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Doodle Sat 16-Mar-24 16:49:37

For the support, understanding and sharing of mental health issues.
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Sweetpeasue Sat 27-Apr-24 19:23:24

Oh dear! Can't believe I've written all that and without hardly any paragraphs( which I keep meaning to do) Sorry all.

Sweetpeasue Sat 27-Apr-24 19:21:50

Doodle Oh I do hope the Dr came and could help your DH's wheezing. I'm so sorry he's not so good today. You will be anxious and it must be so hard to see your DH unwell . I think as Scardy says you might be feeling the cold more because you are so low in spirits, which is impossible not to be with so much to face. I hope your DH isn't cold -if he is perhaps the ward needs to be warmer. Sending love, Doodle, and wishing and praying for you to have strength. Do look after yourself -I hope your room is warm when you go back it to sleep. x
Scaredycat That's a good way to look at some things that older age can take away from us--'that it's their turn now'. It's so true in many ways. It was lovely to admire the views from the top of mountains but there is just as much beauty from the lower areas and I think we learn to appreciate it more. Hope you have managed to keep warm on any walks -its not getting any milder is it?
HVDY What a carry on trying to get an inhaler. When you're not feeling well it's the last thing you want. Why are simple things so difficult lately? I hope you soon start getting some benefit from it ,you've had that cough a while now.
Nadateturbe I expect going to the funeral has taken it out of you energywise . It takes a lot of effort to speak to people you might not have seen for a while but also ,speaking for myself now, but it can be quite a struggle to find the right things to say too. Emotionally things like that can be draining. Hope you managed to sleep a little better last night.
Whiff Those works are lovely to see. As someone who has tried some cross-stitch pictures I know how much concentration and time it takes. I have 2 unfinished works because I've gone wrong with the counting and it puts all the other numbers out of sync and I can't get them right. I think I remember that you have done your own designs too- that's so clever. I do hope you have a good holiday, you so deserve it after putting in so much work to arrange everything on your own. You are a brave person and so independent. You cope with so much.
Wyllow What Whiff has said is true-about good nutrition helping mind/body- but its so difficult when you're feeling low. If you can possibly try to include some quick nutritious snacks it will help -even energy bars or nuts? I remember you liked to use some lovely scented body cream/lotions. I guess that might be too much effort --just trying to think of what might help you. Do you go out at all for food? Being in the garden close to nature would help perhaps-even if you need to be wrapped up well- just to sit in a chair and breathe some air and hear the birds. I hate for you to suffer loneliness even though you might want to be alone.

Sorry to miss some of you out-I wanted to address all -I'll try tomorrow.

Got back today and so tired. Last couple of days had quite a bit of pain and DH still headaches but it's been so good for us to get away and live in such beautiful surroundings. The panoramic views around the house were so beautiful and just being there and watching the lamb's being born was very special. We saw 4 sheep give birth and the last 1 was quite harrowing last night. It was dark and we stayed up for 1 lamb and this morning saw the other one. So relieved the poor mum was OK and munching grass like nothing had happened! I was a mess last night! 🫣
So tired so wishing all a restful night and quiet mind.x

Scaredycat Sat 27-Apr-24 17:21:04

Doodle- it’s unusual to be cold on a ward- I think you are down both in mind and body and it’s affecting you.Can you have a warm drink when you want? Hope you have seen the Doctor by now and he’s been able to give you some reassurance. It must be so difficult for you to watch your DH having to struggle so.
HVDY- thank goodness you have your inhaler now- what a palaver it was to get it though! Glad you,re getting an X ray to get your chest checked out.
What a nice day visiting your Sons ex. It shows what nice people you are to still be friends after so long. I feel like you about the upheaval of decorating or any work in the house. We had the boiler serviced this week and I couldn’t wait for the man to go - and he was really nice.
SweetPeaSue- thanks for the lovely photos- those little,lambs will be boinging about soon. Great reason to pop a cork or two - wetting lambs heads!!
Yes it does make you a bit envious when you see people doing stuff that you used to be able to do but I just think “It’s their turn now” . I,m so pleased you are enjoying your break - it was a good idea to take M nd S meals so not too much cooking..
Whiff- your Craft work is lovely such vibrant colours and will look great framed. It sounds a fantastic Group and one in which everyone is very comfortable and confident with each other. As usual a nice interesting post.
Candy- hope you enjoyed your time with your Son - it always goes so quickly doesn’t it. Hope you - and the dog- had a good sleep. MyDD has 2 cats who sleep on her bed and are always ready at the right time!
Wyllow- Maybe what Doodle suggests would be an idea. Could you order some plants on line and plant a couple of pots? I seem to remember you posting a picture of your garden once- it was pretty.
Do your Quaker friends call you sometimes? It would be so good for you to be able to work towards going out for a coffee.
Take care Wyllow we all care a great deal for you.
Nadateturbe- hope the funeral didn’t take too much out of you- it’s always so hard to see those we love feeling sad.
Love to all

