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Doodle Fri 13-Oct-23 22:36:41

For the support, understanding and sharing of mental health issues.
All are welcome. We treat each other with kindness.

nadateturbe Sat 28-Oct-23 21:43:25

HYDY What a shame that you’ve done all that work and are too tired to meet up. I can’t believe you were exhausted and did ironing even so. And you have baby tomorrow, which I know you’re looking forward to. But you need to rest up tonight, without finding something to do!!
15 shirts, gosh! I hate ironing shirts, when my husband worked he ironed his own. You really are a wonderful mother.
Scaredycat I hope you had a good sleep last night. And I hope those weird effects are lessening. Have you checked to see if it’s withdrawal symptoms? I hope the AF isn’t any worse.
I enjoyed my dear son’s visit, although since his accident, conversation is quite difficult as he repeats a lot from past years. His life changed the day he had his head injury, I just be thankful he is here and refuse to think about the past. He is a very caring person and is happy and I admire his wife so much.
My house is always clean, we’re quite fussy, but I like to have it really sparkling and scented candles etc. when my son visits. I’m always afraid that my house will seem like an old persons house, and that I am not capable.
Sweetpeasue my mum died in 2011. You’ve been without your dear mum a much longer time, but it doesn’t ease. Mums are the most special people. I think , yes, we were blessed with a lovely mother. But no, never ready to lose them.
I’m sorry you’ve been in such pain today. And I sincerely hope you get a break from it tomorrow.
Hello Candy nice to “see” you. I often am too tired to post, as are others, it takes a lot of energy. I hope your iron pills help soon. It’s awful to feel so tired a lot. I too feel like that. My iron was just acceptable, perhaps I’ll try a supplement.
I’m sure your daughter appreciates you being able to help with childcare. Holidays are very difficult for working parents. It’s nice that your son is settling somewhere. We love our children to be ok. We’re happy when they’re happy. You’ll enjoy going to visit him.
Doodle hope you are ok tonight. and your husband is managing to look after you.
EllieAnne hpe yur weekend is ok. It's very wet here, I wonder did you get out.

The book group I intended to join was cancelled yesterday, I'll have to pluck up courage again next week! But I need to push myself. My lack of energy is causing me to become isolated. I'm usually content but a bit bored at the minute.

Enjoying Sixties TV station at the minute. I better go down and pretend to show an interest in the rugby score.
Goodnight everyone.
Remembering all on BD in my prayers.xx

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 28-Oct-23 19:00:10

Whiff Short and sweet, eh. Hope you have a restful evening.

SweetpeaSue Just done Son1's ironing (15 shirts, 8 pairs of trousers) I'm knackered now grin. I've mollycoddled my boys all these years. They'd better look after DH and me when we need it. I hope your pain will ease off soon. Fingers crossed you have a better day tomorrow.

Hope ALL BDers have a relaxing evening. Time to have a shower and get my nightwear on, ready for a lazy evening. Love to all x

Sweetpeasue Sat 28-Oct-23 18:34:31

Candy Hope you will feel netter soon. It does take quite a while for iron tablets to work unfortunately.
Doodle Hope you had a much better rest last night and the pacemaker will soon make a big difference to your energy levels.
HVDY You must be shattered after all that cleaning. Those sons of yours are so lucky to have you to help so much. Enjoy baby tomorrow.

Sorry just short post. Ive had pain all day and still no let up. Hoping tomorrow will be different. Hoping all are ok and EllieAnne your weekend isnt too bad.
Love to all.

nadateturbe Sat 28-Oct-23 17:09:56

Back later when husband is watching the rugby. 🏉

nadateturbe Sat 28-Oct-23 17:07:42

Oh Whiff you made me laugh. Nice to hear from you.x

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 28-Oct-23 15:35:51

How's everyone been? DH and I went to Son1's house (the one he left last week), to help to move the last of his stuff (lots of boxes and bags full - I don't know how 1 man and 2 kids have amassed such a lot). Thoroughly cleaned the place - all windows/frames/doors, skirtings wiped. Vacuumed throughout, and mopped. Brought a lot of ironing back here with me (I'll tackle it later). Both sons and their families are meeting up this evening, asked if DH and I wanted to join them all, but we declined (we feel worn out). Looking forward to a lazy evening now x

Whiff Sat 28-Oct-23 15:00:58

Doodle home not hope. 🤦

Whiff Sat 28-Oct-23 15:00:09

Just a quick . I know don't be shocked 😱. Very tired today.

