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Best wishes Doodle xxx

Doodle- sending love and best wishes for you today. Hope everything goes wellxx

HVDY- Happy Birthday !! Hope you have a brilliant day - you deserve it.🎂🎂🎂🎂🍾🍾🍾🍾

Oh bums , I nearly forgot. Happy Birthday HVDY! 🎂
Have a great celebration with your family. 🤸‍♀️🥂🎉🎈🍰🍸 xxxx

Sending love and best wishes and prayers for today Doodle.

Happy birthday HVDY have a lovely day!

"Oh bums!" Sweetpeasue 😁

Back later...

Happy birthday HVDY
Op over. All ok I think. Can’t move much. Take care all x

Doodle- so glad it’s over and all is well. Time for rest and recuperation- sending love and all best wishesxxx

That's good Doodle. Just rest and recover . Sending love and a hug.xx

Sending love Doodle. So good of you to let us know. x

Sweetpeasue thanks for your lovely post to me on Sunday (where does the time go?).
It's not a definite diagnosis (for now) but at least the neurologist believes all the symptoms are genuine. It's great to hear you understand the lack of acceptance of M E. It's hard to live with. But I'm not going to worry about which I have, unless symptoms get worse.
I understand what you say about not getting used to being a different person. I don't accept it, what I meant was, we get so used to coping with so much that we forget just how much we are coping with on a daily basis, but maybe that's a good thing. Deep inside we are the same person, just adjusting to our circumstances. And I know what you mean. Mostly we manage, because we know/hope tomorrow will be better, but then sometimes it becomes too much and we want to scream with frustration. But that feeling passes. I think as Scaredycat says we have to live each day as best we can, which you seem to do very well. And be content.

I'm sorry you were in such pain on Sunday night. It's difficult deciding how much and what meds to take. And what works one time may not work the next. And sometimes it might be better to anticipate the pain, and take before it starts, because the most annoying thing is how long it takes them to work.
You say your tongue is improving which is great news, but I thought you had had the biopsy on it. Do you mean it's just getting better without treatment? (Oh to have a memory!)
I hope the psychiatrist was some help yesterday and it's great the ADs are helpful.
It's true about children. We worry, but I'm very loath to ask questions and would never give advice. It's not easy being a parent.
I think it would be nice to get your ears pierced again. I love wearing earrings, especially hoopies.

Yesterday I went to our Cathedral in Belfast and joined the lunchtime prayers. I made myself go in, I was very nervous but no need. I haven't made it to church for a long time, so it was nice to pray with others.

Doodle So pleased your op is over with. Best wishes for a quick recovery. Rest up now.

Thanks, all. I had a lovely day - each family member texted me early this morning. A friend got me a voucher to have my nails done, another friend gave me wine and hand cream. DH and I has lunch at a posh restaurant, then some friends came round with flowers. All the family were here after they'd finished work, and gave me some gorgeous gifts (a lot of cat-themed things, too), including a Murder Mystery meal and overnight stay in York, for July (joint gift with DH). Tired now. Hope all BDers have a restful night x

Good evening Scaredycat HVDY Candy EllieAnne Whiff and anyone else on BD. Talk to you tomorrow.
I'm afraid it's taken a while to write my last post.
Wishing you all a peaceful night.x

Really lovely day HVDY. Goodnight. x

Evening
So glad it’s all done Doodle. Take time now to recover.
HVDY happy birthday. Glad you had a nice day xx
Love and thoughts with everyone else. Catch up soon. Night all xx

Caught up...night night and love to all BD's. xx

What a lovely day hvdy.
doodle praying for a good recovery.

HVDY sorry I didn't wish you happy birthday yesterday but glad you had such a wonderful time. Murder mystery sounds fun. Hope you guess who the murderer is .

Doodle wonderful news the op is over. Just take your time to heal both physically and mentally as the worry over your husbands and your health will have taken its toll. Hopefully with the warmer weather ahead you will both be a lot better and ready to enjoy the summer .

Everyone else looks after yourselves .