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 27-Apr-24 17:04:33

Doodle Thank you. The inhaler isn't making any difference (yet), but I'll keep on with it. It's a shame your husband isn't feeling well, he seemed to be picking up a bit yesterday. Hope the doctors have seen him.

Doodle Sat 27-Apr-24 13:38:34

Whiff your craft group sounds such fun. No wonder you like going.
HVDY hope you’ve got your inhaler now and it helps.
I am sitting here listening to DH wheezing and waiting for the doctor to come and see him. He’s not feeling at all well today
Wyllow could you try one small thing a day? Have you got a garden you can go into for 5 mins?

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 27-Apr-24 07:58:30

Doodle That's unusual for the ward to be cold - those places are usually far too hot. Glad your husband is making some progress now. Fingers crossed, it won't be long before he's home with you.

Wyllow3 As you tell us, koko. Do you think you'll manage to sit in your garden when the weather's better? Vitamin D is important, and a bit of fresh air and sunshine is good for the mood and aids sleep.

Whiff The GP has been hopeless. I had to ask for an inhaler and then ring up again because he hadn't sent the prescription to the chemist. Your craft group sounds great. It's good that you've found something you enjoy going to. I love the pictures you (and your SIL) have done, especially the zebras. How long did that one take you to do? It looks quite intricate.

It's a bright, sunny morning. I'm going to get this place cleaned up later. The sun is shining on all the dust grin. Hope ALL BDers see some sunshine today x

Whiff Sat 27-Apr-24 07:13:36

HVDY hopefully the inhaler helps and getting a X ray may lead on to other tests . But at least your GP seems to be on the ball.

Sweetpeasue your pics are lovely. I go away on the 6th until 10th. I don't like travelling on the train of a weekend. As it's my first holiday for 19 years only going for the 4 nights . Taking this easy as I don't want anything to stop me enjoying it.

My craft group is at my local library started by 2 friends who wanted more social life. They are in there 30's and 40's. I joined a week after moving here . My daughter had taken me to join the library and saw a sign for it . So I just went . I had set myself some goals once I moved here . Join a sit fit class and craft group was the 2 main ones. Did both. As I have said I like routine it's how I have always been but instead of thinking I was weird turns out others with HPX are the same . It's how we cope with our condition.

We have a large room at the library with a loo and kitchen . It doesn't cost anything as the library encourages groups to use it's space there are various groups for all ages. Craft group is mixed media I cross stitch . Others knit and or crochet , use colouring books for adults. I didn't know but pain management and mental health departments give them to patients as it's a way of coping with their problems . As the designs are complex and friends have said it takes their mind off everything while they are doing it.

My grandson told me not long ago when colouring in with him I was getting better at staying in the lines he's 6. My hands tremble all the time my right is especially bad. Hence the pencil can go anywhere so have to concentrate on keeping it still. It's the same during my sit fit class I have to concentrate on making my limbs do what is asked if us.Eg one exercise we have to do toe taps with extended legs . Unless I look at my feet and make them stay in a straight line they do there own thing.

This will sound easy but we do an exercise called shot the thumb you have to make your thumb and fire finger into a gun and touch your opposite thumb with your forefinger and keep swapping doing it quickly. Sounds simple 🤣 but try it. We do a lot of laughing during class as many of us get mugged up . Monday have to take a tea towel no idea wait for our instructor just said what and see. We use ankle weights , resistance bands long and circular.

Anyway back to my craft group. We used to keep our drink and biscuit supply in a box without a lid in the kitchen . Last year they used that room for voting so I brought a larger box with a lid and wrote on every side Thursday craft group only. Someone stole our coffee and sugar. So I complained to the library staff and they keep our box in their work room for us. So Easter and Christmas I bake them a cake as a thank you and they get any left over cake or biscuits after our class. There is no obligation from any member of our group to supply anything for our box but we do buy things for it. Our male member brought 4 mugs and some teaspoons. When running low on things it's usually me who says what we need. We have teabags and decaf teabags,coffee,fruit and herbal teas ,instant hot chocolate ,sugar . One of our group brought an air tight biscuit container. Paper plates, kitchen roll , antiseptic wipes and I put a spare roll of loo paper just incase there isn't any but it's not been needed yet.

