Kitchen cupboards

“ Where’s the thingummybob?”

“ In the kitchen drawer”

“ Whereabouts?”

Anyone recognise this conversation?

This thread has really made me smile. It’s nice to know that me DH is ‘normal’ on the husband scale when it comes to not being able to find anything,leaving drawers etc open and never putting anything back where he got it from. He does change the toilet roll but invariably puts the new one on back to front! Reading this thread though has made me realise that I wouldn’t swop him for the world and I’m truly grateful he is around so I’ll gladly continue to locate missing objects, close cupboard doors etc hopefully for a while yet.

It’s a man thing!

Not going to add anything other than say all of the above comments refer to my husband - has to be a 'Man thing'

DH always gets the new roll out and puts it in the holder. But otherwise, I refer to my email up thread.

Do men ever actually insert a new toilet roll when the old one runs out ?????
I don’t think it’s a skill they’ve mastered After all toilet roll holders are a very intricate piece of equipment !
Seems I’m the only one with the right skill to do it

My husband walks into a room to look for something, turns his head to the left, then to the right, before declaring "it's not in here"

He was going ballistic one time because he needed his passport to go on a business trip. He had looked "absolutely everywhere" and it was just gone. He was 98% towards accusing me of hiding it so he couldn't go (as if!).

I asked what bag he'd used last time he went away. It definitely wasn't there, because he'd looked there twice.

I went to the bag and found the passport. Which, of course, definitely wasn't there when he looked.

Same with the fridge! When oh asks"where's..... " my answer is always" behind the cheese"?

I play golf, following two men who trudged up and down for ages looking for their lost golf ball in the long grass , the lady I was playing with said "I bet they don't take that long looking for their car keys"

What is particularly annoying is that I have never had kitchen cupboards placed for my height. Men have a better vantage point in the first place. They aren't usually standing on tippy toes to see.

Why do so many of you have such hopeless husbands?

My DH does a 'man look' as well. It infuriates me as I get the blame for losing or not washing the pink shirt or whatever it is he's looking for. Then I open the wardrobe and there it is tucked between two others. Then I get told 'that wasn't there when I looked'. Does he think I've waved a magic wand to make it appear for me?

Last week it was 'we've run out of butter'. No I said there's a new one in the fridge. Can't see one he replies, then I show him that it was partly obscured by the jam jar! GRRRR!

Oh, dear, Pippa
I'm sure these posters are not "allowing" their partners to be helpless at all. It's meant as a lighthearted thread, and actually Maybelle makes valid points.
There's no need to be so serious all of the time, and actually, a light hearted thread like this can be a real tonic!

Aww come on ladies, we're not all bad. As I do most of the shopping I can usually find things in cupboards, I can find the loo rolls, and the laundry basket, and a host of other things without being nagged by Beloved.

I just wonder where I left her though.

Even better, if they decide to make something as simple as, say, beans on toast, they ask which pan they should use to warm the beans ("er, just sling the beans in the wok, dear!"), and then stand in front of the toaster as if the bread is going to jump into the bloody thing all on it's own.........desperation or what?

Pippa sometimes a little humour is not a bad thing, and I for one have no problem with hunting things down for my husband, he now has memory loss amongst other issues, and it is only by making light of it can I cope with the almost daily requests to find things for him.

And it is a two way street and I know he used to have no difficulty in locating things, just as I knew how to change plugs and do DIY, but never did so.
In this way it was a game.

The reality of life can be, at times, too harsh to deal with x

MawBroon - I buy the refills for spices so fill up the old jars which have ancient sell-by dates on them!

"Why men don't listen and women can't read maps
I'm beginning to worry about myself now - I'm not too bad at map reading
However, DH does have selective hearing.

Oh Pippa lighten up!
I came home from my Art History class one day a few years ago to find my darling Paw had proudly tidied out my spice cupboard, “throwing out all the jars well past their sell by date”
It was practically empty and cost a fortune to restock.
How I wish I still had him to chuck out as many jars and packets as he wanted

Oh for goodness sake!
Its a lighthearted thread.

I cannot believe how helpless some of you are allowing the men in your life to be. It is as if it is an amusing game you all seem to play and allow your men to act like and be idiots. Of course they could find things. In the future there is a fair chance that these helpless men will be alone in life and will be clueless and lost.For goodness sake allow the them to grow up, they don’t need you for a mother. Perhaps you women need to have more to keep you busy rather than running after grown men.

Don't jump on me for this!

There's a fairly ancient book by Barbara and Alan Pease (I think that's their right names) called, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps." I think they wrote another called, " Why men lie and women cry." They are easy to read and quite light hearted and fun while they describe the inherent differences between men and women. They acknowledge that they are describing generalisations and therefore that many women certainly can read maps (among other traditionally male attributes)! They explain that 'maleness' and 'femaleness' may be measured on a sliding scale from dizzy blonde to angry man and you can do a quiz to find out where you are on the scale. They explain that men often don't see what's not directly in front of them because they tend to have a narrow field of vision (useful in hunting and tracking game for the pot) whereas women tend to have a wider field of vision (useful for scanning for danger while gathering food.) Of course we are no longer hunter-gatherers in the traditional sense but that doesn't mean modern man will think to look to left and right in the fridge when denying the existence of the butter!

I must have the tidiest husband on the planet he puts everything away he's always tidying up.not down to me though his mother used to throw everything away that he left out when he was younger.and I mean everything. Now I'm reaping the benefit of her strict rules .

I thought it was just my OH! He washes up but won't put things away as (after 10 years living here) he is not sure where they are kept. Yesterday, his sports top got hung up to dry and all the other clothes were in the washing basket . They were wet through but he says the door was open and it wasn't him that put things in the basket! Needless to say I loaded the wet clothes back in and let the washing machine get on with its spin cycle. He is meticulous when he washes the car, though. Strange.

My DH has a variation of this - it's known as "fridge blindness".

He accuses me of having moved things and this may be true because new things are bought regularly and we have to make space for them.

He also leaves all his toiletries out so that he can reach them quickly.

He won't put them in the cupboard, including the extra bottles/cans that he isn't using yet.

Thanks for sharing, my granddaughters and I laugh about this so often,
Yep, if said item doesn’t jump into our hands we must have “ looked like a man”
I’m grateful for every day I have with my husband and dread the day the cupboards remain shut, the bedroom floor no longer looks like a wardrobe and the towels remain on the rail.