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Freezer hoarding

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Stansgran Thu 16-Nov-17 13:44:09

I've just been accused of being a hoarder because I have a four drawer freezer below the fridge and when it broke down I bought a very very small freezer which is empty and switched off at the moment. DH will not let me turn it on although he has said we can for extra Christmas food as we are hosting this year. I am always struggling to find space in the 4drawer freezer. I cook "from scratch"most days i.e. Soup should last for 2-3 days and the day I'm not making soup I make the evening meal with an aim of it covering two days . DH has taken over the shopping so I'm very much dealing with his shopping whims and fancies. In the freezer I like a pork fillet , a pack of 4-6 haddock fillets, beef mince,a pack of 8 chicken breasts,a pack of Toulouse sausages,a pack of lamb kidney and cocktail sausages permanently so that I can rustle up my repertoire of basic recipes at a moments notice but the moment I have them in the freezer DH insists it is hoarding and I should be using them.ie the kidney and cocktail sausages are rognons sautéed turbigo and the chicken and sausages are poor man's cassoulet. What do others who use their freezer as a kitchen tool have in their freezer? I wonder if I am being a hoarder. I know I am with sewing stuff but I feel the turnover in food is fast enough not to be hoarding. I just hate thinking I will just make xyz and finding I haven't enough to make the meal. There is no storage space for cooked food in the freezer so there has to be a quick turnover in the fridge. Would people kindly tell me what is their basic contents of the freezer? I'm doubting myself after years of cooking and managing to feed every one well. There are only two of us home now.

varian Thu 16-Nov-17 18:40:28

Who says things are "out of date"? Just defrost them and decide for yourself whether they are OK to eat.

mcem Thu 16-Nov-17 19:04:06

A controlling husband is a bigger problem than freezer space!
I agree with charleygirl - couldn't bear to have him tell me what to do ( unless he is seriously ready to take over shopping/storage/cooking and you agree to let him!)

M0nica Thu 16-Nov-17 19:41:21

Hoarding is not quantity it is not using the contents of the hoard.

I have a large chest freezer in my garage. It is always full, like harrigran's. A lot of what is in there is garden produce as I have a large and productive vegetable garden. In fact at this time of year I turn my small 'spare' freezer on to hold the surplus.

I generally know what is in it because it is packed into freezer baskets by product, with each basket going in a specific place, so everything gets used roughly in rotation. I defrost it about twice a year, when occasionally odd things come up. I then leave them at the top of the freezer tor remind me to use them up

Jalima1108 Thu 16-Nov-17 20:03:06

We have decided to try to eat up what we have in the freezers or make jams, jellies, give some fruit away.
One side of an American style fridge/freezer and two large upright freezers, one of which is stuffed full of home-grown fruit and vegetables.

My DH has mentioned the cost of electricity from time to time then gives up smile

Jalima1108 Thu 16-Nov-17 20:04:52

It's quite exciting finding something home-made where the label has fallen off!

What's for dinner? Not sure but it smells like curry smile

paddyann Thu 16-Nov-17 21:53:31

my OH has recently decided to come shopping with me and is horrified at the amount of food we buy....and use.Or rather HE uses.I tend to live on a very basic diet.He just never realised how much food cost before and since watching a programme called EAT WELL FOR LESS he's a wee bit obsessive.he'll have to get over it though as we have all 4 GC this weekend for 4 days ..so 3 meals each every day add snacks and drinks and I reckon the bill will be twice what it normally is .I daresay he wont cut back what he eats though...he tells everyone he eats better at home then he could in any local restaurant

phoenix Thu 16-Nov-17 22:36:15

The phrase "Dh won't let me turn it on" left me shock

Bathsheba Thu 16-Nov-17 22:46:42

The phrase "Dh won't let me turn it on" left me shock

My thoughts exactly phoenix. If my DH ever tried telling me I wasn't allowed to turn on a freezer, I think I'd probably bop him over the head with the proverbial frozen leg of lamb.

