Neighbours from Hell

thecatgrandma, this isn't a post I've made previously but as the say on mums net RTBT (please)

With everything else you have going on in your lives surely it would be easier to just park right outside your own property? It must look as tho you are deliberately parking in a difficult place, whether it’s right or not, don’t make a fuss over something so petty.

The road belongs to everyone. Although I'd personally prefer to park close to my property, it is not always possible.

That should have said "with eyes open"

Or we kept going along with it for four pages.

Reading some posts with eyes would show things like "Each time you post, you add something else to the crimes of this man and your own troubles. It is like a snowball."

and "There has been a thread on Gransnet very recently about wide hedges - maybe you have read it?"

She's kept us going for four pages though

Eglantine - not just me then! Thank goodness. I was thinking throughout - "just cut the b****y hedge, then escalating to "Oh come on, we weren't born yesterday!"

Yes, I did roll my eyes a few times when the stakes were upped with each fresh post from swolleneyes, totally drip feeding fake news information to make her more and more the victim.

The disabled adult children, and the forthcoming SGO (I think) for a grandchild, with one adult child being prompted into a seizure did it for me. Why on earth would anyone dig their heels in to that extent over a stupid hedge/parking space, placing vulnerable adults at risk.

I'm sorry I bit with my first post. I should have stuck to my instinct and just scrolled on by!

Good question.

What is the point?

It is the snowball effect, gathering material as it rolls.

Well spotted eglantine

A wooden nose perhaps?

Eglantine21, thank you for the enlightenment. I'm done here!

I’ve been trying to keep my mouth shut,but I can’t!

In her first post on another thread ( to which I stupidly responded) Swolleneyes actually said that she parked on the hedge side of the road outside her property and all the neighbours (plural) asked her to park on the other side of he road like they did.

Swolleneyes asked for that to be deleted and started this thread with a somewhat different story. Then came they disabled children. Then the old man with a black eye. Then the police etc, etc.

It grows in the telling. Draw your own conclusions. I have.

HQ will probably tick me off now for talking about another thread

It’s an unadopted Road so it is unlikely there will be much traffic. I am sure if the OP was obstructing her neighbours the police would have advised her to park elsewhere.

If the neighbour from hell is going round punching elderly neighbours in the face and harassing people generally, the police should be dealing with it.

"He is likely to pick on something else . . . ." Yes, but two wrongs don't make a right. The hedge is a hazard in itself, separately from the parking row. The OP says that there is no pavement, so the hedge must stick out a metre into the road. That will narrow the road by a metre and be dangerous to motor traffic and to passers-by.

If the OP can get it seriously narrowed down it will improve her own parking choices, improve the road for everyone, and put her firmly into the "good guy" list with her other neighbours - that is worth doing.

This man sounds as though he has mental health problems. He could be dangerous. He obviously likes causing aggravation. Swollen, have you got a husband that could ask him what his problem is? Seems a bit petty, he obviously looks for trouble. Probably bored and this gives him something to do.
I have neighbors that refuse to speak and blank me for no apparent reason and I get hurt about it but try not to let them bother me. I hope you get this resolved as soon as possible.

There are lots of assumptions here about the darned hedge. This man is a bully capable of causing an 81 year old a black eye. He is likely to pick on something else the minute the OP cuts the hedge and moves the car.

Having your hedge cut back won't affect your boundary as it will still be there.

Get a local landscaping contractor to do it as they will shape it so it will only need trimming once or twice a year and check for any nesting birds before going ahead although you'll probably be alright by now.

Ignore the stroppy neighbour. It's your home and your hedge. You are not giving in if you get it cut back, you are just maintaining your property.

I agree that the man is probably a bully and may have mental health problems. If the hedge is cut back and the car moved, he’ll then likely move on to something else. The fact he sat outside and freaked out the AC rather suggests what the something else is likely to be. It’s time the neighbours all stood up to him.

My sympathy? I had hideous neighbours a few years ago and their complaints were many and various; from not liking that we had net curtains with tiny gold stars rather than plain white! to a complaint that our wood stained side gate was dark blue not brown which was the preferred colour!
The complaints got so vitriolic that we ended up selling up and moving away to get free of the stress. I am now living in a different town with a lovely set of neighbours and no problems
Unfortunately there are jerks wherever you live ??‍♀️

janeainsworth thank you for the kind thought but I wasn't thinking of my stress levels but those of swollen being castigated for something she hasn't done by people who have got the wrong end of the stick - if you know what I mean! Come to think of it my stress levels were climbing really steadily! I was thinking of all the sound bites you get in newspapers which give the completely opposite impression to the actual facts - and we have suffered from that too!
If you have never suffered from bullying neighbours you would have no idea what it is like. If the bully hadn't latched on to the hedge it would just be something else. The inventiveness of bullies should never be underestimated and neither should the stress of being targeted by evil doers.

I am so relieved to read MOnica's post and that of annsixty as I was beginning to despair!

A friend of mine went to view a house last year, all the time she was there the elderly man next door stood glaring at the window.
When she had viewed he was waiting outside and asked if it was her car, when she said it was he said, well shift it then.
When I'm ready she replied,
She walked down the road to get the location and other features into perspective and he yelled all the time to " shift this B car*.
It wasn't even parked outside his house.
A man working in his garden told my friend he was a nightmare and that was usual behaviour for him, so yes these people do exist.
I wonder if the house is still for sale.

I think this problem is way past the being neighbourly point. I worked with someone who had a similar problem. The family had been neighbourly neighbours for decades, when one side suddenly turned nasty.

It cost my colleague 7 years of her life, £000s in legal fees, before the case was settled in her favour.

The man who caused the problem continued to harass her and her family.