I am always early so I set up the room and wipe down the tables . There is a Wednesday art group but they never wipe down the tables . So always bits of paint on them. The library staff put up signs but no ones takes any notice. Which annoys me. As we always make sure mugs that we use out of the cupboard plus our own are washed up and dried. I take a tea towel every week.

There are still 3 others that where there when I first joined. People come and go when they can. But some like me go every week. No matter how much pain we are in or how bad our mobility is. It wasn't a group for people with health problems it's just worked out that way.

When I first joined I had the limb jerks . I explained about my problems and during that first class.my left arm jerked and my cross stitch flew across the room we where in at the time not the room we use now . It was picked up for me and no own batted an eyelid. I felt at home. And my craft group are real friends who help eachother other outside craft group. We have a WhatsApp group as we all felt isolated during Covid lockdowns so one of the ones who started it set up the group . So we are in contact with eachother . We aren't for everyone as people come but don't stay . We are loud ,rude and talk about anything and everything thing. Think there are 20 of us but as some work or like one of the leaders at college and going to uni this year come when they can. But we all keep in touch with eachother.

They have made my sister in law a.member as I share her work with them and their work with her . But far to travel 3 hours every week for her to come. No craft group by her but she goes to different craft courses with friends. But she mainly crochets ,needle felts. I love it when I visit and they come here because we craft together. Hopefully they will come to stay and be here on a Thursday so my brother can take us. Usually they come off a weekend so they can see my daughter and boys. They bring Aggie their jack Russell she never forgets me as we only see eachother twice a year. But in constant contact with them.

As you can tell my craft group is very important to me. So is my sit fit class but once it's over go out separate ways. Can't remember if I have showed you any of my work . I have posted on the cross stitch thread. It's a slow craft which I like and do counted cross stitch. Funny enough it's the only time my hands don't tremble.
Any way rambled on as usual. Take care everyone.

The owls are my sister in law's work done in needle felting put it into a box frame so it doesn't get dusty. The 2 cross stitch are my latest work just need framing to go on my wall. Hope you like them .

Wyllow3 Sat 27-Apr-24 00:07:39

Hi to Candy lots of upheaval.

Glad you have the inhaler at long last, HVDY

More healing wishes Doodle - a tough time.

At home not going out and isolated is so bad for me - I think about it the evening before - then I wake up and don't want to dress seems to just ko atm and its so bad for me!

best nights xx

Doodle Fri 26-Apr-24 19:47:00

HVDY yes I have my iPad with me but don’t actually use it much, just seems to be so much to do here helping DH with this and that.
Glad you’ve got an X-ray booked and inhaler. Hoping it will help.
nadateturbe hope the funeral went as well as these things can. I expect you are quite exhausted now. Hope you have a restful night tonight.
Sweetpeasue 🤣. I wonder what those men thought,
Glad you are enjoying yourself, your photos are lovely.
Enjoy yourself and relax.
Candy glad you’ve got your decorating done. Hope you have a good visit with your son.
Thanks Wyllow I do so want him home. Sleep well.
Scaredycat and Ellie Anne hope you have a good weekend.
I am freezing. It’s so cold here in this ward at the hospital. The air conditioning is on. DH still progressing slowly. Walked a few steps today with the aid of two nurses. Such an effort for him just to put one foot in front of the other.
Take care all x

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 26-Apr-24 15:36:09

SweetpeaSue I did an online consultation form to the GP, at 8am. Had a text at 9ish to say the inhaler was at Asda's pharmacy, also a text with details of who to ring for the chest x-ray appointment (next Tuesday). I've used the inhaler twice so far. What's the weather like? It's sunny here now.

Candy6 Hope you had a nice time with your son. Our place needs decorating but I hate the thought of the upheaval.

