Hello, I am new to this forum and would value some wisdom from people who don't know me. Friends and family are confusing me!confused
I am 64 & have just been to Court after 6 years of going through a divorce. My ex lives in Brussels and hasn't been home in all these years. However, the house has now to be sold as part of the financial settlement and although I've been here in a small Thames Valley village for 20 years I can accept that the money I receive won't buy me much in the area, so I'm looking to move away. My 2 sons live in Sussex 2 hours away and I don't see much of them because they and their partners work and the grandchildren (2 & 4) are in nurseries all week. I appreciate that they have their lives and want to have their weekends free.
Anyway, the issue is that when I told them I'd be moving and thinking about the Southwest which I love, they became angry with me. They say it's because they want me to live closer to them and that they and my granddaughters would see more of me if I did. I tried to point out that I can buy a house in a lovely area not far from the sea & that the grandchildren could visit in the holidays (when they still have to work) and that I would be happy to make the journey to collect them if time didn't allow them to do so.
For the money I will have I could buy a nice house in the Southwest & I don't want to live in Sussex, I lived there before.
I also have a daughter who needs a room in my house as most of her belongings are here. She's a professional musician and lives in a tiny room in London, so keeping some of her stuff is important. We are very close and she's completely happy for me to move wherever I want to go. She just wants me to find somewhere I can start a new life and be happy.
I would be so grateful for people's thoughts & experiences on this. Its' hard enough having to sell my home and sort all my accumulated possessions, which I'm doing on my own. My sons can't come and help because they don't have the time. Maybe that says a lot.