Jalima1108 Thu 16-Nov-17 22:54:47

Well, if DH made me turn off the freezer(s) I would make him do the meal planning, food shopping and all the cooking (and the washing up too).

He does keep hinting that the freezer in the garage is superfluous to requirements but I tell him that, in that case, he will have to dig up all his fruit bushes.

I think I'd probably bop him over the head with the proverbial frozen leg of lamb
Always an essential item to keep in the freezer grin

Jalima1108 Thu 16-Nov-17 22:57:45

paddyann add snacks and drinks
Is that for you? (four DGC all at the same time shock) you may need wine and chocolate!

Both good for you now, apparently, as long as it's red wine and dark chocolate.

kittylester Fri 17-Nov-17 07:51:37

I forgot rhe leg of lamb! grin

Mapleleaf Fri 17-Nov-17 07:59:16

Ask your DH what was the point of spending all that money on a freezer only to have it standing empty!! He comes across as a bit controlling, whether he is or is not.

MawBroon Fri 17-Nov-17 08:29:50

What is the point of having it empty indeed?
This is a disturbing picture and only Stansgran can tell,us if there are any mitigating circumstances.
The contents you quote stansgran sound eminently practical to me and when there are just the two of you batch cooking/baking makes excellent sense, so I cannot imagine what he is thinking of. I also keep enough in the way of ingredients (eg mince, sliced onions) to knock up a quick shepherds pie or lasagne if I know someone is coming, and I keep a small sliced loaf, a bag of oven chips and some sausages as back up. A boned chicken or a small whole one if reduced or on offer is another standby.
I had to smile though as DD1 has just defrosted and cleaned out my (big) fridge jettisoning vast quantities of (frankly) disposable stuff. She cast longing eyes on my identical freezer- they match and stand side by side to give the equivalent of one of those American monsters - but I defended it saying that I needed to live off my hump for a while as my circumstances will be quite severely “stretched” living on my own pension alone. Remarks about enough to withstand a nuclear Winter were IGNORED.

gillybob Fri 17-Nov-17 09:02:35

I'm the same as cornergran a tiny freezer below the fridge . Not even 3 full drawers as the bottom one is half depth. No room for anything much really . Peas, a loaf, ice cream, cornettos ( DGD1's favourite treat) a couple of portions of bolognese, fish fingers and it's just about full . Don't have the room for anything bigger. Miss my huge one in previous house .

acanthus Fri 17-Nov-17 10:07:11

Carry on Stansgran - no need for self-doubt. I have three drawers full of vegetables, ready-meals, fish, sausages, runner-beans from the summer etc. Plus three drawers in my DH's fridge-freezer (same kitchen - he just likes to keep his snacks separate as he can never find them in the main fridge).

sandelf Fri 17-Nov-17 10:21:03

Oh Stansgran - you're doing fine. He just needs to be a bit more flexible.

Molly10 Fri 17-Nov-17 10:32:20

Definitely doesn't sound like hoarding to me.

I wish I had the room to have a drawer freezer or more freezer space, as I only have a half and half fridge freezer with the freezer being slightly smaller. I think you can really see what you have in those drawers much better.

Recently I needed to change my fridge freezer as it was frosting up. The new styles are ridiculously small with their curved edges so I actually get much less in them now. This was a real problem as no room to store all the garden produce.

In my mind it is common sense to be able to stock your freezer up, whether this is garden produce, home cooking or reduced products in store.

