"I don't have that problem"

DH does all the shopping and hates me to accompany him which suits me as I can't abide hanging around while he compares prices and offers. He then does the cooking too but I do everything else including looking after the huge garden and most other 'heavy' stuff. Suits us both

We both enjoy supermarket shopping, so we do it together. I love deciding where we'll go. Sainsburys, Tesco, Asda, Co-op, all get a go.

Our household division of labour has been fairly worked out according to our jobs / free time ratio. When I was working a 70-hour week , my DH did all the weekday cooking and the groceries shopping too. We would share other household cleaning tasks. I do the hovering, he does the garden ...There has never been an issue. I do more now that I am at home in terms of cooking, cleaning and ironing etc, but when I start full-time work again next week, he will step up again. I have had so many people say ' Oh you are lucky with him.' NO - I would not have married someone who wasn't prepared to share what should be shared. Simples.

Good grief! I wouldn't let the ex husband or my 2nd husband anywhere near doing the main shop, even with a list. Neither any good at the food shopping side. I rarely take hub with me as all I get is moaned at, about why we need xyz and then he proceeds to put luxuries in the trolley he wants but no one else.

I do our main shop once a week online now. Then pick up what we need during the week as needed from the supermarket. I will ask the hub to get milk, bread and the like if he is going out and near s shop. Anymore no.

On anything else like cooking, washing, cleaning we share

When we both worked shopping was done on a Saturday morning, only a small Sainsbury in local Town so we used the Butchers & Greengrocers as well. Then we got a large Tesco about a mile from home which was very handy. I also did top up shopping as I worked in a Town with a good M&S and Waitrose.

DH & I shared jobs, we both did the cooking, I did the washing, dusting & tidying. He cleaned the kitchen & bathroom also did the hoovering. Taking bins out & sorting re-cycling was my job.

In the garden DH mowed the lawn & I dealt with the rest of it, I love gardening.

Now I'm widowed of course it's all down to me, smaller garden & no lawn which suits me. Housework gets done when I feel like it

I have done almost all our shopping since 1981, when I passed my driving test. Before that DH always came to help carry everything home. He never took his test, so I can't send him to do the weekly shop. Now he's retired I ask him to pick up odd things on the way past the shops (he likes to go out for long walks). Sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth. I recently asked him to pick up a 4 pint bottle of 1% milk. The shop had none, so he sent me a text, which I didn't see, hung about for a while, then came home with nothing. They had 1 pint bottles, but he didn't even get one of those. So I had to make a special trip. IT WAS HIS MILK, I use skimmed!!

My daughter won't let her husband do the shopping as her bill would be at least doubled !!

Definitely not. However, I do like to buy the household items such as bleach/cleaners etc..as I usually look for offers which men are not very good at observing!

Never was in this household.

there's no husband or partner in my household! just myself, my daughter and two grandaughters.
i do the main shop online at tesco, asda and, occasionally, sainsbury's. it gets delivered to the door and the grandaughters put it away.
my daughter does any top up shopping on her way home from work [on the days she works].
now and again i'll get her to take me to the supermarket but need to use their disabled buggy thingies .............. you'd be surprised how something so big can just disappear! nobody seems to see me - and i'm a larger lady! but people walk into the buggy from all sides and never to look to see if i'm there. and, of course, it seems that everything i need is on the top shelf so i have to stand up [not an easy task] to reach - and there's never anyone around to help.
another problem is that there are families and couples all grouped around the items i need [well sometimes] discussing, for instance, which butter they want to get this week or how many packs.
or there'll be the "spare" husband parked at the end of the aisle with the trolley and told to "stay there" while his wife goes up and down to get what they need - poor chap he's always in someone's way.
by the way, when i did have a husband, i always did the shopping on my own as he'd always complicate things and it would cost so much more as he just fancied this and that.
i hate shopping!!!

I had to undertake 'shopping duties' when I was eight. That soon taught me how to deal with people behind the counter and long before we had any supermarkets.

Today shopping is so much easier and it enables me to find those new products that my family may take a fancy to. So I do about half the shopping; my wife insists on doing those bits she wants to make choices about such as fresh meat. We often do the shopping together which saves a lot of time.

