been bad again. What a shame the new AD made you feel ill. Had you been told to take it in the morning? I thought all ADs were best taken at night (apparently not) because they can cause drowsiness. I hope you get something sorted out. It was good that you saw all your family. Those times are precious, aren't they? Nice to all get together. I shouldn't think anyone cared that you hadn't got your "face on" when they first arrived. I don't like to be seen without my make-up, though. Sausage rolls - lovely. The fox(es) still comes. I leave 4 chicken drumsticks out every night.

ScaredyCat Brother started doing his wife's washing a couple of weeks ago, but wanted me to do it this time as he said he had a stomach bug - he apparently had diarrhoea ONCE today (that's not a stomach bug). Lovely that you went out for lunch etc with your daughter. Did you manage to buy many presents? I've started buying some (I've got 6 adults and 6 children to buy for, plus 2 birthday presents at Christmas). I do it all online.

Doodle I hope you can manage to rest better tonight. You need to keep well. I hope tomorrow is better for you and your husband.

EllieAnne Hope you manage to get a good price on a train ticket. Hope you sleep better tonight.

nadateturbe I snack far too often (and too much sweet stuff). I used to love reading any real-life crime stories, but I don't seem to retain thing as I should - I prefer now to watch a programme or film. Watched a drama on BBC iPlayer yesterday, called The Sixth Commandment (real life crime), starring Timothy Spall and Ann Reid. It was quite sad but excellent. Do you write to your family, send photos to each other?

Love to ALL BDers, hope everyone has a good sleep x

HVDY I wondered about your foxes. If they dont turn up tonight perhaps fireworks could be blamed. Hope they're ok.
Yes was told to take it morning. I used to take the Citalopram at night. I'm wondering if my having to take 3 doses of my mixed painkiller in the 24 hrs of taking new AD might be to blame. Didnt take it this morning as wanted to be well to say goodbye to my son n fam. Will take it tomorrow morning and see how it goes.
Night all. X

Hvdy I watched that when it was on before. Excellent but very upsetting. I came across a film this afternoon called a very Yorkshire Christmas . It was very predictable but almost had me in tears and I can’t usually cry. I think partly because I am dreading Christmas. It looks like none of the family want us so it’ll just be me and him sitting in silence and different rooms and me forcing down a dinner I don’t want.
I read loads but I do like crime and psychological thrillers.

EllieAnne I'm sorry to hear that. Are you sure no one wants you on Christmas day?
My sons family don't want us at Christmas and don't want to come to us (excuses made).
My husbands group plays at a lunch organised by a local church for people who are lonely. But lots of people go just because they enjoy it. I go too. Perhaps there is something like that, or you could volunteer to help.

Sorry, short post. Back later, just needed to answer EllieAnne.

SweetpeaSue The AD and painkillers might have clashed. Hope it goes ok this morning. Fox (not sure whether 1 or 2) came last night.

EllieAnne Christmas is really just one day. DH and I will be on our own that day. nadateturbe's idea of volunteering somewhere sounds like a good one.

It's bright and sunny here. Going to aqua aerobics soon, then the pub for "brunch". I'll visit SIL this afternoon. The home rang me last night - she'd got into an argument with another resident, and had accused him of being in her room. She was, in fact, in his room (next door to hers) and she'd hit him on the head with a cup, causing a cut. She's never, ever been violent before. They were moving her to a different room. Hope ALL BDers (too many to mention) managed to have a decent day x

I’d be happy to volunteer but that would mean him sitting on his own and I don’t feel right about that. Son 1 and family like a lazy dAy at home and d in l gets very stressed if we go over. I will ask if they want to come but doubt it. Too far away to pop in for presents. Son 2 has already said they are going to his in laws. Again too far to pop in. Dd far away and doesn’t do Christmas anyway. As you say it’s one day. I won’t go to church as I know I couldn’t put a face on.

If you can get through the day with food and drinks, watch a film and read, perhaps, it'll soon go by. I think it's very sad for you (and* your husband to be living like that. Will you see family on other days? We're going to have a curry (husband will cook that) and get some samosas, naans and pakoras from an Indian deli.

