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Doll's house.

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rubylady Fri 17-Jul-15 01:34:43

My doll's house came today which I ordered off ebay. I bought it because I have been looking for one which was as alike to one I had as a child as I could get. This one is perfect. Strangely I have had a warm glow since opening it. From my childhood, all apart from my Tiny Tears has been got rid of in one way or another, all without my knowledge or consent at the time. This probably happened while I was at school. Now, thinking back I had some lovely things, a matchbox collection which took me years to build up, the Diddymen, Wade pottery, my Tiny Tears accessories (bath, highchair, coach built pram) and plenty of other things which I loved and cherished. I do think they were probably sold on. (My mother also sneaked into my room to read my diary.)

I have never in my childrens lives thrown anything away without their consent and knowledge.

So in getting my doll's house, I feel part of me has come back, if that doesn't sound too strange. I don't even know if I will kit it out, just to have the house is comforting enough.

I don't know how a parent can throw away or sell a child's belonging and gifts (let's face it, they weren't theirs to get rid of). Has anyone else had this happen to them?

Also, to do with the past, the family photos got put outside by someone (my mother blames my dad) and they all got water damaged, so now I have very few photos of growing up, probably less than six. And we had loads. Very upsetting to lose them.

BiNtHeReDuNiT14 Fri 17-Jul-15 14:06:31

Oh rubylady I am so pleased that getting your dolls house has meant so much to you. It was the same for me, my mother and father had an an acrimonious split when I was 12 and all my things went 'missing'. I too remember a set of lovely wade figures I got as birthday presents and a dressing table set that I loved and my first doll that my Gran bought me. I mourned losing those treasures for years. I don't think it was intentional to hurt me just circumstances but makes me too hang onto as much as I can that belonged to my children. I am sure they will want to reminisce one day.
My DH was always going to make a dolls house but never seemed to have the time, so I have a bathroom set if ever you feel you want to furnish it, it's yours.

HildaW Fri 17-Jul-15 17:11:21

I shall not go into details rubylady, but similar happened to me. I dared to leave home and get married and what I did not take then disappeared!

ninathenana Fri 17-Jul-15 17:24:31

DH has a half finished dolls house cluttering up our spare room. There's a large box in the loft with furniture for it.
There is also a very large box of sentimental stuff belonging to DD. Who moved out 9 yrs ago. It will stay there until she tells me otherwise, sad for you both.

rubylady Fri 17-Jul-15 19:10:00

BiNtHeReDuNiT14 Thank you for your wonderful offer, I will think about it, I might take you up on that and PM you. smile flowers

The spooky thing about me getting the house very similar to my childhood one is that it looks from the outside like the house we are now in! Mock Tudor upstairs and brick downstairs. If it was a premonition, then in my next life I am going to ask my new parents for a doll's house mansion! lol.

rubylady Fri 17-Jul-15 19:12:31

Btw, my DS thinks I'm strange buying it, but then he's not been through a lifetime of stuff yet.

flowers to all of you who have missed your childhood memories in the shape of your belongings. [heart emoticon]

rosesarered Fri 17-Jul-15 19:17:12

Good for you ruby, it sounds as if you need this house, to connect you with childhood.I never had very much, to go missing in the first place, but do remember being miffed that my Noddy books had been given to a young child next door.I have nothing at all from my childhood, but am ok with that.

suzied Fri 17-Jul-15 19:24:41

I still have a 60 year old teddy bear known as Teddy Johnson ( remember him?) he's lost a lot of stuffing and his musical box but I won't part with him. My DCs can chuck him in a skip but I can't! I wasn't into dolls as a child but I now have a modernist dolls house built by DH for the GDs which I've enjoyed decorating and furnishing.

rubylady Fri 17-Jul-15 19:27:10

Nothing wrong with a bit of childlike play in my opinion. Men have their model trains, video games, airfix kits etc so why should we be grown up all the time?smile

annsixty Fri 17-Jul-15 19:32:14

suzied are we talking the partner of Pearl Carr? That really is a "blast from the past".

numberplease Fri 17-Jul-15 22:08:20

I`d love a dolls house, to furnish from scratch, but I don`t have anywhere to keep one, apart from upstairs, but I don`t want it to be out of the way, I want it on display.

rubylady Fri 17-Jul-15 22:50:51

Can you not put a shelf up and put one on there numberplease? smile

Elegran Fri 17-Jul-15 23:14:59

Dolls house furniture comes in 1/24 scale as well as 1/12, and you could make rooms to put it in. A room 6 inches deep would represent a room 12 feet deep. That would fit on a bookshelf.

You can get shallow display boxes 21cm x 31cm x 18cm to make single rooms, decorating and furnishing one room at a time and stacking them on top of and beside each other.

HildaW Sat 18-Jul-15 14:44:36

For those short on space...you can have 'rooms' Like an open sided shoe box but in wood. You can get as carried away as you like....our little group entered a competition for rooms...we did a Mrs Hudson style kitchen....and won a prize!

numberplease Sat 18-Jul-15 17:07:14

No Rubylady, no room for a shelf, I`d already considered that, and if there was, my hubby, even in his healthier days, would have balked at the idea of putting up a shelf for a dolls house, or for anything really!

etheltbags1 Sat 18-Jul-15 20:38:24

nearly all the people I know throw everything away. a neighbour used to go into her kids room a few days before xmas and take all last years toys to the dump. Her excuse was that there was no room for the new toys at xmas, this happened every year.

My friends daughter does the same as she says her house is too small and she doesn't allow clutter in her living room, all toys must be boxed and hidden before her husband gets in each night, she cleared an antique rocking horse out not caring what it was worth and when I said Id buy it she said it was on the skip.

I think the younger generation are the true 'throw away generation' so when an older friend said she had bought a dolls house for herself I laughed thinking she was a bitty dotty until I read this thread.

I didn't have many toys of any sort when I was small and there are lots I would like to buy but am scared I will get laughed at.

rubylady Sun 19-Jul-15 02:33:55

ethel Go for it, who's going to laugh at you and why do you care if they do? I don't give a rats behind anymore what anyone thinks about me. I've had a lovely day today looking for retro toys on ebay for the dreaded Christmas word, tiddlywinks, Simon the electronic game, snakes and ladders, Rubiks cube, retro sweets. All for me and my 18 year old to enjoy at Christmas and to buy slowly over next few months. He doesn't need anything and it will be fun to play some old games together.

You go and have a look, there are some lovely toys on ebay and reasonable prices too. You get the pleasure of looking and ordering, receiving and then playing, triple whammy. When do we tell men off for playing or "collecting" old toys? Never. They even usually have a shed to play in!

Btw, I could do with talking to your friend, we could discuss furniture and fittings for our new doll's houses.

smile

suzied Sun 19-Jul-15 05:34:57

www.notonthehighstreet.com/qubisdesign/product/qubis-haus
For those who don't have much space and £500 to spare this is an interesting design of dolls house which is also a coffee table.
I liked Lundby dolls house when my DD was small in the 70s, they are 1/18 th scale so smaller than the normal dolls house , you can get these on eBay and the 70s furniture is sweet ( pink bathroom suites etc) i did buy an eBay one for the GDs before my OH built a huge one for them , mainly because I wanted to decorate it!,
annsixty , yes Teddy Johnson was the partner of Pearl Carr( I said the teddy was 60 years old!). I think they won the first Eurovision.