Help calm me. house buying and selling stress. Part 5

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Luckygirl, I hope they come up trumps for you Craftyone recommended a box company to me called kite purchasing, I managed to pack and stack a lot of items neatly away from the viewers eyeline whilst on the market. And thank heavens for them - the removal company left HUGE boxes I'd never be able to lift alone (I'm five foot two inches tall and not very strong). I also bought a tape dispenser.

It is not at all easy to set these digital tv things up. I have a sony bravia, a panasonic dvd player, a soundbar so I can hear the tv properly and a fire stick. I set it up months ago after the bluetooth soundbar arrived. I have a habit of nodding off after 9, in the middle of anything I want to watch. I tested the record button just now and the tv says it cannot record as usb is not set up

I can watch tv through my panasonic and I can see all the films I recorded over 3 years. Today I learn that I need a usb recorder to record from the tv, it took me quite a while to learn this, I bought the tv after I moved here. I have ordered a usb recorder and one youtube video said to get 1TB (terrabyte) because small usb flashdrives get hot

I shoved the base unit away from the wall and unmuddled all the wires and there it will stay until the new hdd arrives tomorrow. I dare not touch anything else and am hoping that it does not take much more than plugging it in, I have a usb record port. All this to make sure I don`t miss good programmes

If I ever get this room decorated and have to move things, I am going to label each and every connection so they match like A-A B-B. Theres a limit as to how much to cope with in a 70+ brain and my 12 year old dgs has just built a pc with flashing lights!!! I gave up on learning tech, rather leave it to the grandchildren

Craftyone, I do so agree about the difficulties in setting up normal modern technology in the home. When I previously moved I did have a DVD, a Humax attched to my old Toshiba Tv. and I put stickly label at each end as I disconnected those items.

However, now it is so much more complicated, DVD, Sound Bar, Humax - has to talk to my wi-fi. I was fortunate that my Son in Law was given the job of ensuringmyTV was up and running the day I moved in, and (bless him) he did that. Also, now have Alexa there and it now appears as I may need something else which he keeps telling me about. I m waiting for him to come out of shielding then he can tell me what i need to buy and he can sort it.

My daughter had a job interview this afternoon (on line, of course). Now at the same time of her children was having to do a school examination, and one of the others, was also involved in a face to face with his tutors. Now, their Wifi does not like multiple users at the same time, so to ensure she did not have a problem, she brought her laptop round to me and sat in the spare bedroom for the interview.

Do wonder how larger families can manage if they do not have individual laptops, etc.

Bathroom people telephoned me and we have arranged a new start date of 24th August, which sounds far better to me.

My best wishes to all those on here who are now involved in the horrible business of property selling & buying. Whereas I am so very, very pleased I did it all and am so happy with my lovely flat, there is no way I will ever again do thisl

Could someone explain to me why a couple, one of which has MS, was on Escape to the Country looking at houses with stairs, etc. There is being positive - but also being very unaccepting. With MS, the chances of needing to live on a level in the not too distant future is a reality.

Technology - don't talk about it!! My OH was an electronics buff and the whole place is full of stuff he bought/made/put together. Nothing is normal or bog standard, including a complex cinema system, and a computer he made. I am dreading having to move this stuff and find a way of getting it set up. A lot of it I will try and sell, as I do not need it.

Franbern hope your daughter gets the job. Glad you have a date you are happy with to do your bathroom.

My sister in law has MS . At the moment they live in a house but know in a few years time they will have to move to a bungalow as she will not be able to cope with the stairs. This was brought home to them 2 years ago when she had a servere episode and my brother had to have 3 months off work to look after her. He had to do everything for including carrying her up and down the stairs. The alternative was for her to go into hospital to recover but my brother said no he would look after her. The risk of her catching anything in hospital was to high. Luckily the health authority were great at supplying equipment to help her from handrails to special cultery etc. Once she recovered they have kept the equipment because they know that they will need it again in the near future but with cut backs they may not be able to get it.

Luckygirl hope all goes well but until you have a firm offer keep showing your house.