Just wanted to say glad you are hope Doodle and everything went well. Just rest and heal. 🌹

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 28-Oct-23 09:28:19

Nadaterturbe I hadn't realised your mum had dementia. It's an awful disease, isn't it. My SIL directs her anger towards her husband (my brother). My mum's been gone 28 years now, and dad 23. Still miss them.

SweetpeaSue Hope your husband gets the steroids sorted out soon. Hope the Sertraline helps you. Is that instead of the AD you've been on?

Doodle Glad you're back home. Try to rest as much as you can. My friend's husband had a pacemaker a couple of years ago, and he's been very well since.

ScaredyCat It's good that you've had one of your meds stopped, although perhaps you'll get some withdrawal effects for a while?

Candy6 How long have you been on the Iron tablets? They take a week or 2 to start having an effect. I have days when I can do a fair amount, but then I don't do so much the following day. I hope your son's move goes well. It's good when our children are happy and settled, isn't it? Enjoy the childminding of your daughter's children.

Wyllow3 I hope you're looking after yourself as much as possible.

EllieAnne I hope you manage to see a friend or perhaps go for a walk today.

It's grey and miserable out. DH is still in bed, the lazy hound grin. DIL sent me a photo (as she does daily) of baby enjoying a rusk - she's 4 months now. Looking forward to seeing her tomorrow. Hope ALL BDers have a better day today x

Wyllow3 Fri 27-Oct-23 23:09:26

I do read everyone everyday but don't want to single folks out. I am very isolated and ill but cant share or respond- part of the illness - sending best wishes xx

Candy6 Fri 27-Oct-23 22:59:25

Hi all, I’ve not been posted for a while but I have read and caught up. I read then want to post but I’m either too exhausted or have something to do which stops me. I do think of everyone though. I’ve started taking iron for my tiredness/low energy. Saw the GP who said my B12 is fine but my iron is at the lower end of “normal”. Apparently the normal range is between 20 and 300 and mine is 39 so yes, it’s quite low. Haven’t noticed any benefit yet but it’s early days. My son also tells me he knows someone who is also on ADs (think it’s Sertraline, same as mine) whose a fitness instructor but needs to do her classes morning and late afternoon as she needs at least 2 hours sleep early afternoon since taking the meds. I’m pretty Much the same but unfortunately don’t always get the opportunity to sleep for a few hours mid afternoon! I’m hoping the iron helps.

Doodle I’m sorry you’ve been unwell but it sounds as if you’ve had the correct treatment. My Dad had a pacemaker and it made such a difference, I hope you are the same. I remember when I was very young, I had an uncle with very serious heart problems and when he had a pacemaker it was major surgery at a big specialist cardiac hospital some miles away. When my dad had it, it was in a side room on the ward he was on. It’s amazing how things move on. You need to get plenty of rest now, it really is surprising what a difference it makes.

HVDY you’ve been so busy. You must have a lot of energy to do all those things. You are so supportive of your sons, they must really appreciate you. You’ll have a busy weekend too, looking after the baby. My son’s moving next week too. Hubby is going down to help him but I need to stay here as it’s half term and my daughter would struggle without childcare. I’m going to go and see it in a few weeks when they’re settled. I’m so happy for him. It’s nice that your sons are settled too. We always feel better when our children are doing ok I think. Hope your legs are not aching today and Tht your DH’s meds are sorted soon.

Nadaterturbe hope you enjoyed your lunch with your son today and glad you managed to get your house looking nice. I’m sure it was ok anyway but always make us feel better about it when we’ve had a good cleaning session.

