Transitioning loved one

theworriedwell

So it would worry you less if she was plain or even downright ugly? That seems very shallow.

I knew someone would get that dig in! Right on cue! There's always one!

I would of course care just the same whatever their looks - that goes without saying.

So it would worry you less if she was plain or even downright ugly? That seems very shallow.

Really understand your feelings and concerns luckygirl
You are doing everything right but can imagine how I would feel about any of mygrandchildren although would I given the situation.? If I saw them happy and more content would I ? I don’t know the answer
It’s a huge undertaking though and the surgery and medication would really freak me out but hopefully they will turn into a very good looking handsome man and be at one with themself

Have you seen the unhappy side of them or has this come as an out of the blue shock ?

I find this new phenomenon disturbing I cannot deny.
Irrevocable damage to a perfect human body so that it can align with a mindset which sadly may change further down the line. I didn’t realise until recently how many young ‘uns ‘on the spectrum’ are the ones who undertake this the most. I feel for you Luckygirl as your maturity has given you greater insight into all this. No wonder you feel upset as you fear for your much loved relative’s future. One can only hope they find lasting happiness in their new body.

Luckygirl, I can fully understand how this makes you feel, having been through it with my own son, now daughter. The best you can do is tell them that you fully support them, whatever they decide to do. Being on the autism spectrum does make her/him more vulnerable but they‘ll still know that they‘re not happy in their present situation. Best wishes

We had someone in my art group who transitioned from a young woman to a man and then moved to Europe. From photos on Instagram he is having a wonderful time now.. in a relationship, doing great art and travelling a lot with a group of friends.. He was quite open about what he was doing and seems very happy now.. I hope your relative finds the same..

Stories not Tories 🤦‍♀️

I think it is very difficult because of the Tories told by the de transitioners particularly women.
I think you can only be this persons friends whatever happens in the future.

Not so much to the degree that you are experiencing, however I worked quite closely with a girl living with someone who transitioned during their relationship.

This was over 10 years ago, the transition of this girl to live her life as a man is complete.

They are very happily married and very open about their transition and those who have met them since the transition would not know, unless told, that they once lived their life as a girl.

I don’t pretend to understand, but it’s obvious they are happy.

Please just hold onto the fact that it is the same person inside, still your dear friend.

I wish you both well