Noisy new neighbours

Unfortunately this type of behaviour is far too common. We had a similar problem some years ago. Shouting at each other seemed the norm but the worst in my book was when the mother shouted at the kids to 'stop f***ing' swearing!

4all that is not good so selfish. These are a little too young yet. I should be fit to pick the items up in a few days. Will take them round and ask them to keep the noise down, they bbq every day unless it is raining. And keep the missiles from being thrown. I will see how they are with me. If they are off. Will contact landlord

You cannot keep any of the stuff thrown over but you do not need to return immediately, think you know this. I had neighbours who had kids who with their friends caused chaos. Warm weather - I had back door open and with cuppa in hand was making way to sit elsewhere in house. Football came flying over fence basically arriving in door knocking cup out of my hand. Next event, upstairs bedroom window open, was working in room, decided too cold, stood to close window and split second timing ball hit window just as closing. All the kids scarpered out their gate as they knew I would be annoyed. Went next door to complain and told mother if she did not stop those incidents I would report as being harrassment due to my age. No ball games from then on. Think you may be able to use this in your situation. Would contact landlord with pictures as evidence and tell him you are being harrassed and unable to enjoy your own home. You will find a solution, don't give up as difficult as it may seem.

Joyfulnanna. I hadn’t thought of that. Sadly for them they must be. Must be easier for landlord to have tenants who are not a nuisance

Update just put up 12ft wide bamboo screening so added 18 inches 2ft above.

Nannie jcl. Not overly bothered re balls it is stones toys metal cooking utensils. Agree fine to give stuff back but it is relentless. So I would not put them in the well behaved bracket.

Buster. Crikey they are old enough to know better. What a nightmare pair!

Bijou. Oh gosh. I hope somehow that improves for u. Enjoy the garden when u can. I now wear earbuds and listen to the radio on my phone

Silly nanny. That is vile. Sounds like you need environmental health on the case. As mentioned earlier not possible to move.

Inform their landlord...of your neighbours from hell. It sounds like they're breaching the terms of their tenancy agreement.

Alexa thanks will source the beberis

25 Avalon. Thanks. Yes spoken to neighbours. Am sorting bamboo.

Auto quest. What a nightmare. That is so selfish. Hope things improved.

Horatia. Yes am using some tips thank you.

Gosh. Am sorry to see so many posts on this situation it is an issue for so many. Thanks for all responses much appreciated. Been to see the neighbours the other side. He has a young family and says they are incredibly noisy. The landlord asked him if they were noisy and he said yes so that has come from somewhere!

Nannypiano. I feel for you and sorry you had to move to escape noise.

Granne2. Yes will keep a diary. Thank you. I hope they move on!

Maxdecatt. I just wish I had the guts to dump the stuff at the landlords agent. Like your style you are right. I feel I need to toughen up.

Ditzyme. I think I will talk to her if at any stage a raised voice I will walk away. Contact the landlord and agent. I own they rent. I will ask they keep the noise down too.

Houndi. How lovely wish you were my neighbour! ?

Shewhom. Spoken to neighbours he agrees really noisy. Landlord knows so will put weight to my feedback.

Lucky four. Agreed that is difficult. I must not be a doormat though. It is a fine line.

Suniesusie. That sounds hideous. I have a roll of bamboo screening I will get attached to the fence plus will buy some bamboo tubs.

SillyNanny Hoe awful for you I would ring your local Council and inform them of the unhealthy smells and get an inspector out to deal with it.

Have had some lovely neighbours in the next door property until the owner decided to sell. since then nothing but trouble! They have 3 lovely dogs, very friendly big boys who talk to me over the fence. No problem there till the smell starts getting ripe!
Their back door is the other side of the detached bungalow.
My back door opens onto the side that they never seem to get to. The dogs use it as a toilet & warm weather means no sitting in my garden or even opening windows. Hints have done no good so now thinking of a bucket of water but then they would not notice. Just wondering which is worse? Toys or smells? Maybe just move?

Some years ago ,when I was in my eighties othere was a boy at the back who continually kicked his balls the back fence and the over into my garden. He would come round every evening just as I sat down to dinner to ask for them back. I told him to wait until I threw them back. He was very rude to me. Next time a ball came over he sent his sister round. I got so fed up with this I went and spoke to his father who chastised the boy and told me to keep the balls. He then threw potatoes over. I heard later that the boy was expelled from school for drug abuse.
Now I have another problem. The retired gentleman at the back is a do it yourself enthusiast. I cannot sit in my garden because of the noise of drills and band saws. Even on Sunday agternoons. On one occasion he was cutting up bricks and the dust was blown over into my garden. I used to have a lot of birds on the feeders but the noise has driven them away. At my age I haven’t many more chances of enjoying sunny afternoons in the garden.

We had new neighbours 4 years ago , they are no spring chickens in there seventys . So we thought they would be ideal neighbours . He hasn't stop hammering and hanging since the day they moved in , telly blerring , the wife is like an old to fish wife . They are so selfish it's unbelievable but can't see they are doing anything wrong . I think to get good neighbours these days you have to be extremely lucky .