Just got home from aqua aerobics, to find I've got a letter saying I've got jury service in January. I've always fancied going, although this is for a Coroner's court - the same as when my brother died in 1975. I was the only credible witness. The fact that the driver who knocked him down and ran over him was drunk, had no tax, insurance, and MOT was not taken into account. The driver got a one year ban (big deal) and a fine.

Visited SIL. Oh dear, she's gone downhill so much. She said all the residents there were twins of each other. Thought she'd been there 18 months, then later said she got there this morning. Said she was "in a bungalow,on-site". Two men there shouting and swearing (every swear word you can imagine) to staff and each other. Brought SIL's washing home (3 binliners full) and have now got most of it in the dryer. Alzheimer's really is awful.

HVDY I'm so sorry to hear about your brother, absolutely shocking sentence. I'm sure you would be excused jury service if you felt unable to cope.
And your poor SiL. Definitely deteriorating sadly. AH is an awful illness . And what a stressful visit.
At least you had a nice morning.

Sweetpeasue How have you been with AD today?
You managed so well yesterday in spite of having had such a bad night. And making sausage rolls too. It was lovely getting together with all the family. Sometimes I think it would be good for family to see me as I am, they might understand how I feel, but in any case its family, I wouldn't worry about d/gown.
Your experience of book group is what I expected and wanted. I don't mind digressing a bit but it was all chat really. It must be nice to be the youngest in the group.
Did your husband ring his GP?
I think you should keep updating your GP about your pain. Or they will think you're OK.

EllieAnne I'm sorry that you will you and your husband will be alone this Christmas. I can see how awful that could be. It is awful for you every weekend too but we all hole that Christmas will be a special family time. We will not be with family this Christmas either but I understand your own predicament is very different. Is it possible to see some family on Boxing Day?
HVDY I understand how people with Alzheimer's and Dementia can quickly deteriorate when in care homes or hospitals and it must have been such a shock to see. It sounds as if your SIL has had a big change since she was moved again and hasn't been able to deal with it. I'm really sorry HVDY.
Nadateturbe I know they wouldnt mind me not being dressed but I just didnt want them to be too worried either. My book group often chats at the expense of discussion though was a doifferent thing when it started in Adult Education with a trained English teacher. I hope you find something suitable with some nice people-it makes all the difference. The thing with my being younger is the class has lost many members who have died and it is not the same now without our teacher, who became a v good friend.

Afraid I had bad night and rang Crisis. I can't cope with the worsening pain and see no point. DH was asleep, I woke him getting back into bed after sleeping on sofa. He was worried and I started in pain again. Took painkiller but needed more. DH went down to make appts for us noth. By time he got through, just 1 left. He told receptionist I could have it. He came up to tell me, I was fuming. I tried to ring back but he wouldn't let me so when this nice GP called me I told him and I handed phone to DH! He had to 'claim' it and he's got the dosage raised, thank goodness. He's to see him in a week, whether or not theyve helped. GP will get in touch with Rheumatologist himself for advice if still not helping. Ive been in pain all day, its getting worse. About 2 dressed to go out with DH but had another bout of severe pain efore car got off drive. So complete right off day. I'm really worried as this bladder pain seems to have been lumped in with CPP label. I will have to see someone - I know that but the Urologist I saw doesn't believe it's my bladder.
Didnt take AD this morning as Id had to take painkillers again and so I'm going to take it tonight. I think it will be best for me as my pain is always there at mornings.
Sorry Ive gone on.

Hope everyone is ok.
Doodle and Wyllow you are both in my thoughts and so hoping you are both ok.

nadateturbe I will go to the jury service. It might be interesting (albeit sad). I can cope with most things, but the letter today reminded me of it all with my brother. I was only 16 then, so I'm different now (naturally). SIL is blissfully unaware of where she is, why, and for how long. She never seems to be anxious or unhappy. Sad for all of us who know what she was like.

