Black Dogs 28

Nadateturbe Thankyou for those lovely hugs. You are a very brave lady coping with such horrible circumstances.
Wyllow Its taken a lot of energy and persistence to cope with the aftermath of the Mr A assault. I think you are doing so well to make sure of justice being done. Hope you know that and can look forward now to better times.

Need to rest.
Sending love to everyone. Goodnight xx

Thanks for your understanding Wyllow3. No, I drove, which in itself was an achievement, had a clear head, first day this week. The weather is too stormy to walk, waves crashing on to the main road.. .

Wyllow3 you seem to have at last got through to D and got a decent response. And making good progress with Mr A. You've done well, however it's taken its toll on your health. But you're a strong lady and hopefully after 3Feb you can feel a bit more relaxed and not think about it all so much and concentrate on your own well-being.

The fear on a bad day CFS or ME wise that things will always be like that and get worse is very real and understandable whether true or not (as long as we take good care of ourselves)!!!

Oh, I cross posted, Sweetpeasue, sorry to have missed you...and losing 20 mins writing and thinking of all here...its so disappointing, but big warm hello and see you tomorrow.

I'm glad you got out, nadateturbe, you mean you walked there? Impressed.

Doodle I seem to remember you were in a lot of pain after the last sitfit. Was it better this time?
Wyllow3 its healing, thanks, I'm still a bit nervous and using hand gel, wipes, to extremes, but being more realistic about it. My sister talked a lot of sense. I didn't used to be so anxious, I think M.E. has made me that way, because it continually causes lots of different symptoms which can be serious but aren't.

Sweetpeasue hope that painkillers get rid of your headache. You sounded perfectly OK. Sorry you lost your post.
Sending hugs.x

Scaredycat It was such a coincidence about my daughter. My sister came and my daughter is coming. I feel that people care, after all. It makes such a difference.
Mamarr is nice. My English GC called me Grandma, which made me sound ancient.
It's good your SiL is back in the home. I can't remember why she was admitted to hospital. Probably a stupid question, What is the significance of the arrangement about readmission?
I got out to collect my prescription today and in Tescos for a couple of items. Progress .

Yes, a weekly art club works better, I think, nadateturbe, as if you miss one, you dont go a month.
How is your boil now? Are you reassured it wont spread? (I can understand that fear).
Great to hear your mind reading daughter has plots afoot to visit.

Aw, how nice to be asked after by LG, HVDY. You’ll clearly always have a special place in her mind. BTW, you know that I have had some considerable absences from my GDC life? The wonderful thing is, their memories of the gran I was, didnt go away. You’ve had a productive day. Brothers greed = or meaness - he’s really got a MH personality or similar issue - they dont budge, or rarely, but you do well to keep the door open as much as you can. I think I would be the same, but have to limit what I could handle.

The knot is hardly surprising, Scaredycat. Will they come back…the fact you have been able to commit yourself to loving them despite the levels of loss - is a credit and a blessing…I hope the knot goes soon, do you have some nice photos from the time together?

I do like a crisp panini, Doodle and that combination is one of my favourites too. Well done for tackling sit fit so you really know it afterwards as it were!

After my strongly worded WhatsApp to D yesterday, it did bring results. It shook her up enough to ask to meet - she came to the gym as it was enroute what she was doing today.

She tried a few tricks (her stings in the tail) - but I got right through with a determined but kind and well prepared approach. She admitted maybe half the way through how she had in effect been part of the problem and made me iller - but after some tears actually thanked me, like releasing something because well I suppose I forgave and I had talked about what had made her do what she did calmly.

I don’t expect it all to “Stick” - part of er will want to retract from open up like that but think I’ve got a long way there that she will pass onto others.

MrA’s draft “conclusion of Restorative Justice” statement also arrived. It was pretty good. The bits he had missed out were pretty obvious too and it didn’t take me long to prepare an amended draft which I am almost certain he will accept (whether fully liking it or not)

I’ve ended up being very powerful in what I’ve done and got across what was needful - but the cost has been very, very high in terms of my health.

But how could I possibly let the version of events created by MrA and D have stood ? The versions of me in their narratives was of someone who had totally invented Sexual Assault, due to her Mental Health background, to be pitied, and not heard.

