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Mapleleaf Tue 12-Mar-19 19:18:26

Oops, I’ve just read my post again, and what I wrote at the end of the first post was fine - it didn’t need amending! Must have been having a senior moment!! grin

kittylester Tue 12-Mar-19 13:09:05

what everyone else said. Go easy, katey.

Day6 Tue 12-Mar-19 13:00:55

I am glad you have found a bit of perspective Kateykrunch

We can be very harsh taskmasters to ourselves when we think about efforts and achievements - all of us, even though we are growing older and may be slowing down. It is hard to accept but you have to go with the flow and not worry f things don't get done. You need to concentrate on recovery after a gruelling series of medical interventions and nasty drugs.

I think we all have an inbuilt work ethic and feel we are deserting our posts or not up to standard because we cannot do what we used to. You have every reason to slow down and do less. Concentrate your energies on the little trips out, and the cosy times at home when you can put your feet up and be deservedly self-indulgent. It's a horrible wet day today. I have given myself permission to do just as I please today (which will involve a bit of light housework, laundry and cooking, but nothing back-breaking.) It's a day for books, catch-up TV/Netflix box sets talking to the cat, jigsaw puzzles and listening to music.

Have days when nothing is urgent, nothing much is planned. You owe it to yourself Kateykrunch. I hope when spring breaks through and we have a bit of sunshine and blue skies (fingers crossed!) you'll feel more energetic

Enjoy your day out.

Mapleleaf Tue 12-Mar-19 12:53:34

“won’t be helping” not “ will be helping”! ?

Mapleleaf Tue 12-Mar-19 12:52:34

Kateykrunch, you have gone through so much recently and it has had an impact on your strength and ability to do things. Listen to your body and take your time. Don’t worry about the housework, it will get done in time, as and when you feel like it. At the moment, you need to rest to help that chest infection on it’s way. Plus of course, all the meds you need will be having an impact on how you are feeling. You are wise to potter. I also don’t think this grotty weather will be helping, either.
Be kind to yourself. flowers

baubles Tue 12-Mar-19 12:28:49

I suspect you’re asking too much of yourself, it sounds as though you are doing remarkably well given your health problems.

I’m a couple of years older than you and have just got over a particularly nasty, long lasting chest infection. I knew I was on the mend when I realised that I’d only had to sit down once while changing the bed linen instead of the four or five times it had been.

These things take time, be kind to yourself.

DoraMarr Tue 12-Mar-19 12:25:27

Have sent you a private message.

Kateykrunch Tue 12-Mar-19 12:23:41

Ah, thankyou, I finished radiotherapy last February (2018), after a whirlwind roller coaster ride from diagnosis in November 2017 (1 massive tumour and 9 smaller ones) and very quick surgery (mastectomy) to, as they said, “get me to a safe place”. I just thought and hoped that I would be back to normal by now, the chesty virus thing isn’t helping of course, but perhaps I need to adjust a bit better to my ‘new’ normal. I find that just, what I call, ‘pottering’ seems to work (the meds make me forgetful) so I just potter room to room and do what is obvious and just stop and rest when needed. Done that this morning, interspaced with GN of course, to criticise hubbys decorating skills, we are just off out for lunch and library and then carpet and food shopping, evening in front of tv, so I really need to see that as a positive for the day, too easy to feel negative about what I can’t do, so, all in all, a good day. Hope you all have a lovely day x (just writing this all down has given me some perspective, so thanks for reading) x

Luckygirl Tue 12-Mar-19 12:11:12

Honestly, I think you are doing really well and need to pat yourself on the back. We do slow down as we get older and you have a pile of health problems to contend with.

I have had to slow down and try and make it something positive. So for instance I had a very floppy day yesterday just struggling to do anything really, so today I plan to go with the flow and I have lit the woodburner, have some lovely music on radio 3, and a good book and I am pottering and resting. How many times when I was working would I have given my right arm to be able to do that!

EllanVannin Tue 12-Mar-19 12:03:00

Wow, Kateykrunch, please don't expect to do a marathon in everything you do as under normal conditions once you're turned 60 you begin to slow down anyway.

As it is you're doing wonderfully well considering the set-back that you've had. Even having a cold or flu can knock you sideways without having something else to contend with as well. Besides, our immune systems aren't as lively as they once were so there are a few things to consider.

There are some days which I'm sure many can relate to that you only have to sit and look at what needs doing is enough to bring on exhaustion before you start.

I'd be doing very little if I were you to give your body a fighting chance before the better weather is upon us. This dreary weather gives you no encouragement to do anything. Rest if/when you need to as nothing is that urgent that it has to be done.
I can do nothing lovely ! Though I could cry at times when I think back at what I used to do sad

DoraMarr Tue 12-Mar-19 11:57:24

It takes time. You have been through a lot: a chest infection is terribly debilitating. I had surgery and RT for non invasive breast cancer which finished at the end of February, had a chest infection immediately after, and am only just beginning to feel normal. If you can, employ somebody for a couple of hours to do housework. This has really helped me, because even when I was at my most exhausted I could still do the classes I enjoyed and could socialise with friends and family. It’s important to go out, even for a short walk or a cup of coffee. Accept all the help people offer, even if it’s just to bring some milk and a loaf. Be kind to yourself, put your feet up, have little treats, and just think that each day you are getting stronger.

Gonegirl Tue 12-Mar-19 11:56:23

You will get stronger again. Give it time.

Gonegirl Tue 12-Mar-19 11:55:09

I wouldn't think this is down to aging. Not at 63. More likely due to the health issues you have gone through, together with the meds you have to take, not to mention the chesty cough. You need to allow yourself time, pampering, and a lot of rest. Don't worry about cleaning rooms. No one will notice if you cut down considerably. Just keep them tidy. And only do a teeny bit of gardening at a time. And then only when the weather is warmer.

Don't exhaust yourself trying. Rest! (All important)

MissAdventure Tue 12-Mar-19 11:43:26

I think you're doing brilliantly to be up and about and doing things, considering the meds you're on, and the fact that you're still recovering from cancer. flowers

grandtanteJE65 Tue 12-Mar-19 11:40:40

Sorry to hear of all you have been through healthwise.

Yes, if we are honest, I think we all have to admit that we slow down as we get older.

I'm 67 now and in good health, but I weeded a quarter of a flowerbed the day before yesterday, and my back still hurts! A couple of years ago, I could have weeded the whole bed in one go!

This time of year doesn't help either, cold and wet, when we all need cheering up.

Actually, I think you are doing well being able to clean one room at a time. Like me, you probably cleaned the whole house in one fell swoop forty years ago, but those days are long gone for us all, I 'm afraid.

Kateykrunch Tue 12-Mar-19 11:24:32

Will I ever get it back? 12+ months on from diagnosis and treatment for invasive breast cancer and now taking meds with side effects like joint pain and fatigue to name a couple and fact that I have the flipping virusy chesty cough since Christmas (chest xray clear, but GP now thinks may be COPD), I dont know if its just age related and a slowing down or what, I am trying to get some normality back and feel proud of myself now if I manage to clean 1 room before becoming exhausted, whereas I used to do half the house in about 4 hours before and thought that was just as I was getting older as I used to be able to do the whole house in that time (I’m 63). I can rest and sleep well, but just cant shake the fatigue and dont know what I can do to boost myself. I’m not sure what I am asking with this post, I suppose its to know if you have felt a slowing down as you get older?