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Overstaying lodger!

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Anniechip Fri 09-Feb-18 22:10:26

Hi everyone,
I don't post very much but always read the very interesting topics, such great advice on many things, which leads me to this topic.
8 or 9 years ago my husband met a young lady through work. She is the same age as our DD- 36. They (DH and female) are both big rugby and football fans so had a lot in common. She started coming round to watch matches, stopping for tea etc chatting about this and that. A nice enough person who I chatted to about cooking,holidays etc general life 'stuff'! Her family live away but she has a very large social circle.
Last March she told us that she was going to have to move out of her rented house that she shared with another female as the owner had sold up. She had a month to find somewhere alternative. We live in a 3 bed terrace, both our children have families and houses of their own.
DH asked me if she could move in with us 'for a few weeks' until she found somewhere.
Reluctantly I agreed but really wanted to say no, I felt under pressure as she was having no luck finding anything.
12 months previous to this our DD, her husband and 15 month old who had been living with us for 18 months, saving for their own place, had moved out and I was just about getting my house back to what I wanted it to be.
So....... The lodger moved in lock stock and barrel.
I had to empty a large wardrobe in my second bedroom, clear 2 kitchen cupboards and fridge and freezer space.
We agreed on a rent of £300 a calendar month.
Now she is becoming far too comfortable and complacent.
Leaves washing in the machine for a couple of days or on my dryer in the back room, coats over dining chairs, shoes in the hallway, dishes in the sink for a couple of hours, etc etc.
Now I feel it's time she was moving on. My dGC like to have sleepovers but have to sleep on an air bed in our room instead of a nice comfy bed in their own little room.
The back room is my 'office' so no room for a bed.
I want my own space back but unfortunately my husband sees no wrong. If anything his life has been enriched as night after night they sit and watch sport and chat endlessly. I end up in the dining room or upstairs in bed!
AIBU to say it's time now? I want my house back!!
DH doesn't think there is a problem and says we need the money- he was made redundant in June after 18 years in the same job, but has since found another so we are both still earning.
I would willingly give up the £300 a month to have my life and house back! Any ideas on how to get rid?!

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jusnoneed Fri 30-Mar-18 22:29:53

Great news, enjoy having your home back to yourself!

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silverlining48 Fri 30-Mar-18 22:13:21

Delighted with the good news. Enjoy your space and your family visit.

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Blinko Fri 30-Mar-18 22:11:56

wine flowers cupcake Great news!

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Wheniwasyourage Fri 30-Mar-18 22:05:29

Yippee! Have a wonderful weekend!!

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gmelon Fri 30-Mar-18 21:52:01

willa45 I'm on that one. Unbelievable isn't it.

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Marydoll Fri 30-Mar-18 21:48:34

What great news, I've logged in a few times today to see if she has gone!

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Bathsheba Fri 30-Mar-18 21:30:27

Wow wow wow!!! I can't really quite believe this has happened, what a fabulous Easter you're going to have now. AND she's taking you out for a slap up meal next week! Wonders really will never cease.
Well done Annie, YOU DID IT, YAY!!! It's truly amazing what you can do when you set your mind to it. Now there'll be no stopping you - today the lodger, tomorrow the world gringringrin
(Oops, how many cliches? blush)

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willa45 Fri 30-Mar-18 21:27:45

Yess!! (happy dance)......A resounding toast to you Annie...Way to go!!!! Happy Easter! wine

gmelon....How about the one whose future DIL is a controlling 'Bridezilla' (AIBU) She wants both mothers to wear matching dresses on the day. OP wants no part of it and doesn't quite know how to say No.

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SpringyChicken Fri 30-Mar-18 21:19:54

Fantastic. I can stop fretting. Going for my wine now.

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gmelon Fri 30-Mar-18 20:44:02

What will we do with ourselves now fellow gransnetters? We'll be lost without this post.
Anyone else got a really juicy dilemma.
Has to involve us being outraged on your behalf and cause a few arguments between some of us, any of us. All of us?

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mcem Fri 30-Mar-18 20:23:49

Hooray!
3rd time today I've logged in and was getting a bit anxious!
I shall go and pour myself a glass of wine to toast your success!

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Cherrytree59 Fri 30-Mar-18 20:19:24

Congratulations Annie ??
And Happy Easter.?

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Cold Fri 30-Mar-18 20:18:35

What a wonderful Easter present cupcake cupcake cupcake

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gmelon Fri 30-Mar-18 20:17:18

What a relief for you. Us too ! So glad you've achieved your goal.
Don't wear yourself out smile

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midgey Fri 30-Mar-18 20:13:53

This has really made me smile....imagine being chuffed you have cleaning jobs ongrin

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Jane10 Fri 30-Mar-18 20:11:47

Brilliant although I am a little disappointed that the GN expletives corps couldn't let her have it with both barrels. Probably for the best though.
Have a great weekend.

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BBbevan Fri 30-Mar-18 20:02:27

Zippadee do da, Zippadee Ay
My Oh My what a wonderful day.

Great. So pleased for you Annie

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varian Fri 30-Mar-18 20:01:37

Fanatastic

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seacliff Fri 30-Mar-18 19:42:39

Hallelujah .... well done x

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janeainsworth Fri 30-Mar-18 19:41:58

Great result annie ???

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Situpstraight Fri 30-Mar-18 19:38:19

Oh well done Annie, I’m so pleased for you!
Have a really lovely weekend.

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Anniechip Fri 30-Mar-18 19:35:35

HELLO you lovely lovely people! Guess what I am holding in my hand? ? Oh yes cuckoo has flown the nest!! 2pm today she was told by her new landlady she could start moving her stuff. By 4.30 she had done three trips, handed the key over and said goodbye! She did give a little speech about how much she appreciated all I- repeat I- had done for her and she hoped her new landlady was as lovely as me!
She is taking us for a slap up meal this week!
Now.... I am like a child in a toy or sweet shop!! I don’t know which way to turn, I am buzzing! Kitchen cupboards or bedroom!!!! I can’t quite believe this day has actually happened! All week I have been on edge hoping that nothing would go wrong!!
So thank you all for your patience, support. great advice and for giving me the confidence to start the whole ball rolling and what a huge ball it has been! So many pages from so many
Gransnetters!
Lots of love to you all, Happy Easter and enjoy the break! Xxx????xx

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BBbevan Fri 30-Mar-18 19:30:01

I do so hope nothing has gone wrong

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glammanana Fri 30-Mar-18 18:50:46

Hopefully she is out celebrating ???

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varian Fri 30-Mar-18 18:36:58

I'm beginning to wonder - has Anniechip been murdered by the dodgy lodger???:

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