Black Dog 24

No not stupid Ellie Anne you just wanted the house to yourself. Is it possible for you to go and look after the dog. I know you wouldn’t be able to do the paintwork but you could have your relaxing meals and do your own thing

SweetpeaSue Sorry you've had a bad day. Your symptoms could be Fibromyalgia, stress, a virus, or any combination. Rest up for a day or 2, perhaps see the GP if things carry on.

Doodle I stopped going to Aqua because of the terrible pain I had due to torn cartilage in my hip (and mild Arthritis). That's ok now, but I won't be able to go to Aqua on a Monday like I did before, as we'll be having LittleGirl on Mondays from next week, instead of Tues. We'll also need to look for new playgroups, which is a shame as we'd got into a nice routine with them. Nice that you went out with friends for lunch, but I suppose it must make you feel that your husband is missing from those things. Glad you've got a lot of happy memories of him.

EllieAnne That certainly doesn't sound stupid at all. Could you go to your son's and look after the dog, leave your husband at home?

Hope ALL BDers have restful night's sleep. x

Yes I could go but I like to see friends on Saturday and go to church on Sunday. He doesn’t do anything or see anyone so wouldn’t be missing anything. Also I’m over there on Wednesdays and don’t feel like doing any extra driving.

I’m glad to read that you are a lot better than before, Candy. Well don on getting back to the gym, great for you to get out again.

And you too, NannyG4 getting out to Pilates.
A heart back to you.

Oh Scaredycat…waiting there for your son, he’ll be here by now as I write, so hoping it goes well x

I actually found some really good lounge trousers on M n S online late last night and they have sold out! Will try otherwise when I can get it together.

Hairdresser comes at the end of the month HVDY I dont do colour but a cut is good. It sounds like your hair colour is similar to mine, which is white with a hint of ash blonde. Nice nails treat and things for LittleGirl.
It is a shame you have to switch around the days when they’ve been working well.

Hugs for today Sweetpeasue Hoping tomorrow is a bit better.

And hugs for the weight and dark circles, Doodle - yes it reflects the reality for you xx. Of ouches thats how the lunch made you feel - very mixed blessing.

I think I understand very well, EllieAnne - you were looking forward to some time and space and angry - and that all makes you low - not stupid.

Today a bit better as carer and walk. I still get bad feelings on it but it helps to chat and walk. She asked me what did I want for 2025 and couldn’t say.

Night night all stay as well as you can xx

EllieAnne Understandably, you don't want to change your routine. Your husband sounds very unreasonable really. I hope things get sorted out.

Wyllow3 What a pity the trousers were sold out. Perhaps they'll have some more stock soon. Glad you managed to go out with the carer. If someone I asked me what I wanted for this year, I wouldn't know (a slimmer body but not a lot else)

How has everyone been? After a frosty and foggy start, it was cold but sunny. Day centre was good. Hope all are ok x

HVDY why are you having to change days with Little girl?
Shame about the playgroup. When you’ve found a good one it’s nice to stick with it. Mind you Little girl is still so young she may not even notice.
Ellie Anne ah I see why you don’t want to go. Could you bring thr dog over to yours?
Wyllow shame about the trousers. I’ve bought some in the past from Amazon that have been ok.
Scaredycat I do hope you and your son have a lovely visit.
Sweetpeasue hoping your day has been a bit better.
Sorry all I’m feeling a bit tired tonight and not quite with it.
Be back to check up on you all tomorrow.

No doodle the cat hates it and won’t come in the house when it’s here. And it would be 2 hrs driving to collect it and take it home. And we can’t walk it it’s too big and has never been properly trained.
I don’t know if he’s made a decision yet.
Maybe I will have to go but tbh I get a bit nervous in their house on my own.

Doodle She's starting a 12-week course at the speech therapist's on Tuesdays (our regular day). I've found a couple of new playgroups but they're further away. It'll be fine, I'm sure. Hope you sleep well tonight.

EllieAnne What makes you nervous about being in their home?

Hvdy I don’t really know. I’m the same in dd s house if she isn’t there. I’m just a nervous person I think.

Glad it was a nice time at the day centre, HVDY. I could do with something like that really, organised and go if you want. Under the MH system before there were so many massive cutbacks there were OT groups. Will think of LittleGirl as my DiL is a speech therapist working with children who cant speak for one reason for another, she’s love a little one like LittleGirl.

Just glad that you came in Doodle see you tomorrow.

I hope that you manage to find the best resolution for the helping with dogs problem, EllieAnne Its never quite as comfy in another house, is it? Difficult one.

Dressing gown day, not good really. The reasons I grumble about weight is that however little I eat the meds make me put more on, so there seems no way forward - I have no problem dieting. clothes not fitting.

