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Mum not eating

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Mattsmum2 Sun 09-Jun-24 15:27:20

Hoping you can help. My 82 year old mum has just had a UTI diagnosed and is on antibiotics. It’s taken nearly three weeks for her (stubborn) to get a sample to the drs and also to tell me she’s been having problems with pee flow. So I spoke to her last night and asked what she had eaten. Breakfast not sure what, and a cuppa soup for dinner. Nothing like the 1500 calories she should be having. Does anyone have any suggestions for meals that are easy to do, microwave, that will give her the nourishment she needs? And also encourage her appetite. She lacks energy at the moment. I live 2 hours away although my sister is closer and keeps an eye. Thank you

Callistemon21 Mon 10-Jun-24 18:50:46

annodomini

Your mum's meal out yesterday tells me that what she needed to tempt her appetite was something really tasty. So please don't try to feed her Complan or something equally bland! I'm her age - or a little more - and I like a tasty meal. In my oven at present is a veggie lasagne from the Cook range and it smells fantastic! Can't wait, but I must. She might like to look at the Cook menu as well as Wiltshire's. Some are microwaveable, others have to be oven cooked.

The fortified drinks were a suggestion if she has lost her appetite due to the UTI, a temporary measure to keep up her strength and hydration.

If she tucked into ham, egg and chips then she is obviously starting to feel better, a good sign.

Esmay Mon 10-Jun-24 21:00:49

I had this problem with both parents .
So have my friends .
It's common .
I've asked doctors and I've tried to read up on it .
I've been told that it's normal and to be expected .
As they get older and more frail - their appetite decreases .
Some medications cause it often leaving an unpleasant taste .
Lack of activity and
depression doesn't help .

Both of them would fill up on chocolate , cakes , biscuits and crisps despite being diabetic .
Eventually being clinically obese became a thing of the past as I struggled to feed them to maintain a normal weight .

Complain and the alternatives were rejected as tasting like wallpaper paste !

Here's my solution :

A good vitamin and iron supplement .

A huge stock of ready meals from different companies as they get bored with the taste .
I sometimes cooked from scratch , but was told that it took too long . By the time it was served they wanted something else .
Little desserts such as yoghurt , trifles or jellies or ice creams .
Microwaveable steamed puddings with custard .
Home made soups though they preferred canned .
Whole milk drinks .
Fresh fruit - cut and peeled for them .
Extra microwaveable vegetables .
Some ready made salads .
Some chocolate .

I found that five or six mini meals a day worked better than the classic breakfast , lunch and dinner routines .

Half a ready meal was enough and I'd put out little treats such as grapes and chocolates in small bowls .

I found it challenging and upsetting , but I came to terms with it .

Esmay Mon 10-Jun-24 21:05:09

Just reread your post and realise that you aren't at hand .
If your sister can't pop in all the time then , can you get someone else to ?
I had three teenage neighbours popping in to make tea and chat and serve treats .
I was fortunate .