I’m really sorry you’re going through this, what you’re describing is incredibly distressing, especially while you’re also caring for two young children. It makes complete sense that you feel sad and overwhelmed.
I can’t diagnose your mum, but what you describe is very commonly consistent with delirium, particularly in older adults with an infection.
Delirium is:
Sudden change from someone’s normal personality or thinking
Often triggered by infection, even if the infection doesn’t seem severe
Very common in people over 65
Characterised by:
Talking nonsense or being confused
Personality changes (“this is not my mum at all” is something families say a lot)
Fluctuating lucidity (better at some times of day, worse at others)
Agitation, fear, or withdrawal
Delirium is usually temporary, but it can last days to weeks — sometimes longer — even after antibiotics start working. Recovery is often slow and uneven (good days, bad days). Being in hospital itself (noise, sleep disruption, unfamiliar faces) can worsen delirium.
A “small dose of antibiotics over weeks” suggests they may be treating a slow or stubborn infection, which can prolong symptoms.
You are entitled to clear answers. Consider asking:
“Do you think this is delirium?”
“What is the underlying cause — and are we sure the infection is controlled?”
“Has she been screened for dehydration, electrolyte imbalance, low oxygen, pain, or medication side effects?”
“What is the plan if her confusion doesn’t improve?”
If delirium hasn’t been explicitly acknowledged, it should be.