Thinking of several people not in today so sending out love and best wishes xx

Since coming out of hospital I found the joy of a pj week and that's thanks to all of you. When some of you mentioned having a pj down or dressing gown day I thought wish I had a chance to do that . Funny no matter how ill over the years I have been I always got dressed. I was a fool. I could have saved myself a lot of pain and hassle . But since moving to my bungalow doing things I never did in my old house, but I have done things here I would never dream of before . But I existed then but now I live my life to the full.

Getting stronger everyday and my arms and tummy are a patchwork of purple and yellow.

The care I got from both hospitals was outstanding . And my daughter what can I say I never wanted to worry her and go back to 2019/2020 when it mad dashes to GP,walk in centre and mainly A&E. She is so caring and loving but does tell me off when I need it. Her dad was always proud of her but he would be doubly .
I didn't let my son know as he made it clear in 2020 I was no longer wanted so he wouldn't have cared if I had died.

My daughter went to my bungalow every day and put my heating on then off a night to keep everything from freezer. When her youngest was with her he said this carpet dirty I clean it. He loves my carpet sweeper and as he was doing it he said neat and tidy . With the family he had watched Wallace and Gromitt and keepd shaking people's hands saying nice to meet you . He's 4 he's brother will be 7 soon.

Sorry haven't mentioned you all by name but as usual so much happens on this thread and nice to see new people finding the help , support and friendship they need from you kind ladies .
Thank you for being here 💝

EllieAnne Do you take anything for anxiety? You might benefit from some tablets or something.

Wyllow3 I call it a day centre, but they say it's a lunch club (same thing). It's a charity-funded thing, much like the one I used to run a few years ago. Your DIL would know why a child doesn't speak, and what things can be done to help. We all read to LittleGirl (she can point out the pictures of dogs, Peppa Pig, things like that). Could you have a medication review with someone and perhaps change or stop anything?

Whiff So glad you're home and recovering. You had excellent treatment, by the sound of it. Your daughter was very good and caring; her sons will be the same as they learn by example.

I had an early start - Jaffa heard me get up at 6.30, so then wanted a lot of attention and an early breakfast at 7. Not doing much today. Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

Hi all
Quick catch up as my DS has gone out for a while.
HVDY- Your sounds nice- great not to have to worry about coloring it again.
Looks like you have a bit of rescheduling to do- shame about the playgroups but Little Girl seems very adaptable so she should beOK. But if the sessions benefit her speech progress it will be worth the upheaval.
I,m glad you would be able to do Aqua Aerobics again- perhaps you can do a class when it’s a bit warmer.
Doodle- it’s so lovely to have my DS home again. We went out with the family Wed evening and just to see them all together and having a laugh it makes my heart sing. Tomorrow night there’ll be more of us - I feel very lucky. It always stirs up his memories and emotions being here - it’s his other life.
I hope you,re having a good day- it’s nippy out isn’t it.
EllieAnne- your DH is so awkward - you’re not stupid at all. He’s made a simple thing so complicated. If the dog is Ok in the kennnels then let him pay. If it distresses him though it’s more difficult. Do hope you find a solution. I totally understand not wanting to be alone in another house.
SweetPeaSue- I hope you re feeling better today. Your poor body and mind are worn out I should think.
Do hope you can get out this weekend and just do something nice together. If not - keep warm,eat some nice food and have a restful time
Wyllow- glad you were able to have your walk and a chat. I guess what you want for 2025 is the same as we all do. To be as well as possible,enjoy getting out,family staying well and a quiet mind.
One thing at a time eh!!
I think Next do loungewear too- worth an online look. If not as HVDY says try the supermarkets.Just nice to have comfy clothes for indoors that aren’t nightwear.
It’s a shame the meds affect your weight but once you start moving more your weight will probably stabilise . Don’t deprive yourself of food you need to keep nourished.
Whiff- good to hear you are getting stronger. There’s you enjoying your Dressing gown days and Wyllow trying to ditch hers!! Funny old life isn’t it.
What a dear Daughter and GS you have- especially the little carpet sweeper! Yes your DH would be very proud of them.
May your recovery continue apace and you are soon able to get on with living your life as you do.
Thinking of you all and hoping the weekend is kind to you.

HVDY- I meant to say your HAIR sounds nice😩

I would like to ask if anyone has had chronic insomnia while taking Mirtazapine and if so, how did you deal with it.Doctor says medication is not causing it.