How's everyone been? DH and I visited Son1's ex (from 15 yrs ago), had a lovely buffet lunch. She showed us round their new, 4-bedroomed house (I'm envious), and she gave me the birthday presents she'd got me. Lovely day x

Candy6 Thu 25-Apr-24 23:31:59

Hi all, sorry I’ve not been present. Went to see my son last weekend then on Monday, DH started to decorate our lounge where our internet hub is so it had to be disconnected as sockets etc were being moved. All done now so I have caught up briefly. Dog giving me evils now as he wants to go to bed (he sleeps with me) so I will catch up properly over the weekend. Hope everyone is as well as possible and I have been thinking about you all. Night night xx

Wyllow3 Thu 25-Apr-24 23:24:22

Love to all and struggles
Hoping that MrD can be home with you soon Doodle
Night night to all xx

nadateturbe Thu 25-Apr-24 22:40:06

Sorry, not up to posting much. Funeral today.
HVDY hope you get inhaler soon. Sweetpeasue lovely posts.
Scaredycat I understand now about the walking. It's hard to accept. But as you say, at least you're out in the fresh air.
Thanks all of you (and Whiff) for kind comments about painting.
Doodle thinking of you, sending much love, and praying for you both.x

Talk tomorrow. Hope you have a peaceful night.xx

Sweetpeasue Thu 25-Apr-24 22:20:19

HVDY That's really not good enough. I hope you get some answers tomorrow from your surgery.

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 25-Apr-24 21:49:54

SweetpeaSue What gorgeous photos. You're very close indeed to nature, aren't you. The little lambs are lovely. I don't blame you for having a celebratory drink.

Well, DH went to Asda at 6, to collect my inhaler - the doctor hadn't sent the prescription through. I rang the surgery, got the answer machine saying the surgery was shut, nobody to take the call. I'll have to contact them again tomorrow. Frustrating.

Hope ALL BDers manage to have a good night's sleep x

Sweetpeasue Thu 25-Apr-24 19:54:01

Hope these turn out.

Sweetpeasue Thu 25-Apr-24 19:44:34

Raised area of garden at house full of bluebells.

Sweetpeasue Thu 25-Apr-24 19:42:16

Whiff Hope you're enjoying your holiday(not sure if you're away yet). Fully understandable about the precious memories of places with your DH. That would be very hard. You've been to Saltburn by the sea- that's only a few miles from us! Lovely thoughtful post to Wyllow.
HVDY I fear you'd be quite disappointed with our diet here- been very simple though we had a lovely egg mayo sandwich with side salad at Brysons the other day! I brought a couple of M&S ready meals with us too. Broke my t-total rule after nearly 2mths. Well I had to celebrate and wet the lamb's head!
EllieAnne Been thinking about you and hoping you're OK and finding some pleasure in meeting up with a few friends.
Scaredycat It's very cold here too though weather has been dry apart from a couple of nightly showers. It's hard when you can't walk as fast , I agree, but as you say we're grateful to be able to still walk at all.Admit to a little envy when I see those who can still climb the fells.
Nadateturbe Hope you're OK and are sleeping better. My DH really liked your bluebell painting. Like HVDY said- I think it would make a lovely framed painting for your home and would not be out of place in any gallery. My DH has tried waterpaints a few times but he says he finds them difficult. He picked up a book on waterpainting from a charity shop yesterday so might be having another try.
Wyllow You are much cared for here and we all just want you to be well and feel some normality and hope in your life. Please koko and eventually you will get there I'm sure. A big hug coming for you.x

* Candy*Nanny**Allsorts Hope you're all OK. So sorry if left anyone out.

After seeing 2 more sheep birthing( they seem to often have2) I saw one yesterday and she was really struggling. I found it quite upsetting and was so anxious I started blubbing. We sat on the bench and then after a short while the sheep eventually managed to push it out. Phew!! I was on the edge of asking DH to go and get the farmer(which I know is quite ridiculous - we can't even see the farm from where we are). The others all came out feet first whereas this one was head first. I was so looking forward to seeing them skip about but it's been an eye-opener this time!
Sun has just come out and its beautiful.

Sorry for going on about sheep all the time. I'm going from mad birdwoman to mad sheep one.

Wishing you all a peaceful night x

Sweetpeasue Thu 25-Apr-24 18:05:02

Doodle I'm so sorry your DH is still in pain. I was hoping so much he would feel a little better today and be more comfortable. Wish I knew what to say to be of comfort. I'm sure that once your DH can come home he will feel better in himself. My heart goes out to you and I can imagine how alone you must feel. Hope tomorrow morning you walk into his ward and see a big improvement. Everything crossed Doodle. You are right- I could have missed this experience. I walked back to our car in car park today ,opened the door to see 2 strange men eating their sandwiches. Don't know who was more surprised. I blurted out 'I'm so sorry' then' I don't usually do this' which could have meant anything! They laughed and I left red-faced. Much, much love Doodle. X

Back later.x

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 25-Apr-24 17:52:40

Doodle It's a catch-22 situation with your husband's various medication, isn't it? Hope the hospital gets it all sorted out very soon and that he can go home soon. Are there any other patients' relatives you can chat with? Watch or listen to something on an iPad? I feel ok in myself, thanks, just this cough (I have mild Asthma and asked for an inhaler last week - I used to have one, a few years ago).

