When to resume sex after hip replacement

Sorry Beeb and Charleygirl.

netflixfan I gave this lady advice as an ex-professional.

netflixfan I mentioned that on NHS website under “recovering from hip operation” there’s a list of do’s and don’t which says try to avoid sex for 6-8 weeks after operation.

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kircubbin2000

I find it hard to believe that many over 60s are still interested in sex.

I find it very hard to believe how ignorant you sound.

Quite so!

I would have thought more of us are thinking "Chance would be a fine thing" than are sitting there thinking disapproving thoughts.....

kircubbin2000

I find it hard to believe that many over 60s are still interested in sex.

I find it very hard to believe how ignorant you sound.

Come on! Has no one got genuine advice for this woman?

On a serious note there has been a big rise in STDs in over 65s particularly men, so it’s a pity if older people are too coy or embarrassed about sex, causing a reluctance to seek treatment if they have any symptoms.

Some attitudes on here show that there is still a bit of a taboo around sex, which is after all a normal bodily function.

Well, I'm one of those saddoes who has had a poor sex life and none in years, so if I ever need a hip op, sex will be the last thing on my mind. BUT, until now I imagined that most couples would still be "at it" till they were no longer able, and then would be terribly disappointed. Indeed, I do know several couples who are still "at it" in their 70s and 80s.

So despite having no words of wisdom to give the OP, I find it amazing, disgusting and disappointing that so many of you are having a laugh at her expense. Why on earth do you think she posted on here? It surely wasn't to shock or be ridiculed.

Even I know that sex is part of life, and vital to many couples for as long as possible.

Good luck to you OP and don't take a blind bit of those on here who are either shocked or finding it laughable. Long may you enjoy your sex life.

Calll 111😂

Well, I hope that the OP has benefited from the genuine suggestions here in answer to her perfectly reasonable question. I’m sure there are many of us who still have an enjoyable sex life, not to mention the sadly widowed who would like to be still having one.

On the NHS website it says try to avoid sex for 6-8 weeks after your hip operation . Your doctor would be able to advise.

ftm420

Sorry if this is too explicit but if you dont ask...

I'm now 3 weeks post total hip replacement and am starting to think about sex! Trouble is, my DH is (ahem) very overweight and I'm quite skinny, so the thought of missionary scares the life out of me! I also can't widen my hips much (physio has given me a 'clam shell' exercise as part of standard physio and my knees just will not part).

I can't kneel down and get back up and I can't comfortably lie on my side to just 'do him'.

Should we just wait a bit longer, given that he is feeling a bit frustrated. He has 2 hands after all! Or is there a position we could try?

TIA

Probably a lot of 'grans' have had the same operation and have wanted to ask that question! I'm so glad you have been so open about it. It's also a question one forgets to ask when you have the operation, as at that time, sex is probably the last thing on your mind. We'll done ftm420!

Teens could write something a whole lot more shocking.

Anyway, mission accomplished - the person has been put off posting any more.

I too would have found it unbelievable that people over sixty aren’t interested in sex until a friend who had menopausal problems told me in shocked tones that she had been asked if she still had an active sex life.
She was quite disgusted and said goodness me , that has been over for ages.
Then I was told it again by 2 neighbours in a group discussion when a few wines had been taken that their and their H’s sex life was nonexistent.
I cannot understand why it should be that both H and W decide this mutually unless it has never been good between them.

I hadn’t seen previous posts, and…….it is half term!

Yes but the person has posted here periodically for some time.
And a man? So what?
Unless they are asking for photos of people demonstrating positions...

I actually think that Galaxy is right, and I was wary initially because we do get the odd troll, but I have since joined in when I saw that the OP was probably genuine.

You must be very young to have this attitude! - I'm 76 and still have sex, and I'm sure I'm not the only one here.

Could be a man...

So what's the problem, if the op isn't a troll?
Why the need for people to get nasty about her, or to question why people might want sex, or say that they shouldn't ask others, and that it's a stupid question?

clutching pearls!

The sex forum has specific rules different to the rest of the forum to make sure trolls (men) dont use it. Again I know OP isnt a troll but people being wary tends in my opinion to demonstrate considerable experience and a lack of naivety rather than being prudish.

So why don't the mumsnet posters ask their doctors?

MrsMatt

heath480

What a stupid question to ask strangers on the internet!! Must be a troll post.

Why not ask faceless strangers on the internet? It's not as though you and ftm420 are going to meet up to discuss the issue. Maybe she is too embarrassed to ask someone face to face. If you don't ask you won't know. If you didn't like the question then you could have scrolled past after the first sentence

You don’t ask stranger’s questions like this! You ask your Doctor or Physio !! I don’t think ftm is embarrassed at all,just naive and inexperienced.,she seems to think there is only one position for sex.

Some of you need to go on the sex forum on Mumsnet,it would keep you entertained for days.Posters who aren’t still living in the 1950’s.

Sex is great BUT it’s just that god invented arthritis to put a stop to it 🤣