Sweetpeasue hope you are feeling better today and that your DH’s meds are sorted too.

Scaredycat hope you have a nice rest tonight.

Wyllow thinking of you as always.

* Ellie Anne* hope you are ok this weekend and things aren’t too bad for you.

Thinking of everyone not personally mentioned and hope all have a restful night xxxx

nadateturbe Fri 27-Oct-23 22:50:43

Goodnight Scaredycat. Hope you have a good sleep. Talk tomorrow.
EllieAnne hope your cold hasn't got any worse.
Goodnight to everyone else. Hope you are all OK.xx

Scaredycat Fri 27-Oct-23 22:03:16

Hi all.
HVDY- Glad you had a bit more restful day - soon it,ll be Baby time and you,ll need plenty of energy for that . Bet you can’t wait to spend some time with her.
You can’t help feeling annoyed when your G P doesn’t ring as promised. Yet another call for you to make!!
Nadateturbe- hope you enjoyed your sons visit. I know what you mean about not wanting your AC to think we cannot cope.
Although I don’t suppose they take much notice!!
Lunch sounded nice- M and S do nice ‘picky’ food don’t they.
Doodle- so glad to hear you are home now. Try and rest as much as possible - your own bed will feel lovely tonight. There is a thread about pacemakers on GN which started very recently - it might be interesting for you.
Sleep well and take care of yourself - you have been through a lot.
SweetPeaSue- sorry you had pain yesterday - you must wake every day and wonder what it will bring.
Good you had a long talk to the Psychiatrist and hope the Sertraline helps - it’s what I am taking.
Must have been lovely to see your Son - I mainly see mine on FaceTime and lov3 to chat.
Your jumper could look great over a fitted top.
Not a nice book to have to read- as you say life at the moment is bad enough.
Wyllow- sending a hug and hope you are being seen after.

When I saw the Cardiologist on Monday he stopped one of my meds as it wasn’t working anymore. I had been taking it for 6 years - have felt a bit weird so guess it’s a bit of withdrawal. Happy not to take it though. Very tired again so off to bed now. Love to all BDers - sleep well xx

Sweetpeasue Fri 27-Oct-23 21:56:38

Nadateturbe Will try the shirt underneath sweater if I can puzzle out how to attatch it's sleeves 😐
I understand those moments, like your going for the keys. I used to think I would call my mum then suddenly remember. It's 23 yrs since my mum died. I think we can just be thankful we had them there for the time we did but dont think we're ever ready are we.
There was no warning on that book and I think there should have been.
Hope you sleep tonight.

nadateturbe Fri 27-Oct-23 21:05:58

lift my keys.
bad day.
sertraline.

I should have previewed. 😏

nadateturbe Fri 27-Oct-23 21:04:09

Doodle so glad you're home. I'm sure your husband is glad too. I hope you have a good night in your own bed. Take it easy and look afteryourself. . x
Sweetpeasue thank you, my mum died 11 years ago. I have got to the stage where I remember the good times, but I so miss her every day. rarely had a week when I didn't visit 2-3 times. Sometimes even now I almost left my keys to pop out to have a chat with her.
I thought you were having a vad day yesterday, I hope today is better and your husband gets some help. And I hope the serialise works for you.
It was nice to see your son, always gives us a lift to see our children.
Thanks for telling me about the book I was going to get it. Sounds a very unpleasant read.
Perhaps you could wear a shirt underneath your sweater.

Sweetpeasue Fri 27-Oct-23 20:27:24

Doodle You're home. So glad. Naturally you will be exhausted so take it easy. Much love.

