Thank you - just what we would have done. Brought up to be independent but also generous so made saying no a challenge but knew that I would not have expected such help. I am a bit funny - if I am left to offer I am more generous but if I am asked or told I get a bit stuffy. I think it is the "imposition" thing. I suspect that there is a generation situation where I was up to be acquiescent and please others. Antyhow all the encouragement on the forum has helped me 1) say no and 2) not feel too guilty about it
How will things change if our summers keep getting hotter