My children always went to ask neighbours politely for their football,there again one neighbour was lovely & gave them back the other neighbour wouldn’t .......I realise it’s difficult but I suppose it depends how bad the situation is.

Feel sorry for you,we own our home & when we first moved here 33 years ago our neighbours had noisy children ,we had balls kicked over etc but just use to throw them back.As our boys got bigger they played cricket & football in our garden & one of our neighbours was fine but the other side was really nasty & complained all the time.I think we all have to remember that children have to be able to play in their garden,they will be noisy because children are...... but as long as they are respectful & well behaved.I didn’t want my children roaming the streets or hanging about on street corners.......it’s not safe.My children are all grown up now & have children of their own & if we have a family barbecue (there are a lot of us) I always warn our neighbours before the event.Its really difficult but it really isn’t safe for children to play out until they are older.

Hi unfortunately this seems to be the normal behaviour now a days. Lack of respect and manners. Suffered the same I tell them what I think and went to the landlord. My dogs are great at bursting balls or I put a knife through them. Everything else goes in bin. I’m a gardener to trade and plants getting smashed with ball. They gave their 5 year old garden hose. Water right inside conservatory Furniture soaked. Being nice helpful friendly does not work. So brought in inviromental health. Good luck to you.

I sympathise with your situation. Wishing you all the best with whatever advice if any you take.

Omg what a nightmare for you. If you do plant a bamboo hedge make sure to dig a trench and line it or it will spread everywhere in your garden - I have done this with bamboo and it makes a great screen from the ugly things my neighbour deliberately has it his garden. It is up to 20ft now and does not contravene the High Hedges Act. It is also evergreen but doesn't prevent light from coming in. Idk what else to suggest about the noise apart from reporting to the landlord - if it is social housing they are more likely to take notice of you. If it's a terrace what about the neighbours on the other side of them? May be worth having a chat. My best wishes that this family move or get moved elsewhere soon and you get quieter neighbours again.

Charlie888 I am so glad to help. I made a mistake about cotoneaster. What I had in mind is not cotoneaster but berberis stenophylla which is quick growing , hardy, cheap to buy, and as prickly as any bush can be, a great deterrent to any intruder yet not illegal.

Really sympathise, we had noisy neighbours for many years, barbie lovers with a giant grill and music system right on the boundary fence next to our patio, constantly inviting their very large family round with scores of kids. Also had a very noisy scooter they drove round and round the garden until very late. Impossible for us to go outside in good weather. We very politely requested the noise end at 11pm but it made no difference, drunk adults and out of control kids to the early hours. I lost my rag with them one night when it was all still happening at 3am and having had a row the noise got worse! I would echo the comment that you need to try not to fall out with your neighbours if possible (I know how hard it is). Rang the police once who couldnt have been less interested and said there was nothing to be done. We grew giant bamboo up against the fence. Its fairly quick growing but of course still not an instant solution. In the end we would arrange to go away at the worst times (bank holidays), better for our blood pressure. Eventually the kids grew up and left home and its bearable now.

You don't have to be friends but try not to make an enemy of your neighbours as it will make you very miserable. Difficult, I know, but don't do anything that risks harming you.

As it is a terrace can you talk to neighbour on their other side and find out how they are handling the things thrown into their garden, noise etc
If they are also suffering and can’t come up with a solution the both of you complaining to landlord will add further weight.

I agree with the post it important to come to some agreement and get on with your neighbours.The house next door to me has been empty for two years.It just been brought by a lovely young couple.Me and my husband have already introduced ourselves.They wont be moving in till 2 months as they is a lot of work they need to do on it.I am potting them up a hanging basket that i intend to give to them when they move in and a welcome card

So sorry to hear this - a difficult or inconsiderate neighbour can ruin your life, I know from experience. I suggest you keep a diary of the disruption & I would contact both the owner/landlord of their property and your local authority’s environmental health dept, who will have policies regarding noise pollution etc.. On the plus side, if they’re renting they may not be there for long! Good luck x

Shortly after I retired I had a young family move in next door. Luckily detached property, but the noise in the garden was unbearable. Both children under school age, fighting incessantly, screaming, crying and also two dogs barking when the children started. So I couldn't sit out in the garden. It was impossible. Their mother never came out to see what was going on, unbelievable. I only stayed six months and moved to get away from it.

Jenpax.
I have mentioned the noise to her. She is aware of the toys and stones coming over to other gardens. She does not talk to the child she simply shrugs as he likes doing it . He is unsupervised when he is in the garden she is indoors. I agree with you and contacting landlord was my last resort as I do feel he will not want this problem We are in an area these get snapped up so he has a good choice of applicants. She does not help by shouting and hollering from indoors clattering about. They do not seem to realise doors have handles? I will try and speak with her. We all have to be considerate including me. I am up and awake early I keep the radio very low and quietly move around. I.e. not slamming cupboards and doors. Limiting the amount of bbqs would help due to the associated noise. Unless it is raining they are out there. I appreciate they want to enjoy this home and garden but it should not be at others expense.