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Friends want to stay for two months - while moving house - help?

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Feelingmyage55 Thu 02-Nov-17 19:30:43

Casual friends, are moving house and need accommodation until they get an entry date. This might be in six weeks, so they would be in their own home by Christmas. But we all know the pitfall of entry dates ................ AIBU to worry that they will need to stay for longer? I have plenty of space but honestly just cannot be bothered being super tidy and organised for that length of time. What do I do about housekeeping? I am not financially stretched at all but .. am I worrying about nothing ? The parents both work full time and the children are at school all day and after school club until 5 pm. DH is working abroad so I feel like a sitting duck. Usually I just say okay but ... Help?

Feelingmyage55 Wed 08-Nov-17 13:36:01

Thank you - just what we would have done. Brought up to be independent but also generous so made saying no a challenge but knew that I would not have expected such help. I am a bit funny - if I am left to offer I am more generous but if I am asked or told I get a bit stuffy. I think it is the "imposition" thing. I suspect that there is a generation situation where I was up to be acquiescent and please others. Antyhow all the encouragement on the forum has helped me 1) say no and 2) not feel too guilty about it

FarNorth Wed 08-Nov-17 14:19:30

Don't feel guilty at all.
You are helping those people learn to take responsibility for themselves.

M0nica Wed 08-Nov-17 16:05:20

You have done the right thing. Now look forward to Christms,. knowing the only people in your house will be those near and dear that you want there.

missourisusan Sat 25-Nov-17 20:01:17

Presumptive people that don't offer money up front won't pay after they have run up YOUR bills. You will never collect from them-they will always have a reason not to pay. They think they have found a giver in you. Just say no and not sorry or explain. They don't really think you will say yes and won't be surprised.

MawBroon Sat 25-Nov-17 20:57:10

I understand feelingmyage had already reached her decision

BBbevan Sun 26-Nov-17 18:01:40

We stayed with DD and SiL, initially for 2 months. It turned into 4. Although we always felt welcome and did a lot of jobs for them when they were at work, we were all secretly glad when we could move into our new home.