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Death of friend

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Bazza Tue 04-Feb-25 15:31:10

Some of you may remember a post I made in October last year about my friend who went into hospital in September to have a knee replacement because her kneecap had crumbled due to rheumatoid arthritis. This was eventually done, but after a month and several infections it showed no signs of healing. It was decided that an amputation was her only option. This was done, and from then on she has had many other infections, she has had both Covid and flu twice, bladder infections from a catheter, and worse of all post operative psychosis which I’ve never even heard of. This apparently was caused by her having to have seven general anaesthetics to drain her wound. Over the course of time she developed dementia. Eventually on Sunday she was diagnosed with sepsis and she died on Monday night. While I'm obviously relieved that her awful suffering is over, I’m just so sad that she had an unhappy life and an awful death, she was a lovely person. Why can life be so cruel? Sorry, I hope this isn’t too depressing but needed to have a rant.

Lucyd Wed 05-Feb-25 20:04:54

I am so sorry. I hope that your memories of happier times spent with your friend will give you some comfort. I have lost family members and know how hard grief can be. Sending you a big hug.x

Romola Wed 05-Feb-25 20:53:21

It is awful when your final memories of someone are so distressing. I am sending you sympathy and hope that earlier memories will be better revived.
I arrived at the deathbed of a lifelong friend 20 minutes after she died after much suffering. Her husband asked me to speak at her funeral, but I didn't feel able to, really because it was only three months after the death of my DH. But I miss her still.

Marleygirl Thu 06-Feb-25 08:36:08

What a shame that all the medical help couldn't save your friend, Bazza. Condolences to you and her family

LOUISA1523 Thu 06-Feb-25 08:55:29

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