I hope we'll hear from other BD's, later. Always in my mind, even tho I write a lot about me atm xx

Hope that didnt sound so blunt. Actually have bad headache so cant write any more tonight. X

Welcome * Glennic* Hope you enjoy Gransnet.

Sorry all. Just spent 20 mins trying to reply to posts and right near end Iost the lot!
Scardycat Its sad to say goodbyes ,especially when your son lives so far away. Hope it wont be too long before you meet again.

Will try come in tomorrow.
Sleep well all.

ScaredyCat It must be difficult when your son goes, but I hope it won't be too long before he visits again. I bet you had a nice time. My SIL was discharged from hospital today, returned to the home. It'll take a while for her to settle in again. The home, hospital, my brother and SIL's siter have all agreed that she should only be admitted to hospital forfractures, operations and head injuries, nothing else, so we'll see.

nadateturbe LG calls me "Mammar", as do the other GC. It's a common term in the Midlands. She can't yet say Grandad, so calls DH "Ga-Ga". I wish I was as active as I was only 4 years ago, but I do what I can, when I feel like it. How have you been today?

Glennic I'm in Nottingham, England. I think we're 3 hours ahead of your time. What have you been up to today? Do you work, or are you like us on here - retired?

Wow that’s a long way away Glen. I think you’ll find most people here are from the UK. I’m south in Berkshire,
nadateturbe so pleased your daughter is visiting in the summer. That will give you something to look forward to.
HvDY another busy day for you. Made me laugh to think LG wondered why you were not with her grandad. 🤣
Scaredycat must be had for you to say goodbye to your son. Lovely he could come and visit though. Hopefully it won’t be too long before you see him again.
I’ve been to sit fit this morning and am still aching though feeling better thank you.
Sweetpeasue hope you and DH have had a good day with no particular problems.
Thinking of you all

Thank Doodle

I'm in Kentucky US
You?

Thanks a lot man

HVDY reliability is the important thing.
I couldn't do all that in a week! You're so fit. Aqua aerobics is fun, I used to love going. Nice for LG tovlook for you. She loves her gran. What does she call you?
Unfortunately unless my M.E. disappears it will be limited outings. DD knows that. Oh for the days when I could do a whole day out.

Hi all
My DS started his journey home this morning and will be home later this evening. It’s been so good to have him here and it’s been a lovely few days. The knot in my stomach will gradually disappear - I hate saying goodbye.
Doodle- your panini sounded delicious - glad you had a treat.
I only iron pillowcases - like the feel of them when they are ironed. Otherwise I do as little ironing as possible- there are so many nicer things to do!
I hope you feel better today after a nice ,warm sleep. It is good though that you are walking more.
EllieAnne- I don’t like feet either especially on a sun bed sort of holiday. Too many really ugly feet on display- yuk.
You still sound so sad. Hope you were able to manage a woodland walk today- it’s very wet here today so no walk for us.
I,m with you - once a fortnight for sheet exchange is enough.
Wyllow- the Interfaith group sounds wonderful. If only the whole world was like that. Interesting too.
What is wrong with D she’s like a dog with a bone. Just be true to yourself and don’t let her spoil things.
Thr Art Group too sounds great. Go when you can - laughter and Art a great combination.
HVDY- glad SiL has improved- the sleep will have done her good. My friend sleeps a lot and can be really grumpy on waking.
Everything you tell us about LG makes her more endearing. What a lovely little souls she is.
Money can bring great pleasure and also much pain. But I agree being able to share with family is lovely. Your poor brother leads such a cheerless life. I love a treat like you. My own current favourite one is a bag of Gigantic Cadburys Chocolate Buttons.
Nadateturbe- your Sis turned up like a Guardian Angel- you must have been so pleased to see her.
You,re right about warm baths - so comforting.
What wonderful news about your Daughter. She must have felt the vibes across the sea!
SweetPeaSue- you can’t stop worrying just like that. You,ve been plagued with it for so long . But now there is some light at the end of the tunnel and that awful dread will gradually subside.
Your DiL will be so happy to have your DS back home. It’s so hard for her isn’t it to see her Mum so ill with no hope of a recovery. Hopefully a hospice bed will become available soon.
Glennie- Hello and welcome. This is a kind supportive group and we are always ready to listen.
Yes small moments can make big memories.

