"I don't have that problem"

I always did the shopping but I think that came about because when we first married DH was working two jobs and barely had time to eat and sleep never mind go shopping! When things became easier we would do the same as paddyann, OK I suppose it was based on "womens jobs" and "mens jobs" but it worked for us. Surely as long as both parties are happy with the arrangement that is all that matters.

Don't know if this is the thread you meant illtellhim, but it's a good one, on whether men's health is damaged if their female partner is the breadwinner.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3025890-Telegraph-reports-that-female-breadwinner-damage-their-husbands-health

Tuesdays I do the top up shop alone when H is working. Since he retired nearly ten yrs ago we do the big shop together and make joint decisions on what to buy we always have lunch out at the same time. It's just as likely to be H as me that stops and chats to people, which is fine I just carry on round the shop.
He's happy to walk to town (15mins) for extra milk etc. when needed.
In the 30 yrs we've known one couple it's always been him that shops as he does all the cooking.
We have "man jobs" and "women's jobs" in our house but shopping isn't one of them.

It can only be seen as a jest, in a society where it actually happens.

I used to do the big shop. Wouldn't have been fair to send DH as he doesn't drive and we don't have a donkey. Now we are retired we go shopping together mostly, just part of our routine. He is quite happy to pop to the shops on his bike for the odd thing. That bloke on the radio may have been speaking in jest or maybe he just has a death wish.

I think we still live in the 1950s .....by choice.I do the cooking cleaning,shopping ,washing ,ironing ,child care ,OH does the decorating ,repairs,garden ,car stuff etc...though he does make a decent cup of tea.I dont like anyone in my kitchen and if I want shopping it needs to be my choice not a subsitute that someone else thinks is just as good.It works for us ,we've been happily married for 42 years AND worked together every day since we met .

My hubby enjoys doing the supermarket shop just for the time it saves,when I go I know that many people locally I am sure to meet someone in the store and then 10mins are taken up catching up on things,this can happen 2/3 times when in store so he prefers me to stay home and he is back in super quick time with any bargains he has found to boot.

Not at all. I used to do all our weekly shopping before we both retired.
Used to be a real chore but necessary of course.
Now hubby loves to go and potter and spends a whole morning choosing the weekly shopping.

Not in this house! DH hates me going with him to the supermarket as I don't stop and read all the offers so I very kindly let him go on his own!

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