SweetpeaSue Alzheimer's IS Dementia (the main type). SIL, thankfully, doesn't remember much, so she won't know what's happening. At one point, she said she'd only been there since this morning. At least there seem to be lots of carers about (probably 9 on duty), as well as 2 nurses. I'm glad your husband has got the steroids increased. I hope they help him. You desperately need some help. I hope the AD at least helps you to sleep.

Doodle Hope you and your husband are getting on ok.
Wyllow3 Hope you're at least managing to eat something.

I hope ALL BDers have a restful evening x

Dementia is very hard on the family of those who have it, I think.
Sweetpeasue the pain you are suffering is shocking. Surely there are tests that could show up something. Sorry if that sounds stupid. But I don't understand you being left like this.

HVDY Being called up for jury service would fill me with horror but to go back into the same surroundings that you were in under those terrible circumstances I would think will be, at the least,
daunting for you. I hope you'll be ok. My DH once did jury service and was surprised that those charged were on such friendly terms with police. Almost like a family. Sorry, about my mistake, of course Alzheimer's is dementia. I was thinking specifically about Vascular Dementia, which my FIL had. He was admitted to hospital and just before he died he asked my DH where his son was which was heartbreakung for my husband. He also asked when his wife was visiting when shed been gone for many yrs. He knew us all before he deteriorated in hospital. I think Vascular is a different type of dementia to Alzheimer's isnt it?
Nadateturbe I think I get so very anxious about not having any diagnosis despite many scans though all of them were looking for problems in uterus where I had pain after the op that went wrong. That has all settled since Hysteroscopy and Laparoscopy last September and stopping bleeding. The Urologist didnt see anything wrong inside my bladder after Distention some mths ago and dismissed it as CPP. Sorry, I know its all quite complicated. I need to go back to GP and say I think something's wrong.
I hope youve been ok today. Did you know 'Between The Covers' a book programme started on BBC 2 today. Think its on BBCIPlayer too.

Scaredycat That sounds like a really enjoyable shopping day with your daughter. Brought back memories for me. You say it reminded you of your old self, was that before the AF? I'm glad you were able to do it. And then a FT with your son, just to complete it. A very satisfying day. Hope you had a good rest after.
I've bought one Christmas present a handmade cushion cover with a picture of a cat, and Christmas earrings for me and my daughter.
I've been a U3A member for a few years, but don't make it to anything now, but I'll make a big effort to get to the reading group, because my brain feels very bored. I so hate having M.E. I've been in bed since 8pm.
I get your point about reading to order, a book someone else has chosen, but I think it would force me to concentrate.

It's interesting that so many of you are football fans. I didn't realise it was do popular. My husband is too, but I have no interest whatsoever.

Doodle thinking about you and your DH, hope you got some sleep and husband is a little better.
Wishing everyone else a good evening and a peaceful sleep. xx

Sorry another 9 till 9 stint at the hospital. DH quite poorly
Hope you’re all ok. Lots of love 💕

SweetpeaSue Vascular Dementia is caused by a reduced blood blow to the brain. Some people have more than one type of Dementia. All types are awful, really. I'll manage the jury duty - DH was envious because he'd like to go. It's not until the beginning of January.

nadateturbe It's good to get started on shopping for Christmas presents, isn't it? I've bought (I do everything online, I hate going round shops, always have) a few for the GDs and also the 2 GC we've "inherited". I've been buying stuff for myself tonight - "teddy fleece" sheets, to make it warmer in bed. Also, a couple of things for my friend's birthday - a book by Noel Fitzpatrick, hand creams, and some Sanctuary Spa stuff. Goin to get ready for bed before I buy anything else!

Doodle 12 hours at the hospital! Don't make yourself ill. Hope your husband soon starts to improve.

Goodnight, BDers. x

Oh Doodle You will be worn out but I understand your need to be with your DH while he's so poorly. I am anxious for you though continue to pray for you both. Its good the weekend is over so more Drs will be there. Much love. Xx

Doodle I too am continuing to pray for you and your husband. I hope you have some family close. Love xx