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I hate being 60

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CariadAgain Wed 15-Oct-25 12:16:50

Difficult one - given you can't think "Oh great - at least 60 means I've retired now. Big plus" or my long in mind project was "Get a degree to prove I can - Open University then" (no point now loads of other people have got "degrees" too).

So - maybe there's some new interest that could be quite a major thing for you that you could take up? It does depend, to some extent, imo what part of the country you are in.
I've come from a nice academic little city in Devon - so there's lots of academic type stuff going on somewhere like that and I miss knowing that outlook is frequent/stuff is going on if I want it. I'm now in West Wales and it's very very different - but I've been able to get into gardening/trying to grow foods etc and there are quite a few people here that go in for that/at least understand that and a bit of food-swopping goes on with the nicer neighbours I have. Creative interests major here - not something I'm interested in personally - but a lot of people here are and so they find like minds and quite a high standard of stuff too. Even most of the "amateurs" here are turning out some pretty professional level stuff.

In my academic city - I was well used to "cite the proof...where are the facts?" way of thinking and do understand that way of thinking well/agree with it to a large extent and it was possible to get voluntary work (and I did loads of that). I can't keep any voluntary work here - that's become clear and that is a downside!!!!. But a plus side of this area I'm in now is I can say about more esoteric/New Age type issues and will see a noticeable number of people agreeing with me or coming up with tales. I would never in a million years be able to say to a nearby neighbour back in an academic city of "Oh - I've had someone in to clear a negative energy line from my house" and he just shrugged and went "Oh yeah....there is" and was sorta shrugging in agreement.

So - does the area of the country you are in specialise in/be more au fait with certain interests etc than others and, if so, is that something you could resonate with?

Though I must admit = the main advantage to being over my own retirement age (60) and having done so is how I can think "Thank goodness.....whew...I've been able to drop that horrible horrible job I had to do for years latterly". If you've had a really god-awful job = it is an enormous relief to no longer have to do it (especially if you had to fight hard to hang onto it - despite loathing it - as other options would have been even worse).

Enjoy your freedom...

fancythat Wed 15-Oct-25 12:16:29

Some are going around ticking boxes.
I dont feel that urge yet. But not ruling it out.

fancythat Wed 15-Oct-25 12:15:06

I find the time after 60, a strange time.
Did not really hit me until about 62.
Friends about the same age are saying the same thing.

Aldom Wed 15-Oct-25 12:13:25

Please, please enjoy being 60. You are still young at 60. Life is for living.
I nursed my husband through my 50's till I was 62. Then he died.
That was 20 years ago. Other deeply sad events have come into my life since then, but I still enjoy my life.
I'm thankful to be as fit and well as I can be at the age of 82.
Currently I am in the process of moving house and county. All very stressful, but I'm projecting my thoughts on enjoying my new home and new life.
I hope your mood lifts so that you can rejoice in just being alive. smile

Whitewavemark2 Wed 15-Oct-25 12:07:22

😄😄 wait until you are 80.

Actually life is full of surprises at 80.

Every morning I wake up, check everything is sort of working - think - I’m still here and off I go to enjoy my day.

Kate1949 Wed 15-Oct-25 11:55:43

I wish I was 60!

NotSpaghetti Wed 15-Oct-25 11:52:21

Can you get on with organising the things you do want to do?
Would your partner stay at home or tag along?
If they would rather stay at home you need to just get out there and enjoy things alone!

Thinking of you
flowers
I think you will feel better with things to do... and to look forward to.

RosesandLilac Wed 15-Oct-25 11:47:05

Just wait until you’re 70!
I suspect that you don’t have any sense of purpose to your life despite having money etc?
I retired 8 years ago, I’m nearly 72 and have plenty of interests and things to do, nothing exotic or exciting just hobbies, my dogs and being able to do whatever I like within reason as despite having poor health.
My frenetic working life wrecked me, being able to do what I want, whenever I like is priceless.
Do you have any hobbies or interests L

tsm106 Wed 15-Oct-25 11:42:12

I dreaded turning 50, but once I did I realised that age was just a number and nothing much really changed. However, since turning 60, I absolutely hate it and feel time is now running out. Because of this, I am desperately trying to tick all those boxes and do everything I have always wanted to do before it’s too late. My son and his family live quite a distance, but I do see them as much as I can. My Mum has recently been diagnosed with Dementia too, and I don’t think that has helped. She was always so strong and independent, and now she is like a frail, insecure child.
In addition to this, my partner is happy to just sit back and enjoy doing “ nothing “ in retirement ( we are both retired ).
I have spoke to him so many times about this, but he is just not interested.
On the surface we have everything, enough money for early retirement, our health, and a lovely home. So why am I so unhappy.