So who does the most housework etc in your home

Husband is disabled, I do it all.

Me !

Cleaner does the cleaning
Window cleaner does the windows
Gardener does the gardening
Car gets valeted when the moon is blue
DH did the cooking before the crash but now we muddle along together somehow or go out
DH does the finances, utilities
I organise the shopping which is delivered
I organise the dishwasher and DH will wash all things which don't go in it and I dry them
I choose the colour schemes and DH did the decorating but I think we may have to get someone in now that he can't do so much

This thread has certainly made me think even more because we have had to rethink so much recently. After my stroke my DH was my carer before the crash. Although he is much better he will never be able to what he once did. It is certainly wise to ensure that we can either do anything necessary or know somebody we can employ to do what we need.

The Bodach has a visual impairment known as dirt blindness, so will do anything if asked, otherwise he’d be like Quentin Crisp, who maintained that after four years of not cleaning the house didn’t get any dirtier!
He doesn’t cook, but attends to the washing and dishes ( i.e. filling and emptying the dishwasher).

I hate housework - so never-ending. Our garden backs onto fields (which is lovely), but the windows are always mucky from the dust. I would say I’m tidy, but I fail at keeping everything clean. That makes it sound as if the house is filthy - it’s not, but it rarely gleams and shines

I live on my own in a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom apartment, and I have always cleaned it myself. I had an operation last week so organised a cleaner to come and change my bed and clean. It was wonderful! My bedroom looked like a hotel, the wooden floors have never been so clean, she even polished the balcony windows. She will be coming every week until my treatment is finished, around the end of December, but I think I will find it hard to let her go after!

I do everything as there is only me to do it. I live in a small flat so no bother I can clean right through in 2 hours. When I lived in a house I did get someone in to mow the lawn and at the moment I pay someone to clean my windows but that's all.

Keen housewives among us (so that lets me out) May wish to match their domestic goddessness against this!
(GabriellaG you have been warned!)

I did everything bar cutting the grass when DH was working. When he retired he took on the washing up, but I would have to bite my tongue as he sometimes left it for a couple of days. I then managed to get him to hoover the carpets as I said he was so much better at it than me! And he would help me change the bedding, and sometimes get the washing in. He always did the electrics, as he did an electrical apprenticeship, but there again, that would be in his own time! (I waited several years for a light above the dressing table!) Since he died a few months ago, I now do the lot, including the grass, and I get a man in for anything I can't manage.

A lovely cleaner does most routine stuff.
Spring cleans e.g emtying a cupboard/ moving furniture will be me.
DH does the laundry, changes bed linen & clears up after meals, stacks & empties the dishwasher
I shop & cook, do the garden & any incidental cleaning needed we do as is needed by whoever spots it. I am trying not to spot the windows in our bedroonm as rhe sunshine is highlighting a need!

GabrielaG
Change your bedding twice a week and clean mirrors and glass daily I AM IMPRESSED.
Where about do you live, I have a few jobs you may be interested in doing.
I have loved reading every ones comments, it seams we all trundle along in our own way and it works for most.

I do everything, cleaning, windows, beds, cooking, shopping (nightmare with DH in tow) garden, paperwork, banking and investments, repairs, arranging & accompanying to DH's numerous medical appointments and all the driving, etc. The latest additions to my list are the recycling, grass mowing and hoovering as DH can no longer manage these.

In one way I am lucky, in that as DH always worked two jobs, I am used to doing most things myself, on top of working full time and doing all the paperwork - Tax & VAT returns, Invoices, accounts, etc. for DH's business. We did have a few more leisured years when we both retired, until DH's accident, subsequent collapse and Dementia. Now I am not only chief (sole) cook and bottlewasher but have added 24/7 caring to my workload.

I must admit to being jealous of some of the lifestyles reported here (especially those with cleaners and gardeners) though I wish you all well and hope you have a long, happy and illness free retirement. I would, however, add a note of caution to those couples who have split the chores, cooking, paperwork, driving, etc. along strict demarcation lines. Much better to be like David1968 where both are able to competently deputise for the other if necessary.

I became the Family Chief Executive very early in our marriage because DH had a job that often took him a way at a few hours notice for indefinite periods of time, that meant as well as looking after house, garden and children, being the financial manager and everything else.

