Lully It is amazing how much they can learn to do when they have to. My girls were about 13 and 15 when I rebelled. I had been washing their clothes and returning them to their rooms neatly folded (I drew the line at putting them away)
Then one day I recognised a lot of the clothes in the laundry baskety as ones I had taken upstairs clean for them the day before. How the heck had they got them dirty that soon?
Answer - they tried on a dozen things before they were happy with what they wore, and threw the rejects on the floor. Then they were yelled at to tidy up, so they scooped them all up again and threw them into the laundry basket.
I gave them a short lesson in how to separate the things for a hot wash from the things for a warm short one, showed them how to put in detergent, choose a program and turn on the washing machine, and told them they were now responsible for having clean clothes to put on. From then on, they coped fine, and when their brother was a few years older, they insisted that he washed his own too.
The only minus point to this was that the washing machine was in the cellar, where there was no natural light, so they would switch on the light and leave it on until they remembered to get their clothes out of the machine - which could be days later. Between that and the machine being used for a few items when they ran short of clothes ( x 3), the bills soared.