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Having a hysterectomy - tips/reassurance

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TwinLolly Mon 08-Sept-25 15:56:08

Hi Gransneters

I'm due to have an abdominal partial hysterectomy - conservation of one ovary and the cervix - next Friday. I'm having this done in France. The language barrier is an issue as my French is very limited.

I suppose I'm seeking reassurance as my nerves are in shreds.

Do.you have any hints and tips for a smooth recovery/things that helped you?

Any positive stories will also help too.

Pleased be kind, no nastiness.

Crossstitchfan Wed 10-Sept-25 23:11:15

No, Oldbat1. I lived, and still live, in the South East. I should say that the hospitals here are excellent. The incident I described was many years ago (in 1990, in fact, and the surgeon involved died a long time ago).
I have had reason to be treated both as an outpatient and an inpatient in two of the hospitals near me and the staff, without exception, have been wonderful. Things changed for the better a long time ago, but the incident I described was quite common in those days around 30 years ago. I now regularly see a male consultant and he is perfect. He is friendly, concerned about how I feel and totally professional. It’s all a far cry from how it used to be.

Crossstitchfan Thu 11-Sept-25 20:19:22

Sue65

You might think about people from babies to old people who have been subject to sexual harm from people in the medical profession
Perhaps read the newspapers

You have made your feelings clear. Fine. But do NOT tell me to read newspapers! What makes you think I don’t?

Crossstitchfan Fri 12-Sept-25 23:13:45

butterandjam

Crossstitchfan

Also, to whom was I offensive? Perhaps you could explain that too when you tell me what angered you?
Only you won’t be back to explain, will you? I think you are one of those people who makes a comment and then stands back to see who you annoy! Have you nothing better to do?

" (By the way, I was trying to be funny, not belittle what I know have been dreadful experiences for some, so please don’t be mad at me)."

You very clearly knew your "attempted humour" might offend; who might feel belittled , and be angry with you, and why.

You knew, but decided to post it anyway.

In your own words:

"I think you are one of those people who makes a comment and then stands back to see who you annoy! Have you nothing better to do? "

butterandjam,
What a shame. You were one of the posters I looked up to on here. That ended today. Not because you were unhappy with what I said. That’s your prerogative. No, it was your last sentence which said:
‘I think you are one of those people who makes a comment and then stands back to see who you annoy’.
I resent that because if you bother to look back at my previous posts, you will see that I have never done that. You are clutching at straws and got it wrong, and I am disappointed that my opinion of you was totally misplaced.
If you are going to criticise, please get your facts straight!