However I am cack handed and DH is very practical and loves doing repairing and improving jobs. Over the years he has mended toys, appliances and cars, fitted many fitted kitchens, replaced and enlarged windows, done loft conversions and currently has recently designed an extension to our current house, which, if it goes ahead, he will project manage.

All in all I reckon it has worked out that our contributions to the family firm are about equal. We certainly wouldn't have the house we have now if we hadn't several times bought 'project' houses that DH modernised and improved.

I do all the housework and cleaning, ironing etc. OH services the cars and does all the DIY. Would I want him to help? No, because it wouldn’t be up to my standard ?. I like my house clean, uncluttered and actually enjoy doing it. Well, the result anyway. We do have a chap though who does our (very) small garden once a fortnight, as neither of us likes gardening. OH does, however, deals with all the paperwork with regard to utility bills i.e. shops around for the best deals etc. I do the food shopping. Works for us.

oh does financial bits housework whoever sees what needs doing first tends to do it in respect of putting washing on washing up hoovering and mopping floor. putting washing away tends to be or we would never find anything but we are often lazy and just take it out the drier and wear straight away. we have been together nearly 3 years and its one thing we dont argue about if it needs doing do it!

Do you fancy a husband-swap, Daisyboots?

We have a cleaner once a week and the place is immaculate on Thursday after she has been. She also cleans the windows and changes the bed. We keep the place tidy during the week like sweeping the kitchen and lounge because the dogs bring the dead plumbago flowers and dead foliage in on their fur. So yesterday they went to be clipped so no garden bits indoors today. I generally do the cooking although thats not much as we are dieting at the moment. Either of us will put the washing in the machine and hang it out. Shopping is a joint venture and he does most of the gardening. What litttle ironing there is I do unless he has worn dressy trousers then they are done by him. Ex military so out comes the brown paper. I put on the dishwasher at night after rearranging it to get everything in and he usually empties it in in the morning while making the coffee.
Banking and insurances I do plus booking flights and holidays. After he booked a holiday to Malta from Gatwick and then the flight back was to Stansted at 11.30pm in November and our car was parked at Gatwick he has not been allowed to to book them. He does do the car hire usually.
All in all it is quite even really.

I do. DH plays golf.

We've been retired for 12 years. Before that, we both worked full-time and I did absolutely everything. Now he cooks a meal two or three times a week. He also likes to empty and refill the dishwasher (a job I hate!), but he never wipes the worktops down. Other than that he sits on his bum all day. And I really resent it!

But the thing I resent even more, is the bloody assumption that it's all my work, anyway. Like he has a habit of saying things like, "I've emptied your dishwasher for you." My dishwasher ... for me ...?

We've had loads of rows about this, but it doesn't make any difference. All of the housework, the decorating, the garden, handling the money, booking holidays, etc. is my work. (Presumably, because I don't have a plonker!)

And I see a version of this attitude still continuing within my daughters' lives. There is no way that their husbands contribute as much to the general running of things as they do. (And both work full-time.)

I read somewhere, years ago - 'Measure the leisure.' A brilliant way to see who's doing what, and how much!

The person who organises the domestic chores controls the house. So we squabble and fight for it. I guess we shouldn’t have read the Machiavelli.

I do, but not very often. If I didn't, nothing would happen as there's only me now. I also do the garden, wash the car, put out the bins, stack the logs etc, etc .....Keeps me fit and healthy apparently, although my stiff
joints after a day digging up bamboo roots tell me otherwise

Maybe a stupid question Anniebach but why don’t you have to cook?

I do washing and ironing and DH does cooking. Everything else we do between us. We have a gardener so we just potter out there.

I do everything, though son, who has learning difficulties, sometimes empties the dishwasher, puts his own washing in the machine and occasionally puts out the recycling. He can strip his bed and help me mow the lawn.

I do the washing and most of the gardening. We share the cooking and cleaning and DH does all the repairs to house, boat , bikes etc. We can both sew and iron.

They are MY cats when they need the vet, otherwise they are OUR cats.

I pay the bills from our joint account, DH deals with insurance claims and banking if we are talking large sums such as buying our house, arranging mortgages etc.

I keep up with the family -both his side and mine.