My decorator phoned today and is going in to paint my kitchen and just wanted to check on the colours.

When my grandson wakes eventhough it is my daughter who goes into get him he was all Dada Dada now it's nana nana. My batteries are well and truly been recharged staying here.

Will ring my home improvements guy tomorrow to see if that person's drain has been fixed. He has ready told me they will be working Saturday.

At least the rain today has done the gardens good.

Morning all. I'm up at stupid o clock because the smoke alarm battery started that awful shrill pipping noise, and I had to go out to the garage to get the ladder to reach it. Birds are all awake, and so am I now!

More damage to my screen this morning, I'm going to have to bite the bullet and splash out on a new laptop. Hopefully one that doesn't get as warm as this one, it's like putting Ralgex on your knees.

Have a good day whatever you are doing

you are going to be embedded in IT stuff shandy, no fun getting a laptop set up but it is step by step and all shown, be prepared to be patient and methodical and you will need all your passwords to start again

Morning all. I have a laptop I don't use because years ago my son and daughter in law brought me a kindle on which I could do the things I wanted. My daughter and son in law brought me this new Motorola phone for Christmas and use it instead of the Kindle. So much easier. Managed to get to grips a bit better with technology but my son in law had to set up my smart TV when they brought it me and again when I moved, also set up this new phone when they gave it me. Any tech problems they sort them out for me. Only recently learn how to do a video on the phone and sent it. My late husband loved technology and would love today's. Such a lot has advanced in 16 years. Don't know how we you cope with lockdown without it.

My days are still full but this time full playing and not working. Keep asking my daughter is there anything to do she says no. Got mother's guilt I should be cleaning etc. But am very grateful for this time with them.

Have a good day whatever you are doing.

I have been asked to be a safety net next week, two very important workers are going back to work but with unknown hours, two children whose schools will be closed. No choice, I visited them last weekend. I can be very careful and they are 9 and 12 and aware. There are no child minders except for me

Dear all, I hope you will accept a stranger popping in.

I’m wrestling with a complicated dilemma ( re moving and contact with family) as I’m sure many others are. I’d like to start a thread to see if any one would be kind enough to give me their perspective but not sure which topic to put it under.

are you talking about estrangement? or perhaps how to keep contact. There is an estrangement forum or maybe under chat if it is about how to maintain contct. Nice to see you mrsE

Thank you craftyone, not estrangement thankfully.

In essence I want to move house to be close to my daughter and give support to her family so complicated moving house and pandemic carefulness dilemmas. It’s a convoluted situation which is why I think I might need to start a thread rather than hijack one!

Craftyone I know being with my daughter and family is taking a risk but it's means getting the work done on my bungalow. But I have found since being here has done me the world of good physically and mentally. At least here I can get hugs and kisses. Which has meant a lot to me. Didn't really realise how much I missed touching. With the children being 9 and 12 they understand what is going on . But it will be exhausting but you will be surprised how much better you will feel. To be honest it's lovely to feel being wanted.

MrsEBear I moved over 100 miles to live closer to my children. Everything was going great. But my son a month ago decided to write me an awful email stating a lot off things which were lies in essence said he loved me but didn't like me. And not to contact him or his wife and I was not welcome at their home. I would not be seeing . Finish this later at my daughter's and my grandson is coming so off to play. Don't regret for a moment moving here

MrsE, I would start such a thread in the coronavirus forum, seeing that this moving is combined with dodging coronavirus and you would probably get some very good tips. You are thinking about it, rather than it being in process, there would probably be other like minds on there. We tend to have already taken the decision to move and are either in process or have completed

How upsetting Whiff. It sounds like you get on well with your daughter and family but live near both your children (apologies if I've misunderstood).

I suspect I would have no regrets in the circumstances but very important to consider the possibility of relationships going through difficult patches. Do hope yours resolves eventually.

MrsEBear- good to hear from you. Most people on this thread have either finally made their move or in the process. All of us have adult children and some have some challenging relationships with those. Several are in the process of buying and selling in the current circumstances. If your queries are to do with the actual move, then this is the thread - but if it is more to do with relationship problems, then perhaps a different thread.

