In-laws visiting - do we give up our bed?

I have plenty of spare rooms so it's never been an issue for me. When my daughter bought her house she set apart the best (i.e. en suite ) bedroom for when I visit, she also bought a bed with a very firm mattress especially for me. It's not even very often that I stay over, but when I do I am always appreciative of her care for my well-being.
I'm sure your in-laws will be equally glad of a good night's sleep when they're with you.

I expect you and DH needed a good bed after bending over backwards, lovebeigecardigans1955.

I wouldn't be giving up my room but fortunately we do have spare bedrooms anyway so it isn't an issue. If we had no spare bedrooms I would pay their hotel or B&B bill. Buying a good spare bed would be cheaper!

We did have serious problems when we went to stay with DS and DDIL and decided that we would use a good hotel in future. They wouldn't hear of it though and now give us their own room when we stay with them. We did sleep on the 'put u up' and bed in DGS's room but it was excruciatingly uncomfortable and we really couldn't manage at all. They understand the problem now that they have slept on it themselves but their bodies are much younger and more flexible but even DGS says how uncomfortable it is especially in comparison with our own spare beds. Poor boy is not going to get a decent replacement bed I fear since it is not yet at the top of the family's list!

We did offer to give up our bed, OldMeg but MIL was absolutely appalled at the suggestion. DH insisted that we had bent over backwards which was quite far enough.

I would give them the bedroom, I agree with Coolgran65

The rule in our house is if our guests are older then us then we give up our bed!! If younger then not !!
Works well & nobody minds x

If you are reluctant to sleep in a spare room yourself because it's not that comfortable, then it's not comfortable enough for guests.

My sis-IL had a sofa bed which cost quite a lot, but after she had slept on it herself once she realised it was not at all comfortable so got rid of it and put a proper bed back in the spare room.

You may not win sh to sound mean lovesbeige but you do.

Sorry, I wouldn't give my bedroom up. I expect guests to sleep on the sofa bed - that is what it's there for. If they're not comfortable they can go to a B&B.
I don't wish to sound mean, but I used to have ILs staying with me and it was always a strain for myself and DH. Giving up one's bed is going too far.

Sofa beds are notoriously uncomfortable unless you have a heavy duty sprung one which we did in our conservatory for many years and housed a multitude of over night guests who all loved it.
I'd be loathe to give up my bed and would be up for buying something suitable for spare room to accommodate your guests, no sense in having something to sleep on that isn't really fit for purpose! If replacing it isn't an option then I would get a topper In the short term but I'm sure they won't be expecting you to give up your bed, I certainly wouldn't do and I'm 50!!

I agree that giving up your bedroom is the polite thing to do. If you feel you are comfortable with it then yes you should.

I couldn't do it though.
I could not bear to have someone elses bodies in my bed.
Sweating and shedding skin on my mattress.
Never.

Before I got organised properly I have, at short notice, cleared out rooms and purchased new beds when someone was coming. I appreciate that this may not be viable for everyone especially at short notice but it would still be a no from me for using my bed.

I think the general consensus is a yes, I agree, it's not for long.

When my grandparents, aunts and uncles visited my parents always gave up their bedroom.
Mum slept in with me,Dad for the couch.
My grandparents often came for a month.

So I would say yes,
if no spare room the mature visitors get the main bedroom

Put the aerobed on top of the sofa bed. Will be very comfy.

Missing Lincs, I definatley would, but I would buy a memory foam topper from eBay to make it more comfortable for myself

In this situation I would say "yes". Hope you enjoy their visit!

I agree you should give up your bed for your in-laws if they are staying for a while, they will appreciate their sleep, and kindness you have shown.

Yes, I would.

Definately give them the bed they have taken the trouble to come all this way to visit and as this wouldn't be a regular occurance I would pull out all the stops. I always gave up our bed if my Mom and a friend came for New Year's etc wouldn't ahve dreamt of doing anything else.

Ten days is not a life time and hopefully there will be many more to come. Give them your room and buy a blow up bed for yourselves which can be easily stored for future use.

I would invest in a mattress topper for the bed settee,if you need anything from the main bedroom during the stay you can access said items when in-laws are up and about.
You said that when you stay with them the guest room is lovely so why would you not give your best room in return.
Enjoy your visitors x

Your PiL are not old people, much younger in fact than many of us on here, so no, I don’t think you need to give up your bed for them. But I do think you should make the sofa bed as comfortable for them as you can, so do buy a memory foam topper as suggested. If you give up your room for them, it does cause other problems, ie you would need to access the room they are using in order to get clothing etc from your room. And they won’t have anywhere to put their clothing and toiletries.

We had this problem too but my parents refused to sleep in our bed. So even though our sofa bed was comfortable we bought a mattress topper to add that little extra. My D and SIL still enjoy the benefit of that now.

Difficult as it usually means all your clothes, make up etc are in the room and you invariably need something from it. Are you able to move all your stuff out into the hobby room for the duration? Mind you we emptied a wardrobe and drawers for my son & family when they came for 6 weeks at Christmas and they didn't use them - lived out of their suitcases and off the floor - stuff everywhere

Unless I could afford to buy a more comfortable sofa bed, I would give up my bed.