In-laws visiting - do we give up our bed?

Stella does have a point. Unless they want to hold on to it because it matches the living room settee.

Of course you do.

We bought a mattress topper for our futon which is in the study.
Everyone says it is now comfy. Obviously it wasn’t before but they were too polite to say!

I'm 67 and have fibromyalgia. I am staying with daughter soon and am having a good quality mattress topper delivered as I will be sleeping in a sons room - he will share bunkbeds in other sons room. However if my husband was coming I would ask her to swap. But it is awkward having somebody's room. What about them needing access to it for dressing.. Your visitors might prefer the other room. You could make it cosy for them.

To be brutally honest - why have you got an uncomfortable bed for your guests ? No matter how much it cost you, if it's uncomfortable that is awful. I'd suggest that if you can't sleep happily on it yourself, sell the darned thing and purchase something comfortable.

Yes.

In what way is the sofa bed uncomfortable?, if it's a mattress that isn't too good,buy a cheap duvet and put that on top and the sheet on top of that. I have just bought one for that very purpose, from Dunelm mill. It was £9.99 and it's 4 tog rating. Aldi have Duvets in at the moment, or try Argos.
I hope you resolve the problem and have a good time.

I see this differently, I happily sleep on a sofa bed when visiting my DD who has lived abroad for many years, in one appartment it ment the living room and putting the bed away each morning. I would be unhappy for my DD to think she had to move out so I could stay.
Flying east is the worst, for some reason I find it is much easier to adjust to the time difference when you fly west.

Giving them your room also means they have a bolt hole to have some quiet time

I think you should give up your bed and bedroom in these circumstances. If it was a one or two night visit and the in-laws were in good health, it might be different.

I'd have given my late in-laws my bed. If friends came to stay for ten days, I might think differently but much would depend on their health.

I agree that in this case you have to give up your bedroom but we never do it for Friends who visit. We have a large double bedroom (art studio) with two single beds and that’s where guests stay.

Thankfully they are from Eastern Canada with only a 4-hour difference. I'm an early-bird when it comes to going to bed and getting up.
10pm here is only 6pm over there so I'm hoping they adjust to UK time easily. I might be OK with a nana nap!

Yes,give them the bedroom, and do as Jane suggests by buying a mattress topper for yourselves.

Your inlaws are spring chickens missinglincs.
Definitely no need to give up your bed

Were a strange bunch as regards to our ages...

I'm 54 and my husband is 44, my mother-in-law is 65 and her husband (my husband's step-father) is 57. Seems like us women like younger men!

You could get a Memory foam mattress topper for the sofa bed to make it more comfortable.
We stay with DS & DiL in America & I wouldn’t expect them to give up their bed.

In these circumstances, I agree with the other posters.

But I don’t think that is always the right answer, for the hosts to give up their bedroom for guests.
It may depend on the alternative room available, the age and health of the two couples, where the bathroom is or if one or both of the rooms are en suite, the noise or light in one or other room, whether children are involved, and much more.

Yes, because they are older than you and need a more comfortable bed.

When we have visitors they sleep in the 2nd bedroom but it’s a double room with a double bed. This year we have my BiL staying plus his 20-year old GD. She’ll have to sleep in a bunk bed in the room the GC use when they stay over. She’s young.

Yes, give them the good bedroom and enjoy their visit.

Thank you for your replies!

Gosh... we have an Aerobed we use for camping! Why didn't I think of that! Drrrrrr!

I'll pack up the sewing machines and hobby room. All sorted!

Thanks everyone!

Yes, give them the bedroom. Have you thought of one of those posh blow up beds (aerobed comes to mind) instead of the sofa bed? Still for you to use but much more comfortable. Enjoy the visit.

Yes

Yup, visitors get the bedroom.

Of course no question, if I had guests they would go in the best room I ve got

I’m afraid so