My daughter was told last night that she came second - job went to someone who was already working at that special school. Always a problem with many such jobs, when they have to open up the application/interview process, but really know in advance who they wish to appoint. Oh well, their loss for not taking my daughter - bet the person they have taken does not have her extensive experience in this field. Something else will turn up. Stupidly I found myself crying when she sent me the message!!! Emotions are so close to the surface at present.

Feel much happier now I have pushed back the bathroom work until end of August. Still trying to make arrangements about bringing my sister-in-law here for a few days to try to help her. Her daughter has broken her clavicle so will not now be able to collect her Mum. Have already made an alternative arrangement. I know it is slightly outside the current rules, but just her and me here for a few days and hopefully, I can start to try to lift her a little out of her dreadful depression.

Good to see the rain yesterday - sad world we seem to be living in at present. Keep well everyone.

Glad to hear everyone is helping out family where they can. It gives us all a purpose. Our AC have a lot to contend with .. bringing up their children, job worries, health concerns, financial issues, strain on relationships etc. It's good if we can lighten the load a bit.
A little story here to make you laugh. Our DD had a real life estimator round yesterday to give a quote for removal costs. The smart Essex guy took his posh leather shoes off at the front door. When he had finished and was ready to leave one of his shoes was missing. The puppy had taken it off into the garden and was busy throwing it about! Ooops! Hope the guy doesn't add it to the bill.

MrsEBear. I live 10 mins away from my daughter now and 30mins away from my son. Until that email got in really well with him. Saw him every Friday with my other 2 grandson's until lockdown and they are expecting a third boy in July.

Get on great with my daughter and son in law. And my grandson by them is wonderful. She doesn't in understand what has got into her brother. But I am not worrying about it as there is nothing I can do.

Franbern before lockdown my daughter when to a job interview spent 5 hours on a presentation they wanted . Had a great interview and then was told they had already given the job to someone else the day before. She was upset at all the time she had wasted when they should have cancelled the interview.

Ellianne that made me laugh .

Yes, my daughter also had to do a presentation for this interview, and spent her valuable relaxing time on Tuesday evening to get that ready. At least she did not actually have to GO anywhere, except to mine to do the interview. Used mine to ensure good wi fi connection. Too many people in her house using it for her to be able to guarantee a continuing reception.

Ellianne, that really gave us a good laugh, could imagine this gent hopping around with just one shoe. Wonderful - many thanks for sharing.

My brother in law, first of all said arrangements could not go ahead, as he needed his wife there a couple of days later as his car needed MOT and garage could not provide a collect and deliver service, so he needed her to follow him to bring him home, and then to repeat for pick up. Told me that he had to get it done that week as otherwise it would not legal to drive his car!!!

B......selfish man.. Firstly I pointed out to him that he has as six month window now to get that MOT so he could arrange it a week or two later. Pointed out how many people were involved in these arrangements which had been in place for several weeks. He has now stated there is someone else who could help him in this regard , so it can go ahead.

shandy escape to the country, cornwall. BBC1 3pm

woo hoo, My recording hdd is going to work. I will test it with nigel slater and then move my tv back, slide not lift

Shandy if you are interested in Cornwall, don’t forget that you must have a mining survey done as well as a normal house survey, there are so many mine shafts that are undocumented a geo survey absolutely has to be done.
Please be careful if you are tempted to go to an Auction for a property down there.
Our DDs house is built on Granite rock, but after a survey was found to be ok, imagine her shock when across the road in a field she spotted a small shed, not a shed but a mine entrance! Fortunately the shaft misses her property, but not by much.

and the survey should include a radon assessment. The old properties were not built with a radon barrier and radon is an insidious dangerous gas. Many properties will have a fan/exhaust system added to underfloor so that radon is exhausted out. There are other ways of keeping radon out, I think a negative pressure system is one. I cannot see a holiday home owner of old spending money on any of these. New builds have a radon barrier underfloor. We have a median radon risk here and the solicitor had to check if a radon barrier is in place, it is

My husband, a structural engineer was always very wary of housing in any ex mining area