Love to all - those mentioned and all friends

nadateturbe It's blustery here, too. We've got a Dacia Sandero now. It was cheap but has been reliable (it's 6 years old now), so far. Having your daughter visit will give you something to look forward to. The weather will be good by then, and you'll probably go out somewhere.

Glennic Welcome. Hope you find some threads that interest you. Are you in England?

How's everyone getting on today? I did aqua aerobics, then had brunch at the pub, then hoovered, mopped and polished whilst DH went to Son2's to fix his bathroom light. Apparently, LG wondered where I was . x

Good afternoon from a stormy Co Antrim!
I don't remember you mentioning an itch before Sweetpeasue. I hope you managed to calm it and get back to sleep.
EllieAnne maybe you need to talk to someone about how you feel. Perhaps Wyllow3 is right and you are now in survival mode. Sending you a hug.
Wyllow3 I think I would have been angry with D as well. you were right to respond as you did. Good for you!
I'm glad the art group went well. Ours is weekly, which I like. Maybe at some stage when you know everyone better you might be able to ask others if they would like to meet more frequently. I used to go to two each week, but it was too much. The detective program sounds worth a try. Thanks.
HVDY I agree about spending. I had to be careful for years. Now I like to treat myself if I feel like it. What's the point of having it sitting in the bank? Although I do like to keep a certain amount, with the state of the NHS. We also like to share with our children. My husband would still be careful in some ways, I think old habits die hard.
We buy Hyundai, our local dealer is very good. Good price and have never had any problems. I think if you find a make youre happy with it makes sense to stay with them. A heated windscreen would have been good. Yes, my sister's visit was well timed. I'm still on (horrible) antibiotics but I had got into panic mode about it spreading.
Little girl sounds like a delight to have around. I'm glad she's feeling well.
Doodle I hope you're feeling better today and rested. I find if I'm chilled a warm bath makes me feelbetter. The panini sounds tasty. I too used to iron bedding, I stopped and the bed looks fine.
Hi Glennie, and welcome. There's a wide variety of threads. I'm sure you'll find some threads that interest you.

Oh and my daughter sent a text to say they will be visiting in the summer holidays. She must have read my mind.

Hi Glen welcome to GN. Hope you find it a good place to be.
There are a couple of groups you might be interested in. The Goodmorning thread which is new every day and Soops Kitchen for friendly chat.

You are most welcome on our Black Dog thread too where we try and support each other in a gentle and sensitive manner through some of life’s more difficult and depressing moments.
Hope you enjoy getting to know people.

Hi everyone! 👋
My name is Glen, and I’m excited to be here! I’m a bit of a newbie, still learning the ropes, but I’m really looking forward to meeting amazing people, sharing stories, and having some great conversations. I’ve always believed that the best connections come from genuine chats, laughter, and even the small moments that make life memorable.
A little about me: I enjoy learning new things, exploring different perspectives, and connecting with people who have interesting stories to tell. I’m someone who loves a good laugh, meaningful conversations, and creating moments that make life brighter.
I’m really hoping to make some friends here, exchange ideas, and just enjoy the positive energy of this group. I may be new, but I promise to bring a friendly vibe, curiosity, and an open heart to every conversation.
Looking forward to getting to know all of you and being a part of this wonderful community! Feel free to say hi, I’d love to chat. 😊

I missed out the lovely sister experience, nadateturbe. Aw, that was good to hear.

I dont watch the in-depth real life foresnsic gritty dramatic ones, just the "one night shift in life of ambulance etc". I find it heart warming there are so many lovely people just wanting to help out there I think.

otherwise I am currently hooked on a light but such fun but its on Amazon Prime, honestly such fun, strong women characters, eye candy detective male hero.
www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=the+modern+miss+fisher+myslteries&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

Bit tired today, Hopefully post tomorrow while DH is at Tai Chi. Sending love to everyone, hope you have a peaceful night.xx