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When to resume sex after hip replacement

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ftm420 Wed 30-Oct-24 11:16:12

Sorry if this is too explicit but if you dont ask...

I'm now 3 weeks post total hip replacement and am starting to think about sex! Trouble is, my DH is (ahem) very overweight and I'm quite skinny, so the thought of missionary scares the life out of me! I also can't widen my hips much (physio has given me a 'clam shell' exercise as part of standard physio and my knees just will not part).

I can't kneel down and get back up and I can't comfortably lie on my side to just 'do him'.

Should we just wait a bit longer, given that he is feeling a bit frustrated. He has 2 hands after all! Or is there a position we could try?

TIAblush

Coolgran65 Wed 30-Oct-24 19:25:45

Doesn't offend me at all. We're all adults.
I suggest you give him a little manual pleasure and save yourself until you are ready.

Jaxjacky Wed 30-Oct-24 18:40:59

Thank you Naughtyneine straight from the hipโ€ฆso to speak๐Ÿ™‚

Beechnut Wed 30-Oct-24 18:28:37

mrsgreenfingers56

Well given me a laugh on a miserable dank afternoon!

Me too ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

kittylester Wed 30-Oct-24 18:24:04

Now I do need smelling salts!! grin

Cossy Wed 30-Oct-24 18:23:44

I donโ€™t find this either explicit or offensive.

Sex between consenting adults is perfectly normal.

Iโ€™m still not sure if this is genuine though grin

Naughtyneine Wed 30-Oct-24 18:17:14

There was a deathly silence when I mentioned something similar on the hips and knees thread when I was approaching my THR....I thought I was being witty when I said that right at the back of a very thick book outlining everything I needed to do post op....the last 2 lines in tiny print said you can resume sex when you feel comfortable in doing so.... There was definitely a whiff of disapproval that I'd raised such a subject in-between picker upper thingys and raised toilet seats. Good for you wanting to get back to'normal'. Knowing only too well how difficult and painful sex can be with a grade 4 hip joint I too was looking forward to swinging from the chandeliers again. ๐Ÿ˜‚. My DOH at the time ( now husband) didn't put me under any pressure to resume until I was ready...and I think it was about 3/4 weeks before we risked it. For fear of half the ladies on here needing resuscitating and the sale of smelling salts trebling I will only say...do not attempt to move your operated side wide but your other leg should be fine to extend ( as needed). One final piece of advice ..... You'll have to wait a bit longer before riding cowgirl and shouting yeeha๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

MissAdventure Wed 30-Oct-24 18:10:03

Oops.
I meant to quote Marydoll.

MissAdventure Wed 30-Oct-24 18:09:11

BlueBelle

Well mine has cobwebs so I canโ€™t advise ๐Ÿคฃ

Ah of course.wink

Marg75 Wed 30-Oct-24 17:44:37

Ditto the cobwebs!

mrsgreenfingers56 Wed 30-Oct-24 17:28:38

Well given me a laugh on a miserable dank afternoon!

Norah Wed 30-Oct-24 17:23:24

Marydoll

I don't understand why the OP doesn't ask her clinicians, who will be better informed of her situation, than those of us on here.

Howeevr, this thread has cheered me up with the witty responses.

Agreed.

I assume everyone enjoys sex. And I further assume we're all adults. Ask clinicians as part of run up to a procedure and during after care. I do.

Everyone has a different body and recovery, just ask.

BlueBelle Wed 30-Oct-24 17:22:11

Well mine has cobwebs so I canโ€™t advise ๐Ÿคฃ

Marydoll Wed 30-Oct-24 17:14:53

Miss A, I have a saintly image to preserve.๐Ÿ˜‰

seadragon Wed 30-Oct-24 17:14:51

A friend was asked if she still had sex at her hip replacement consultation when she was in her 60's so I was all set for the conversation in July this year. I am 74, he didn't ask and so neither could I... I found.
hence the vested interest above....

MissAdventure Wed 30-Oct-24 17:04:47

Marydoll

I was going to post something rather naughty, but I am a good Catholic girl. ๐Ÿ˜‡

We won't tell anyone... smile

MissAdventure Wed 30-Oct-24 17:02:50

How about sitting on your husband's err.... lap, facing away from him?

Marydoll Wed 30-Oct-24 17:02:13

I was going to post something rather naughty, but I am a good Catholic girl. ๐Ÿ˜‡

Allira Wed 30-Oct-24 16:55:09

OldFrill

Ooh you are naughty! ๐Ÿ˜‚

kittylester Wed 30-Oct-24 16:54:47

This post reminds me of the early days - when irreverent posts were the norm. Love it.

Usedtobeblonde Wed 30-Oct-24 16:52:01

I was 83 and widowed when I had my THR so have no advice to offer.

Marydoll Wed 30-Oct-24 16:48:38

I don't understand why the OP doesn't ask her clinicians, who will be better informed of her situation, than those of us on here.

Howeevr, this thread has cheered me up with the witty responses.

Candelle Wed 30-Oct-24 16:41:55

I can't help the OP as I do not know the answer but surely this is a good place to ask ladies of similar ages, some of whom who will have gone through the same operation.

OP, I hope someone actually helps you although Miss Adventure of 00.48 seems to be on the right track!

Marg75 Wed 30-Oct-24 16:40:53

Loving this thread! Haven't got anything I dare add but will keep reading ๐Ÿ˜‚

OldFrill Wed 30-Oct-24 16:40:42

My friend said had sex around six weeks, but don't tell his wife.
Plenty advice on Google.
I took think it's a genuine poster, seen them post on other threads

sharon103 Wed 30-Oct-24 16:24:32

I'm laughing out loud at some of the comments. Soo funny.