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H1954 Mon 17-Dec-18 16:03:55

I may be over sensitive on this subject but it annoys me immensely...........of all the men I have worked with and the two that I have lived with not one of them has ever been able to open a kitchen cupboard and find anything! If it's not perched at the front of the shelf it's not in there according to the men! Come on guys, move things around a bit and look properly before closing said cupboard door and declaring defeat!

LuckyFour Tue 18-Dec-18 10:21:53

Monica, it's interesting to read your post. My DH never closes drawers, cupboards or doors. I can always tell what he's been doing by the drawers etc. I find open. If I leave the pantry door on the latch while I'm making a meal he grumbles and shuts it. Help!

inishowen Tue 18-Dec-18 10:19:54

I can track what my husband has eaten. He leaves banana skins, orange peel, crisp packets etc., on the worktop. My daughter screams at him to put them in the bin. I have given up, I just do it myself. This is a good man who'd do anything for anyone, but can't seem to put things away.

Rosina Tue 18-Dec-18 10:16:05

How I can empathise with all these comments - I had no idea how common this is. I have come home to find the house looking as if it has been burgled; every door slightly open, every drawer ditto with items hanging out, as OH has been looking for batteries, which of course he couldn't find, but there they are 'hiding' from him in the drawer where he first looked. Liz46 I too now check the freezer as that has been left slightly ajar and needed defrosting twice within a month, and ditto the fridge which is not so bad but the back wall gets crusted with ice when left ajar overnight. Grrr!

JackyB Tue 18-Dec-18 10:09:49

My DS2 explained to me that this goes back to the days of hunter-gatherers. As hunters, the men only have eyes for moving objects. If the tin-opener is not moving, therefore, they can't see it. Even if it is in the middle, at the front, of the second shelf in the cupboard immediately to he left of the sink, as described.

The women, as gatherers, on the other hand, see stationary objects, clear as day, even when they're behind other things.

Well, that's his excuse, anyway.

annep Tue 18-Dec-18 09:48:23

I've used amusing twice. ? I hate doing that.

annep Tue 18-Dec-18 09:45:56

Yes some amusing responses*H1954*.
I've enjoyed them too. Some GNetters have gsoh. (not me, wish I had)
Our men can be amusing. I wonder what they think of us.

H1954 Tue 18-Dec-18 08:05:25

Thank you, thank you, thank you.........your responses to my post have really made me chuckle! Never would I have thought that such a menial gripe of mine would spark such interest. Have to admit that at the time of posting I was particularly irritated (extra tins in the larder only served to confuse OH more) and a little unwell but reading your contributions has cheered me up no end! With risk of overuse.........THANK YOU!

Liz46 Tue 18-Dec-18 07:39:39

I go round after my husband making sure the freezer door is closed, the doors are locked etc. He often drops things, misses the bin and does not bend down to pick the things up.

BUT I have been ill recently and he has been wonderful so I just bite my tongue and smile!

PamelaJ1 Tue 18-Dec-18 07:29:18

N our family we call it -having a man look.
Even my GS uses the phrase.
Does that mean we are bringing him up correctly?

ninathenana Tue 18-Dec-18 07:02:33

Ah, "the man look" I know it well !

DH is another that leaves the fridge open when making tea, he also talks to the washing machine and dishwasher.

craftergran Tue 18-Dec-18 06:37:15

We have a drawer in the sideboard which is called the Stationery Drawer, husband asks regularly "where are the stamps?"

I just realised maybe he thinks it's the staionARY drawer.

Oldwoman70 Tue 18-Dec-18 06:32:23

Mine was constantly losing things, especially keys. I bought him one of those key rings which when you whistle would whistle back - he lost it!

BlueBelle Tue 18-Dec-18 05:41:40

It must be there from birth my grandson can never find a thing when it’s sitting looking at him, when pointed out he ll say well it wasn’t there when I looked. You can find him by following his trail, and worst of all he leaves everything, and I mean everything, round other peoples houses. Every now and then my daughter will make a list and tell him to ‘get them’ ....Black coat, Jacks, Footie boots Joes, new jumper girlfriend, book for tomorrow’s college oh that’s in Jim’s car
The best one was leaving a pair of shoes round a mates and six months later the mates walking around in them !!!! Last year he came to mine on his bike his hands freezing I gave him a pair of ski gloves, pop them back when you’re passing I said, I ve never seen them again, nor has he When last asked they were drying on someone’s radiator.

BBbevan Tue 18-Dec-18 03:48:18

Cherrytree our fridge also 'shouts when left open. DH always tells it he won't be a minute and not to be impatient. All in all he spends a lot of time talking to the fridge .

gmelon Tue 18-Dec-18 00:02:19

If he can't find it fo himself then it stays unfound in our house.
I've often told him to add it to the shopping list as we obviously need a replacement one.
This applies to everything no matter the expense. After all the item is obviously lost forever!

annep Mon 17-Dec-18 23:44:54

Very amusing thread!

annep Mon 17-Dec-18 23:44:26

I have one of those husbands too H1954 who stands holding the door open declaring he can't see any..whatever and I say it's not going to jump out at you.

He also stands beside the fridge making a shopping list and shouts to me in the living room Have we got any milk?

mcem Mon 17-Dec-18 23:24:26

Where's the putting things back in the right place fairy when the boys need her?

MissAdventure Mon 17-Dec-18 22:39:04

I have a man in training here.
My grandson not only can never find anything; he blames me whenever we have a flaming row discussion about his lost
Football kit.
School bag.
Socks.
Hairbrush.
School books.

Bathsheba Mon 17-Dec-18 22:23:28

cornergran, silly me! And, naturally, it would be our fault they can't be found grin

cornergran Mon 17-Dec-18 20:36:41

Putting things back bathsheba? Don’t be silly, then of course they can’t be found when next needed. grin.

Bathsheba Mon 17-Dec-18 20:21:11

I would quite like a husband who put things back in the cupboards and drawers - and the garage! - when he's finished with them. But no, they just get left wherever he last used them - on the kitchen table, on one of the worktops, on the floor in the hall, on the garden table, on the stairs....

Jalima1108 Mon 17-Dec-18 20:18:16

Our fridge and freezers shouts if left open for more than a few seconds
Our newer ones do Cherrytree but this is an old thing in the kitchen
Well, it's not that old, but old enough.

I spend a good part of my life shouting 'Oh, do shut up'.
Not to DH, but to the washing machine, the tumble dryer, the steamer, the oven, the fridge/freezer etc etc.

All those annoying beeps

EllanVannin Mon 17-Dec-18 19:57:44

I used to say " if it had horns it would poke you ".

mcem Mon 17-Dec-18 19:51:30

Doing my best to train my DGS (and his sister too) by pointing out the the soggy towel fairy/ sock picking up fairy/plates into the kitchen fairy (you get my drift) is not on duty today and she also gave Gran the day off! He also doesn't like being accused of 'boy-looking'. (Excuse the misandry!)
It works most of the time !!
Whether it would work post adolescence I don't know as I didn't experience it!