Do you think you know when you are going to die?

Sorry, I mean ''know'' not ''now!''

I'm into my third year of poor health and I don't want to think about dying .
It's why -those constant advertisements for cremations make me feel really depressed .

A big 🫂 to all those who are poorly just try and enjoy every minute.
During my mother’s last years she was in a Residential home where she knew when she was about to die after having a stroke when aged 102. The last words I heard from her was;
‘ When we next meet I will be in a coffin’

Cath8 i am so sorry to hear that. My son, with cancer, talks to me that way too..kind of leaves us speechless, not knowing how to reply.

Still dizzy. Im not sure how i progress from here. trying to get things in order

Macaydia

Cath8 i am so sorry to hear that. My son, with cancer, talks to me that way too..kind of leaves us speechless, not knowing how to reply.

I do hope you are getting good support with this.

Judging by the various replies it seems that the feeling you are about to pass on can just as easily be a false alarm as the real thing. So it may be impossible to know with any kind of certainty. Our brains behave in all sorts of strange ways especially during times of illness or mental strife.

The only thing you can say for sure is that the mind and body work together and a positive outlook will heal the body. Corny but true. Connect with nature when possible and maybe just maybe you will pull through and find some sunlight shining through the gloom and recovery on its way.

That is exactly what i have been thinking about today: how my mind, attitude and thoughts are shaping my health. I am not down at all but thank you for all of the stories and experiences you have shared. I can really relate to each post. It does make me think about things in a different way.

I am trying to stay alive for my DS because ...well, he has stage 4 cancer and I am his carer.

Aveline I know that was a difficult post for you to share but I hope you feel okay about getting it out. I am also very "in tune" like that - cant help it. You did nothing wrong - you just have a gift and felt something.

Fallingstar, yes, I agree. Being ill, and losing our loved ones does make us feel down. The advice on GN is very helpful. I do hope that you are comfortable now, and can find calm, and rest, so that you are peaceful. My gran would say "their page has turned". Try to relax doing things that you enjoy, meditate, remember happy things, be surrounded by things/memories that you cherish, and/ or people who you love.

I was very impressed at my Gran making a big effort after my Grandad died and she was having to move houses. She just said that it was the start of a new chapter. She died almost fifty years ago and I miss her to this day.

Aged Aunt was very run down and not happy with the decline in her health and her inability to live her life as she wished. She said to me one Friday when I was visiting her "I'm going to have to go into a Home, aren't I?" I replied it might be for the best, for a while anyway. I asked which place she would prefer of the local choices and she suggested one. I said I would help make the arrangements. She said "Don't do anything until after the weekend please", but said it was OK if I checked that a place was available, which I did.

Her carer found her dead in bed on the Monday morning. Heart attack.

I am expecting to die when I am 82. I have thought that for many years. There is no particular reason. I just have no concept of my life after that age. If I am still on here in 5 years time, you can remind me what I have said today and tell me how wrong I was.

Anyway, in case my feeling is correct, I have been reading the books I never got round to reading, disposing of those I will never want to read again and sorting through my Music collection. I have reminded my daughters that my husband's grave is a double depth with the top layer available for a second coffin or ashes. (Up to them).

I am also trying to get my will updated. Not easy as three of our four local Solicitors have closed in recent years. The remaining firm, which my family has used for the past 60 years or so, put me on the waiting list to see their Will writer in February, with a warning I might not get an appointment until April. I rang them last week. They have been taken over by a "Corporate". The fees have been more than doubled since I spoke to them in February. I fear the friendly, helpful, personal service I used to receive will not be the same.

My dd has been a medic for six years now and she said when it comes to the process of dying, there are no absolutes as to how it will go. She’s seen people who are well enough to go home from hospital suddenly die with no warning, someone else who stated that she’d come to die in a hospice although she was nowhere near the end of the illness. She did indeed die, within three days!

One remarkable time, the crash team was trying to revive a cardiac arrest patient, though they held out little hope. Dd was sent elsewhere but she returned at the end of her shift to ask after the patient. The woman was sitting up in bed with a cup of tea and doing a book of sudoku puzzles!

Dd says she’s no longer surprised by the surprises that patients spring on her.

I was diagnosed with bowel cancer twenty five years ago and had to actually face the idea that I may die, all I could think about was my family that I would leave behind. That made me feel very distressed rather than the fact of facing death myself.

That is exactly how i felt last time. I knew it was the end for me but i wasnt afraid. I was just sad for my children.

I drove myself to the A&E, they found my brain was saturated, rushed me to another hospital for two brain surgeries. Said they didnt know why I was still alive. I overheard a surgeon say, "That lady walked in here. Im pretty sure shes going to walk out of here". So I did.

I saw a GP today and he said I will be fine. I will get better but my memory might never heal. Thats fine - I am just here for the ride and it sure has been a wild one. Last decade for me.

I just did some research and everyone said that before their loved one died, their loved one started seeing relatives (who had died) one week prior.

Macaydia

I saw a GP today and he said I will be fine. I will get better but my memory might never heal. Thats fine - I am just here for the ride and it sure has been a wild one. Last decade for me.

Good oh, I wished you well in your recovery and pleased to hear that you are indeed recovering.

Heartfelt best wishes for the strength and energy in your carer roll though. It is hard as many of us have found.

I read a post by OrchidFlower10 (wonderfully written) which said,

"One day life will quietly end, not with a dramatic warning but in the middle of ordinary moments— unfinished plans, unread messages, dreams still waiting for their time.

The world will not stop; it will keep moving just as it always has. Streets will stay busy, people will laugh, the sun will rise again. And that is the strange truth of life: we are temporary in a world that continues endlessly."

"Laugh loudly, chase experiences, forgive quickly, and appreciate the moments that seem ordinary today. Because one day, these ordinary moments will be the most valuable things you ever had."

🙏Thank you, WhiteWaveMark2.

Yes, thank you, that's lovely.

Sorry the thanks was for the OrchidFlower10 post. Although your post was nice too Whitewavemark2!

Macaydia

I just did some research and everyone said that before their loved one died, their loved one started seeing relatives (who had died) one week prior.

I believe this is true, I have seen loved ones lift up their arms on the point of death, as if they were being welcomed across.

I googled the lovely quotation above and a page came fup with expanded thoughts. All very calming and comforting. I think it was written by AI and had a title .The Weight of Ordinary Days.

The sort of page to read regularly. I came across a song some time back with the words "just a flicker then a breeze" which I find comforting.

But I do agree that leaving friends and family behind is so sad more than the fear of death.

Marg75

I was diagnosed with bowel cancer twenty five years ago and had to actually face the idea that I may die, all I could think about was my family that I would leave behind. That made me feel very distressed rather than the fact of facing death myself.

I nearly died 8 years ago cancer then sepsis which they couldnt get under control. I was told by my surgeon that I was more likely than not to die after the second op and that people with my severity of sepsis usually do not make it! My main worry was how my family would cope and it was that which motivated me rather than a fear of death. When I was unconscious, I saw both my late parents and they told me that my time hasn’t come. I still get emotional and I think about it now.

My daughter’s children have just lost their beloved paternal Grandad - a strong fit 83 year old. No health issues, no regular medication.
He was carrying a bag of compost out of the garage, when he collapsed. When his wife returned from town, she found.
Called for an ambulance but it was too late