Sweetpeasue Fri 27-Oct-23 20:22:54

Doodle Good of you to post when you must be feeling v tired and overwhelmed with such a lot that's happened. You will need some time to adjust, I am guessing, and you will want to be home to your lovely husband. I hope that will be soon, then you can enjoy some privacy and quiet. I really want to send you another warm hug thats truly meant. Hope you have a restful night. x
HVDY You really worked hard yesterday. Your sons must be so thankful for all your efforts. You deserved a rest today. Oh no the promised call that didn't come asking about your DHs inhaler. Its so awful having to constantly be calling to put things right. My DH is as bad as the beginning with his pains. The usual 15mg Prednisolone starting dose can't have worked so why the GP lowered it to 12half last week Ive no idea. Tuesday a different GP raised it back to 15mg but he's still quite bad. It will be phoning surgery again on Monday. Iwill be writing 'instructions' for DH but I wish it could be F2F then I could be there with him. Hate feeling a bloody nuisance HVDY but how else can we get anything done?
Nadateturbe I was very sorry to hear your mum had Dementia. Its such an awful disease and so terribly disturbing for those nearest to witness. Truly heartbreaking. I know you are right in that its not really 'them' that can come out with upsetting things or act in strange ways.
Hope your book club is enjoyable. I feel I should mention the book The Paper Palace as I know you were interested. I started to read it the other day and was disgusted. Not far in there was a graphic scene of incest with two young children and their father. I looked up some reviews online(Goodreads) and apparently others in the book so Ive binned it. It turns my stomach and there's enough upsetting stuff going on without that. I know its trendy for cropped jumpers which was why I didn't go by measurements in pattern-- but it looks as if it will end above the waist 😂. When Ive put it together I'll see if something can be worn underneath.
Scaredycat Hope you've been ok today and the AF hasnt been too troubling. Yes my DH knows I only l only (tell him what to do) advise with his health because I care. 😊

Couldnt come in yesterday as pain on afternoon and evening. As I said earlier DH not great today - needs steroids increased I think. Had long appt with Psychiatrist and agreed to try Sertraline. Saw son for 1st time this afternoon since he returned and we caught up.

Hope all BDs not mentioned are ok.
Wyllow Do hope you're ok and are not completely isolated from everyone. Sending love.

Doodle Fri 27-Oct-23 19:56:29

Hello all thanks for the kind thoughts. Just got home and I’m exhausted. Hope to catch up soon.
Love to all x

nadateturbe Fri 27-Oct-23 19:46:33

Good evening Doodle. Hospitals are not the most restful places. Glad you're not too bad. Hope you get home soon and that your husband is OK. xx

nadateturbe Fri 27-Oct-23 19:42:06

HVDY lunch at mine is not like lunch at yours. Simple affair. Baguettes with cheese ham coleslaw. Although it was M&S 😁
We couldn't eat much at lunchtime.
In fact we dont even usually eat all that. We could only manage soup at teatime.
Yes better to ring I think. The GP was probably very busy and forgot. I remember the time when you were told to make a follow-up appointment on the way out. Those were the days...

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 27-Oct-23 18:55:02

nadateturbe Nice that you saw your son. No, we mustn't let our AC think we're getting old grin. What did you have for lunch?

Doodle Glad you're doing alright. Get as much rest as possible, hope you're home soon.

How's everyone been today? DH went to Son2's house, did whatever the job was, then helped a bit in his garden. I stayed at home and did a bit of ironing and lounged about. The GP was meant to have been ringing DH yesterday of today, to ask how he's getting on with the inhaler she gave him 2 weeks ago. She didn't ring, and the inhaler has made no difference at all....... I'll be ringing the surgery next week. Hope ALL BDers have a relaxing evening x

Doodle Fri 27-Oct-23 13:35:05

Thanks all. Doing ok but a bit stiff in the shoulder. Lots going on here as you can imagine. Hospitals always seem full of people. Hope to be home soon.
Take care all and thanks for the messages. x

nadateturbe Fri 27-Oct-23 11:37:23

Hope your legs are feeling better HVDY maybe rest in between ironing. You're such a helpful mother.
My son is coming for lunch today. House is spick and span. (Phew!) Can't have him thinking we can't manage.🙂
Sweetpeasue hope you are OK, and everyone else and are having a good reasonably good day.
Good morning Doodle.

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 27-Oct-23 09:31:17

It's a grey, misty day here. DH is going to Son2's house soon, to do some jobs. I'll do some ironing (exciting stuff).

Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day. x

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