Whiff So pleased you're now home and now just have to gain strength and get well. Your DD is a star isn't she.Take care💐
EllieAnne I'm with Scaredycat on this. Hope you can get the dog into kennels . So unfair of your DH after all you do. X
HVDY Hope your chest is feeling much better now and that Litylegirl soon gets used to her new playgroup.
Scaredycat Lovely to hear your son is now with you. Have a wonderful family time together.
Doodle Hope you've been OK today and managed to get your rest last night. Think of you often.
Wyllow I understand you feeling the need to look 'presentable' to go into the outside world. Your confidence/ esteem has already taken a huge blow down to your abuse with ex. I've never been so big and hate it. It's what each of us are comfortable with ourselves isn't it. Hope you manage to get those new clothes.
LucyD Hope you're feeling warmer now.
Love to Elveral, and NannyG4, Candy and others not personally mentioned.

Still same exhaustion and aches. Saw trainee psychologist and agreed to postpone sessions for a mth or 2 until I, hopefully, feel better. Just want to sleep all the time and body so stiff and achy.

Take care all and wishing all a peaceful night and mind.

Sorry, know I've missed people and

Crocus I don't take Mritazapine so can't answer for myself- though someone here does take it and I believe she's had no trouble with sleeping because of it. Hope you get to the bottom of the cause of your insomnia . Take care.

Ellie Anne if the dogs that bad then maybe it would be better if it went to someone else while they’re away. Sorry I didn’t realise the situation. I’d be nervous being in someone else’s house on my own too. Hope it gets sorted somehow.
HVDY ah I understand. I hope it helps little girl but sometimes they just talk later when it suits them. Our younger son had speech therapy when young as he had a problem with his teeth.
Wyllow are there no groups around that you could go to. My nearest is about 9 miles away but you might find something you could attend as and when you wanted.
If you need the meds to keep going then ignore the weight issue. The most important thing is to get you out and about and living a life again.
Whiff your daughter sounds lovely and caring as does your grandson. I’m glad you like living in your bungalow.

Thankyou Sweetpeasue

Scaredycat I’m so pleased your son is with you, Not surprisingly you sound so happy . Must be nice for him to meet up with family too. Tomorrow night should be fun
Like you I love seeing family together,
Sweetpeasue you sound really down. That could be why you’re so tired. You have so many health problems with you and your DH at the moment it’s not surprising you feel as you do. I wonder if you need to be seen by someone a bit better than a trainee nice though they may be.
I’ve been out today and had a lovely meal with our granddaughters. So nice to sit and chat for a while.
Sorry I feel flat, sad and odd tonight so not in the best of spirits.
Have a good weekend all.

ScaredyCat Glad you're having some lovely family times with your son. Enjoy.

Crocus I've been on Mirtazapine for a number of years and it still makes me drowsy. I take it about an hour before I go to bed.

SweetpeaSue Sorry you're still feeling so rough. Hope you have a good night's rest.

Doodle Son2 (Dad of LittleGirl) had a lisp as a schoolchild and had a bit of speech therapy for that. He wasn't able to pronounce "Th" words, so said Yis, Yat and Yose for This, That and Those when he was under about 6. Quite cute, though.

I should have added that I think the Mirtazapine may be causing the insomnia, which is why I would be very grateful to hear others experience of it.

My dd took a while to speak then had speech therapy as she couldn’t say certain sounds.
The dog is no bother in its own house. He just doesn’t want to go because it’s boring sitting on your own which is exactly what he does here. Anyway I ll shut up about it now. It doesn’t matter.

It’s really good to hear from you Whiff in your PJ week, now you are out of hospital, getting stronger, and that DD was really supportive. (And the extra help from Youngest).

I have a review with both workers next week HVDY will talk meds. Way way ago I was a volunteer organiser and used to run lunch clubs too usually with churches. Glad you

Great you managed to pop in Scaredycat whilst your DS is here. Nice meal out and even more coming over tonight. A very, very, special time.

Yes I need those sort of clothes . Must act! Yes as to the exercise would help.

Crocus Mirtazapene generally is known to be a positive sleep wise - at least not keeping awake. It takes up to 6 weeks to start working properly

I have taken it on and off for years it is a plus or at leat neutral sleep wise..

BUT - we are all different. You could be a-typical or the drug isn’t meeting enough of your needs and you may need another one….. But we aren’t medically qualified on here. All the best with meds and your GP sorting something.

Sorry you are so stiff and achy, Sweetpeasue. It’s a very tough patch for you indeed, but right to go with the sleeping for now. xx

No groups that I know of, doodle. The sign of me being Weller will be when I can go back to Quakers. Glad you had a meal with your DGD’s. Have a hug and never say sorry…

You do matter EllieAnne

Had to get up very early as my cleaner came. So had to be dressed. Got funny physical stuff going on, ulcers or something in mouth and itching dry skin, wondering if it’s becuase I vape so much. I really have to get out for walks. Sign, ostrich signing off…

Night night BD’s xx