So who does the most housework etc in your home

KatyK
You seem to do most of the actual work and your DH merely has to change suppliers when your tariffs end ie: once a year or 18 months, a sitting down job taking up very little time. Mowing the grass is, at most, a weekly chore, not in bad or winter weather. You seem to have drawn the short straw

That made me smile ditzyme sound like your husband has been to training classes.
There doesn't seem to be a fair division of labour there Saggi have you suggested swapping roles for a week or so ?
For most of us we fall into the roles where we are most comfortable I think. Areas of conflict for us include the garden as neither of us likes gardening, my husband won't agree to pay someone to do it grrrrr

ME !!!!
Sorry for shouting, but I want everyone to know, I live on my own, no partner, no maid.......my dear pal B comes once a fortnight to help me with the beds (I hate that job) ...and for those tut-tutters, I have a shower most nights, so my bed linen is fairly clean

My husband was well-trained before I got him, so has always done the heavier work inside and out, hoovering and digging respectively. I used to do more than I can now, but apart from the heavy work, jobs are shared. We prepare and cook the main meal together, he even cooks for himself sometimes. I do the accounts, he then gets them to balance when I've made a mistake! I do Christmas cards and decide on any decorations we may decide to put up, he puts them up! When he worked full time, I saw it as my part of the deal to be in charge of household stuff whilst he went out to work. Now he's more or less retired, we share. Seems fair.

Split down the middle I think. He does his own ironing and often puts the washing on. We tend to do what ever we feel like doing. He makes his own breakfast and lunch and I do the evening meal. He also makes the bread and I make the yogurt and he will wash up and I will clean the work surfaces and floor. It works well, today for instance he changed the bedding and put it on to wash and then hung it out while I was out. I will now go upstairs and give it a dust and vacuum and make up the bed. I tend to go around every day just doing a quick tidy up, putting stuff away and plumping up cushions. We both feel that life is to short to worry about keeping the house in pristine order. He also does all the bills as I have my daughters finances to worry about.

I do all of it and I have just asked what he does and he said
"I correct all the errors" !!!!!

We also have a cleaner once a week so not much cleaning to do apart from that - DH does a lot of cooking, he enjoys it more than me! When we have a lot of people over for meals (family or friends) we do it together and both enjoy that.
He does most of the clearing up.
I tend to take care of laundry, putting the machine on, folding etc. The cleaner does the little ironing we need.
DH does most of the food shopping.
We both work in our own company but I work almost full time and he works a couple of hours a day so this division of labour works well for us.
DH was always a very involved / active father and partner, even when the kids were little back in the 80s he did a lot more than most of his peers.

Sorry - I brought the tone down there for a minute. I'm happy to do everything I can and even tackled a bit of plastering for the first time last week. (A blind man on a galloping horse would be happy to see it anyway!)

I do:
Shopping
Hoovering
Dusting
Gardening
Getting in workmen
Supervising workmen
Make tea for workmen
Decorating
Car cleaning
Window cleaning
Cooking(all of)
Bathrooms
Kitchen
Cooker cleaning
Present buying
Grandchild minding/fetching
Washing
Ironing

My husband does:

Eating
Watching tv
Eating
Watching more tv
Eating
Then more tv
Goes to bed.

He says it's a good trade off!!!

The worst of it was, he'd been recommended to me by a lady I worked with - his lovely wife.

Living alone I do everything - except gas and electrics. On the very rare occasion that I have to get a 'man' in, it fills me with dread. I've never forgotten the time when I had someone in to look at the gas boiler and when I said his estimate was too much and I couldn't afford it, his reply (with a leer) was 'Well, there's more than one way of paying for things you know!' I still get the creeps just thinking about it.

I do everything inside the house and also take care of huge garden. My husband will cook the evening meal and food shop but point blank refuses to do anything else - better than nothing I know but when asked what I'd like for any present I always say "please just clean the bathrooms for a month" but he never does.

