Do you think you know when you are going to die?

Oh Macaydia I have just read your other post and I am so sorry. I do hope you survive this feeling of doom and you have people you love around you at this time.

My OH, who was a doctor, had Parkinsons. When he fell over one day he said to me: "This is the beginning of the end." He was right.

I have a raft of heart problems and have been putting my house in order so my family know my wishes in the event of me either becoming incapacitated or dying.

I am so sorry you have been unwell and hope that that you can be well enough now to enjoy life.

Thank you. I am alright and cheerful enough. I just feel that my end is coming but I didnt know it would be so soon. The doctors didnt say anything bad but seriously, how could things improve? Its a "toss up" now.

I am too dizzy to walk much and my head hurts most of the day. This is a very new place I am in, figuratively.

Luckygirl your post about your doctor scared me too. Maybe some people do know. They just dont say anything.

Dragonfly, I have my dear GNetter friends around me. ❤️

I can only say that is exactly how I felt when I had a particularly bad episode of bronchitus. Told my visiting daughters that this was the start to my end.

They replied that I was pretty poorly, but bronchitus normally has a three week period - and, much to my astonishment after about three weeks I began to feel better. This all happened back in 2021 - and am still here.

We know not the day nor the hour.
Hope you make a full recovery Macaydia

Macaydia

I am feeling that way now so am trying to get things in order. Do you think people know beforehand? Has it happened to you before?

Is it just my imagination? (I dont think so).

The day I lost my husband, he was unusually quiet beforehand and I could tell something wasnt quite right.

I have just been home from the hospital and I also feel that I am not okay but the doctors did everything they could before sending me home. I had a stroke, bleeding in the brain, fractured skull from a fall and now a brain blood clot.

I have to get better tomorrow somehow but I am feeling like this is the beginning of the end. Not to be negative but these things do happen as we get older. Its a bit sad but not unexpected.

After suffering such major health problems, and losing your beloved husband a few months ago it is hardly any wonder you feel like this.
My DH had a massive stroke and bleed on the brain nearly 18 months ago. I am now his full time carer, he has many disabilities as a result, and he does get in a very dark place and says that he knows he is dying. I understand completely how he feels, and how you feel, but none of us know when we will go, though being older and suffering ill health we imagine it will happen sooner.
But you are still recovering from a bereavement and a stroke so you will feel physically and mentally in a slump.
Keep posting on here and take it easy. The Stroke Association has a forum where you can also talk to others who have been through what you have suffered physically.
I wish you respite and relief 💐💐

It's OK to be negative. All feelings are perfectly fine.

Oreo

We know not the day nor the hour.
Hope you make a full recovery Macaydia

I second this and send love and best wishes

When you are going through serious health events it is pretty common to think “will I ever get better or is this the beginning of the end”? Your body may surprise you if you just give it time to heal.

You sound a lovely person. Wishing you well.

I have this feeling too. I am going in for an op on Monday and the hibiscrub and nasal gel is being done but I feel very weary. DH keeps making arrangements for things to be done which involve me driving him and I don’t want to. He’s not done it on purpose but I wish we could just have a sandwich and not have him list all the things in the freezer that I should cook . I remember my mother the day before she died and I’m mirroring her.but no we don’t know the hour.🍾🏅💐to us for striving.

Through all my years of caring I have seen it only a handful of times that a resident knew their time was near to the end.
I’ve witnessed them talking to someone when there was no sign of anyone else in the room.
My dad, Alzheimer’s, said to mum the day before he died, ‘quite lucid’, ‘sorry to have been a burden on her & thank you for looking after him. I do have to add he called her mum a lot towards the end.

You don’t say how old you are. Could it be that you are depressed?

Hmm. I felt like that several times and then recovered to my amazement. Then there was a new pathway to follow.

So sorry for how you’re feeling, Maycaydia. I know that a feeling of doom can be symptomatic of some medical issues. Can you discuss it with your doctor?
All the best X

Stansgran, I'm sorry but I really think some men need to sort their own needs out and not expect women to do it.

I am sorry you are feeling down Maycaydia. You obviously have serious health issues, but sometimes, with time and the right medication, these can be overcome.

I hope you are feeling well enough to see friends and family, and to get the most out of life. Sending love and hugs to you. xx

I sometimes think it's how you feel in your body and only you know that. I'm 68 now, not old but I know I'm slowing down, my memory isn't great anymore and with balance issues I often wonder if I've got 10 years of good health left. I've got to consciously force those dark thoughts away and try to focus on happier things
It's natural as we age to wonder more about what's "going to get us in the end" but if you dwell on it too much, it's just a downward spiral.
I've had great support from the 'Grans' lately Macaydia and I'm sure we'll all do our best to help you through your worries too
Love and good wishes xx

Maycadia I am so sorry you have been ill and are now having these awful feelings. I hope you are having some continuing care and someone to call on when you need them. Best wishes.

I'm the opposite. I almost died recently, apparently, but had no clue and was completely surprised when they told me what a lucky escape I'd had.
This has changed my thinking, of course. I can't stop going over it in my mind and every morning my first thought is
'Will I die today?'

Basgetti

So sorry for how you’re feeling, Maycaydia. I know that a feeling of doom can be symptomatic of some medical issues. Can you discuss it with your doctor?
All the best X

This is what I was going to suggest, Maycaydia. Your GP might be able to help you to get support from counselling or other help.

Well I thought I was going to die when I collapsed on the tennis court.
I thought well if I’m going to die it’s not so bad! Obviously I’m fine now, on BP tablets but that has given me much comfort. I wasn’t worried at all.
My mum wasn’t well after Christmas and was convinced she wouldn’t recover. She’s fine now and we are shopping for a new wheelchair.
So I would say that in my family we aren’t very good at judging time of death.

Once we cross our 75th year, thoughts go to how, when and where the end will come. I have told my young neighbour who lives opposite to check my curtains. If they are not open by 10am, I have asked her to come in and check on me. She has my house-key, also my children’s tel nos.

Macaydia