Your husband must be living in the ICE AGE ... grin

Jaycee5 Fri 17-Nov-17 10:38:36

My freezer does not hold much and I wouldn't mind a small extra one and I live alone (and am definitely not a hoarder).
Hoarding is an anxiety disorder and whether you are one depends on how you feel if anyone tries to throw away some of the food, eg. because it had been there too long. Apart from the annoyance that anyone would feel if someone tried to manage them, would you feel real heightened anxiety? If you filled the small freezer would you want more space? Have you had a previous problem with collecting anything besides food? Do you have problems generally getting rid of things? How would you feel if you were asked to do something other than your usual shopping trip for food?
Hoarding can be relatively mild to an extreme where it becomes a social disorder. My cousin is a hoarder but he and his wife manage to keep it to the living room and the spare bedroom. The kitchen is spotless. It is the way they choose to live and I have learned not to say that I would like to buy something unless I am prepared to spend the next 5 hours relentlessly hunting for it however many times I say that I am not that bothered.
If you are a hoarder, someone trying to take control of that will just make the anxiety worse and he needs to be made to understand that. No one should have the right to tell you that you can't switch on a freezer and eke out permission.

nipsmum Fri 17-Nov-17 10:55:17

There are huge advantages with living alone. I have a substantial fridge freezer and an average size chest freezer. Here is only me but both are well used. I cook when I feel like it, I bake too, and also keep frozen chips uncooked meats and fish. No one ever complained that I hoard. I used to live 20 miles from the nearest decent sized supermarket, but I now have at least 3 within a five minute drive and still use both freezers. I could cope with several weeks of being snowed in and not starve. Don't be bullied by your DH or anyone else. You are an adult person after all.

W11girl Fri 17-Nov-17 11:16:02

Typical male comment! I get accused of being a hoarder but I totally ignore it. When DH wants something I am always able to put my hands on it...if I wasn't a "hoarder" as he puts it, he wouldn't have everything to hand. God forbid that I would let him do the shopping!! I have a 4 drawer freezer with all the "quick" foods and vegetables that I have blanched. The shed houses another 4 drawer freezer with all the homemade foods I have cooked and an emergency loaf of bread. I have just purchased a table top fridge which fits neatly into my cupboard and I keep all the drinks in it, so that I have room in the large fridge for daily perishables. Everything is dated and used in order. Its about managing day to day living without the stress! If I left this to my husband we would be throwing away food, or indeed having none at all!!

Kyliemay Fri 17-Nov-17 11:17:31

I agree, Charlie girl. Sounds a bit controlling to me.

Elegran Fri 17-Nov-17 11:19:52

It used to be considered a virtue to have stocks of food put by. Families starved in the winter if a woman was too feckless to preserve fruit, cure bacon, dry herbs, and store pulses and grains, apples and potatoes and vegetables for the months when nothing was available.

Now if you do the same thing you are called a hoarder! It is al of a piece with the way shopscut down on inventory and do last-minute ordering for their stocks and expect wholesellers to deliver at the drop of a hat. The wholesellers are doing the same thing to manufacturers so everyone is rushing about fulfilling urgent orders.

The result is that whenever there is a transport crisis or the roads are snow-blocked, the shops soon have empty shelves. That makes hoarders virtuous again - they can feed their hungry neighbours if necessary. The fable of the ant and the butterfly has a lot of truth.

Ignore anyone who says you shouldn't have a full freezer. They are butterflis. Three cheers for the ants (and for the bees who store honey when they can, for when they can't)!

goldengirl Fri 17-Nov-17 11:24:16

Right! After reading through these comments I need a freezer clear out hmm

paddyann Fri 17-Nov-17 11:27:24

sorry my point was maybe he just needs to feel he has still got control over something...my OH is semi retired and although he keeps busy sometimes he's prowling looking for things to do.Hence going shopping, something he's never done in almost 43 years

JanaNana Fri 17-Nov-17 11:33:28

I think your husband is being a bit irrational about this. I don"t see how having food in the freezer as anything other than practical common sense. Apart from enabling you to plan ahead with your daily meals and menus, it's also useful in bad wintry weather when you might not be able to get out as easily. I would switch it on if it was me, even if it meant a bit of confrontation. Then cook him some really boring things till he gets fed up of them. More ways than one to skin a cat!!