My husband does all the housework not done by our cleaner. I do most of the cooking and plan holidays, outings etc.

I do it all as I live alone with my dog. I'm also available to help with school pick ups, taking children to activities, helping out when needed for family and friends. It keeps me young and active. I can't cope with doing nothing.

I do the housework, change beds, iron, load the dishwasher, and potter in the garden tending my plants. Hubs does all the cooking, we shop together, he sorts banking, insurance and holidays. He looks after our cars, and drives anytime we go out. He mows the lawn. All in all, I think he probably does more than me.

As my ex worked offshore and abroad for extended periods, I did everything except pool maintenance, cleaning outside windows, gardening and car maintenance.
All our linen was collected and returned by Initial, in tissue in leather boxes.
No nanny for our 5 children. Tried a cleaner but I preferred to do it myself as I'm really organised and like mirrors and glass done every day, cupboards every week and shoes cleaned after wearing them etc.
Having downsized, I have less to do but old habits die hard.
I like sparkling windows, tidy cupboards and fresh bedlinen twice a week.
My ex paid other people to do manual jobs around the house.
It worked very well.

I work full time and have a cleaner; no guilt, no regrets. Other than that I have a live-in son who's supposed to deal with bins - a bit hit-and-miss there. We share general tidying, dishwasher, etc. Each responsible for own food and clothes care though I do some of his ironing.

When DH was alive he did - practically nothing . Which didn't stop him trying to manage it.

I do the cooking ( I’m trying to get my husband on a cookery course though). We both clean the house and washing. He does the ironing and weeding, I water and plant the hanging baskets etc. We have a gardener to mow the lawn. I mainly deal with the cat feeding etc. The car gets taken to a car valet, but he will organise the service etc , check the oil and screen wash.

Everything done by me, except mowing the lawn and big heavy jobs like putting up sheds etc in the garden. I'm retired and he's still working, so I guess that's the pay off! four beds detached and looking after two small grand kids, leads to very busy life!

Jeanie, my OH wouldn't dream of cleaning the oven. But neither would I. That's why those oven valeting businesses exist!

Very much shared in out home. DH cooks and I clear up kitchen/dining. DH does ironing, vacuuuming, bins, inside windows, mowing, and any "heavy work". Shopping is a shared activity as is all laundry and changing beds. I do "tidying", organising, management of linens, and most dusting. It's all a partnership; but if one of us is ill, the other one can perfectly well do everything.

Blimey my DHs idea of helping is to keep out of the way! I actually don't mind as he takes so long to do things and I can just whiz around in half the time.
Great cook though so we work to our strengths!

I do all the tidying/cleaning/washing, 99 per cent of the cooking, 99per cent of the gardening, All social arrangements, initiate and help with decorating, but all preparing and clearing up afterwards.
DH opens doors, drawers, cupboards etc but doesn't close them -grr. He also spreads papers on the dining table but doesn't tidy them up. Says he's still using them for days.
I don't want to be angry or too fussy but sometimes!!!

I never trained my DH early, justwokeup, he just fell into some roles when he retired. For example, he's always cooked a mean breakfast, but only used to do it on a Sunday, now he's in complete charge of the catering. Funnily enough even my dad, who was the archetypal husband who did absolutely no "women's work" round the house when he worked, discovered he could cook and wash up once he retired. To be honest, I was amazed!

G & T making is a very good skill to have though!

It was never agreed what are my jobs and what are his but we seem to have fallen into a pattern.
He was always a hands on dad, nappy changing, formular making, feeding etc. he did as much as I did. He's always done some of the cooking, made lunch and hot drinks. He washes kitchen floor and cleans the oven, also the bathroom though never thinks to clean either loo !
He gardens, does bins and cleans my car (he doesn't drive)
I do most of the cooking, all other cleaning and all admin. I book holidays organise insurances. DH is useless on the phone and I don't think he's ever written a letter in his life. That's fine though as he has so many other great qualities. Though I do worry a little about me going first.
I think DD would be quiet busy ☺