Doodle Thu 25-Apr-24 17:22:37

nadateturbe love your beautiful bluebell wood. Really good .. You must be pleased with it.
DH not feeling well. In lots of pain and very fed up with his situation. He can’t move much on his own and so can’t make himself comfortable.
Ellie Anne Im another that likes routine. Lots of people do. Reassuring I think.
Sweetpeasue what a wonderful experience for you and your DH. I love little lambs. So pleased you made it on holiday. If you hadn’t have gone you would have missed it, Hope you’re having a good time,
HVDY yes you’re right DH is on diuretics. Trouble is they won’t give them if his Bp is too low but he needs them to get rid of all this fluid. So frustrating. I’m just willing his Bp to go up a bit.
Good your SIl still recognises you. Must be hard for you all seeing her struggle with remembering things.
Are you feeling any better yet?
Scaredycat I envy the bluebell walk although not the cold temperature. I get chilled when it’s too cold.
Yes we do miss our walks. Been a long time since we’ve been out now.
I’m feeling very low I suppose. DH sleeping so much means we don’t get to talk much and I feel a bit lonely at night in my room. I’d be ok if he was feeling well but he’s in so much pain it brings me down. Just hoping he starts to improve soon.
Thinking of you all x

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 25-Apr-24 17:18:34

The GP rang me today, about my coughing and wheezing - he's prescribed an inhaler (I'll collect it soon) and wants me to have a chest x-ray (different GP said that last week but didn't arrange it), he said he'd text me the number to ring to arrange it. Not had a text, so I'll leave it.

Nadateturbe How are you today?
EllieAnne I like routine, too.
Doodle How's your husband today? How much longer might he be in hospital?
ScaredyCat Going to "big" school will be an eye-opener for her. It's a lot different to juniors. Sure she'll be fine.
Whiff What did you do at the craft group?
Candy6, Nanny2507 and ALL BDers - hope you all have a relaxing evening x

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 25-Apr-24 17:10:34

SweetpeaSue How wonderful. Those little animals soon get up onto their feet and know straightaway how to feed. That's lovely. I hope your holiday is going well. Are you eating out or cooking?

Scaredycat Thu 25-Apr-24 16:56:37

Doodle- hope the meds are helping your DH and he feels more comfortable. He must feel like he,s going to pop! Good that he sleeps fairly well. Have you mentioned your shoulder to anyone? Glad you are eating well it’s so important to keep your strength up. You are amazing.
Worries come with friends and family don’t they- it’s the price we pay for loving them. With so many of is there is always someone with problems! Hope today is being kind to both of you.
HVDY- Hope DiL will be OK and the Op next week successful. I guess ChubbyChops will be looking after you again😀
Your poor SiL seems to have deteriorated a lot lately but hopefully she is content in Her own way. No point in her doing anything that will upset her. Doesn’t seem long since you went to lunch club together.
Yes our GGD is going to Senior School in Sept- she is very excited. I can’t believe how fast the time has gone since she was born.
Nadateturbe- my walking seems so slow now as I was a very fast walker but now the AF is constant it just takes my energy away.
I love your painting- the colours and the light are beautiful and it deserves a frame.Thank you for posting it. Hope yesterdays rest day recharged your batteries a bit.So sad that your Aunt is bewildered by the loss of your Uncle- it is the cruellest of conditions.
Whiff- wise words for,Wyllow. Enjoy the Craft Group today- maybe a coffee afterwards?
SweetPeaSue- so pleased you have nice weather. The views must be lovely in the clear light. You are in the thick of the sheep maternity ward- so wonderful to watch the miracle of life up close.You sound very relaxed and it’s lovely to hear the hope in your words. Enjoy every minute.
EllieAnne- routine is good for me too- I don’t deal very well with uncertainty. Bluebells invade our little garden every Spring and like you we are fighting a losing battle. They are lovely though.
Wyllow- it’s good that you are finding an interest in other threads- they are not personal but engage your mind in things other than your inner turmoil. You just keep on being you and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. We are just happy to have you here and so pleased when you post.
Candy,Nanny, and all those who post or read have a peaceful eveningxx

Wyllow3 Thu 25-Apr-24 14:16:11

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