Before I retired, My husband did a lot of the shopping, however, he always came back with things we didn't need or was always bulk buying for no reason ( all very costly).
He can't cook, but cleans very well, so he bought the cleaning stuff and I get the food, then I'm sure I don't get any waste. Btw, we have enough cleaning stuff to last us a year.

I don't think it matters who does what, as long as the couple are happy with it.

In our case its not "man jobs and woman jobs" we do the things we like and enjoy doing.I'm not a gardener ,if pushed I might rake up some grass and my other half wouldn't know where to start cooking dinner for 4 or 6 people whereas I love cooking .I 'm happiest looking after my family .Surely thats what feminism is ,the choice to do what you want

I would say of course not, but it does depend on what suits the couple. My DH hates shopping and on the occasions he does come the bill soars! So we share the task; I go out and do it and then he is on hand to carry it all up from the basement garage to the kitchen. Teamwork!

I have to say I don't do much online food shopping as I much enjoy chatting to the checkout people (we live in a less populated area and I do try not to annoy other people in this way if there is a queue!). DH and I used to go to the supermarket together. However,aforementioned significant other is an incorrigible impulse buyer, as a result of which the bill was always 30% higher. So now I do the shopping alone, and he does the ironing (which I hate).Division of labour.

This thread cheered me up this morning..first wedding anniversary without my hubby who died few months ago.

IMO all household chores should be shared. I used to do the shopping, then I started night duty so DH took over, then he got cancer so I stopped work and did everything and looked after him. But by that time shopping on line became popular. Thank god for that! Hate huge supermarkets and I can do my "big shop" on my iPad in bed. Now, that is luxury

My DH does, but a)it costs twice as much as when I go as he picks up what he fancies, not what is best value, b)he looks at the price on shelf labels but doesn't read what they say, so doesn't realise the price applies to anther item, c)he always buys the same things and d) lists don't make any difference, because he doesn't get half the stuff on them.

I gave up 'we wanna be together' shopping many years ago.It would take me longer to find DH, me searching the various aisle's to find him than it did to do a weekly shop.
Where would I find him? no other than blocking an aisle standing chatting to a pair of 'wanna be together shoppers'

I hope that chap on the radio is now making himself comfortable in the garden shed! What a pillock! We share most chores but DH is just out of hospital so I am doing everything and to be honest I am cream-crackered and I am realising how much hard labour he does when he is well. Raking out the Rayburn, bringing the coal in, he does most of the hovering and I dust and polish. All the cooking is down to me unless it is egg and chips which he can manage nicely. I am ignoring the overgrown lawn for now but I might have a go at it tomorrow.

Yes i heard that on r4 too, and i was surprised that he wasn't picked up by the interviewer on what he said. i wonder what his wife had to say when he got home. Didnt he say something like i have got a wife to do that sort of thing. ?

My husband does most of the food shopping these days, not because i cant, but he prefers to so i am not going to complain.

margret nothing to do with the OP but your Thora Hird (which I never saw) reminds me of Margo in The Good Life when I tradesman was about to come in through the French window, so funny.

Noooooooo!!!

I don't like shopping, never have, get frightened in supermarkets, all those people not looking where they're going, scary shopping trolleys banging into your ankles.

DH does the shopping online. He always liked going shopping to 'see what there was'. Now he does an online Tesco shop. I think he could do it better by looking at 'favourites' or 'last week's order' because mostly we order the same things. He insists on typing everything out again.

Was interested that someone wrote 'I don't like anyone else in my kitchen'. MY kitchen? Reminds me a bit of 'Last of the Summer Wine' - Thora Hird putting newspaper on the floor for her husband to walk on.

In reality Yes..not because I think that is how it should be but because that is how it still is..mostly

Yes, I look after the domestic side of thing. DH's job meant he travelled a lot, often at short notice for indeterminate periods of time. I saw myself as the household manager handling everything domestic and financial. House purchases and sales, the lot.

However, practically, I am completely inept, diagnosed in my 40s as dyspraxic, whereas DH is a whizz with all things mechanical and practical. This afternoon I have sat handing spanners, stanley knives and mole wrenches to DH while he assembled new large lawn-mower.

Our division of labour is based not on gender but on a skills.