HVDY- Glad you had a lovely day- great pressies too. So nice to hear of a happy day. Xx

Doodle Hoping you're comfortable and not in too much discomfort or pain. Try to rest and not worry and let family take the reins for a little while. Hope you can be home soon where you will surely feel more contented back with DH. Much love. xxx
HVDY What a lovely day you had yesterday. So many thoughtful gifts and remembered by friends too. I've never heard of a Murder/ mystery meal, do let us know how that goes.
Hope your brother is OK and isn't closing himself off too much.
Nadateturbe Thankyou for your kind and understanding post.
The concern about your symptoms not being believed is familiar with me. No reason why they shouldn't be, but when there's no definitive test ( or the tests are too invasive and not strictly necessary) you need to be believed. Your description of taking painkillers at the right time is so true and its not easy to get the balance right.
Also- "Mostly we manage because we hope/ believe tomorrow might be better...." oh so true. Then if it isn't- the frustration and sometimes despair. I get concerned that others won't understand because they don't see you in pain so can't believe the condition and may think I'm making excuses or can't be bothered to visit/ make arrangements or whatever. After a late start this morning ,because of pain, we got out for a few things and visited son but my pain was coming back so I had to leave as soon as we arrived which was upsetting. I'd not seen him since he came back last week.
Yes, just biopsy on tongue. Luckily although still small lump underneath tongue the side bit I was biting must have decreased as I'm not biting it any more and not bothering me at all. I postponed op ( which was next Mon) and Dr calling me in couple of mths time.

I've been googling places to get ears pierced and came across best/ safest ways. Haha. Too much info now. Yrs ago we all just went to jewellers and had the 'gun' thing.
I started saying 'bums!' when sons were little and caused them to chuckle so it's just stuck with me.😂
I haven't been to church for a long time so think I'd be the same at our local one but your Belfast Cathedral sounds lovely , it must be beautiful. We once joined a service at York Minster when we were having a day out and it was so special.
Hope you're having a reasonably good day.

How is everyone today? Dry here at last -yah! That's something though still overcast.

HVDY I love how adventurous you are with your nails and hair colour!
It was nice your friend remembered your birthday. Your gifts all sounded very good.
I agree, we need to make the most of our family, this is why my aunts and cousins all meet regularly. We realised we only all met up for funerals. Family are so important I think.

Thanks, everyone, for the birthday wishes. The day centre people gave me a card today, and sang Happy Birthday. I took a lot of cupcakes in, to share.

SweetpeaSue DH and I went to a Murder Mystery evening, years ago. It was a 3 course meal at a lovely hotel, then we sat in groups, a cast of actors came in, each as a different character, telling their story. We had to try to work out, from what they'd said, who the murderer was. It was quite entertaining but we didn't guess correctly. This one is going to be in York, not until July. My brother IS closing himself off - he didn't answer the 'phone earlier, and his replies to my texts are just a few words. I'll go and see him on Saturday (out with DH's sister tomorrow)

Hope ALL BDers have a relaxing evening x

Candy hope you made it ok on Wednesday morning, I think I would have been walking in my sleep.

Scaredycat it's great to have a Skechers outlet store close. They really are comfy.
I think as we get older and have health problems we realise how important it is to enjoy and make the most of each day. Our housework has decreased rapidly recently. We still keep important areas clean and do kitchen and bathroom thoroughly every weekend, but if we feel good especially if the weather is nice, out we go. I just wish I had listened to advice about this years ago. My MiL had a saying "The house will be there when you're not". 😃.
It's sad when family live far away, I agree. But what can you do. It's a different relationship totally to living close to each other, and I don't think one can ever get used to it, but things like facetime help. I'm glad you can do that with your son.

Sweetpeasue sorry you had to come home again, but you did manage to get out and do some shopping which is good.
It's terrible to not be believed or to be doubted, very frustrating especially in your case when you could be helped more if you were listened to.
I so empathise with you, the only thing I liked during the pandemic was that there was no pressure, no need to make excuses for not doing things/ meeting up with folk.
I've got to the stage a bit, where I don't care what others think. I got my consultants report today and he mentioned M.E. in inverted commas, clearly indicating his doubt of its existence. I am now going to spend £200 on another appointment, getting him to interpret it and say what it means for me. What is the point in sending a patient a report with very medical terms which is just gobbledegook? Even my gp won't understand it.

I googled ear piercing and you are right, so much information and advice. I'm glad we had no Internet years ago when I got mine done. It even tells you not to sleep on your side. I think I would just ignore that. I'm sure it will be fine. Its only a tiny hole in your earlobe. And wearing earrings makes you feel nice I think.
I'm sure York Minster was lovely. I'd love to go. I love English churches and Cathedrals, they are so full of history. My DD and I attended an Easter week service in Windsor once.
I think it's a good idea to postpone the op, if your tongue seems better, as long as you keep monitoring it to be safe.
Hope you're feeling a bit better and get to see your son again soon.x

Night night BD's xx