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I’ve been well and truly ‘done over’!

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Luckylegs Thu 03-Dec-20 11:59:16

I’m so annoyed with myself. I’ve been ‘done’ out of £180 and there doesn’t seem to be anything I can do about it! I saw an ad on Marketplace for internal doors which seemed ideal. The seller kept hassling me to decide, he had several others wanting them, etc, said he was setting off and was on the motorway and so on. My husband didn’t want to get them and refused to cooperate which made it worse.

Anyway, they’re rubbish, the cheapest possible, already been done to take the hinges and doors but they don’t match up with our frames. Two of them have no wood on the bottoms, one has a gouge and to top it all they aren’t the size he advertised them at!

Without much hope I messaged him later to offer him petrol money to come and take them back and give us our money back. Of course, he’s just blocked me now. I’d already screen shot his pages and photo but I don’t know his address just the town he lives in.

Is there anything I can do? I know I’ve lost the money but I want to do something to him! I don’t suppose the police will be interested. I’m going to message each of the selling pages he uses to warn people not to buy off him but is there anything else? I can’t stop crying about my stupidity and the lost money. I know people have lost more money but we are pensioners and can’t afford to lose £180!

LadyJus Mon 07-Dec-20 01:49:41

For any type of online fraud, mis-selling, scam, phishing, counterfeit goods, extortion etc, the police have a department just for that;

www.actionfraud.police.uk/

Please report as officers will collate information and have successfully prosecuted fb 'traders'.

MrsThreadgoode Sun 06-Dec-20 09:51:53

Lucklegs I wasn’t agreeing with you that you were stupid! You thought that you were by buying good quality used goods, (which unless you were buying 6 doors certainly weren’t cheap) but you failed to check them.
However, I don’t think it was classed as a scam as you saw the goods but still bought them.
My point was that once the Police or Trading standards or any other body that could help you know this, you will be unable to take any actions against the sellers.
It always is ‘buyer beware’ and there are always people ready to take advantage of others who wouldn’t dream of selling goods that aren’t fit for purpose, which is where you and your DH stand.
People who are cheated aren’t stupid, the blame always lies with the perpetrators.

Rangimarie Sat 05-Dec-20 13:54:33

This should help.
awajis.com/howto/facebook-marketplace-rules-and-regulations/

ExD Sat 05-Dec-20 12:10:41

I'm with fevertree anyone can be caught out, however computer savvy they are.
Have you seen that big advert on Facebook for a large, wonderful, powerful torch in a case with charger etc? Supposedly worth over £100 each - yours for a mere £20 odd!
Don't fall for it.
The torches are tiny, the chargers have continental connections and don't charge anyway and its impossible to contact the seller.
My husband was well and truly scammed, but I didn't spot a problem either though I did think it was too good to be true (it was). I hope he can be as tenacious as you.

fevertree Sat 05-Dec-20 12:01:29

Luckylegs I was given very wise advice years ago "Never sh*t on anyone for a mistake they are already beating themselves up about". And: "No one ever learnt anything from being told they are stupid".

The bottom line here is, you were cheated out of your money by a clever crook.

flowers for you.

Luckylegs Sat 05-Dec-20 11:19:27

Thanks so much for pointing out the b......g obvious. I know. I said I was stupid in my original post. I didn’t know a lot about doors then. Are you a joiner or knowledgeable about doors?

MrsThreadgoode Sat 05-Dec-20 08:32:11

Well I admire your tenacity as well, but ...........

he actually delivered the doors to you, to your home?

And you saw them before he left?

And you still paid him?

He might be a small time criminal but you had the opportunity to refuse them and you passed it up.

Auntieflo Sat 05-Dec-20 08:12:18

Well done you Lucklegs, for being tenacious and not just letting it go, and also lovely that people are willing to help fund your doors, and / or , the chase!
I am keeping my fingers well and truly crossed that they are caught and punished. When there are many good hearted folk around, you just need the one bad one to spoil it for all.
Good luck.

Luckylegs Sat 05-Dec-20 00:07:06

Sorry, I just wanted to check my facts. So many people are messaging about them, it’s unbelievable! She’s saying she’s disabled, can’t drive, doesn’t own a car etc etc. So - guess who is going to be contacting every department and agency I can think of?

I am a bit nervous when I think he knows where we live and I wouldn’t like to think what he’s probably capable of.

He messaged me last night saying I was a liar and those were brand new doors, only one month old and nothing wrong with them. If I wasn’t so ashamed of my stupidity, I’d show you the photos but it’s terribly embarrassing to admit to it all.

One thing, so many people have offered to pay for doors for us, want to start a Go fund me page, are offering to come and help, that it’s so lovely to know how wonderful people are really and it’s just the scum of the earth who do these sort of things! Bless you all as well for your good wishes.

Luckylegs Fri 04-Dec-20 23:58:21

It’s all coming out now, if you’re interested! They are on benefits, in a brand new house, he’s dealing in drugs which they take (smoke?) in front of the kids. She can’t leave the house or drive and he’s been banned from driving. She drove the car here, sat in it with the engine running (dressed in a dressing gown!) and I forced her to put the window down because our drive is a nightmare to back down and I was warning her, she never looked away from her phone, then drove away. She’s been confronted by a friend and denied it was her, nothing to do with her. They cause a lot of trouble for the neighbours who want them out. More to follow in a minute.......

Frogs Fri 04-Dec-20 20:41:51

The annoying part of all this I'm thinking is that there's nothing to stop this person from setting up another FB profile with a different name and starting his 'business' all over again,.

harrigran Fri 04-Dec-20 18:01:44

This man appears to be a habitual criminal, I don't see why the police can not pursue him.

MamaCaz Fri 04-Dec-20 17:04:18

Well done with what you have done so far, Luckylegs.

I know that in your position, I couldn't just let it go either, or "get over it" as your H says you should.
Like you, I would want to channel the annoyance and embarrassment into inconveniencing them or hopefully even stopping them in their tracks, as it seems you've managed to identify them through your efforts so far.
Keep up the good work flowers

Caro57 Fri 04-Dec-20 16:45:21

Trading Standards and get as much information about him out on social media through friends and family - b*****D, these people need hanging out to dry!

Rosy2 Fri 04-Dec-20 15:53:36

I know it’s really difficult but let it go because you are doing yourself harm with all these feelings you have. Just forgive yourself and I’m sure all of us on here have done much worse.please don’t make yourself poorly over this as people like him aren’t worth your energy. I’m so sorry for you but put it behind you if you can for your own sake.

LaRia44 Fri 04-Dec-20 15:10:53

merlotgran

Name and shame him on facebook and ask others to share it. Make sure you mention the town.

Exactly Merlotgran,
I’ve seen this sort of scam named and shamed on our local Facebook page, it works sometimes when other people share.
OP, find his local FB page and post the info you have.
Good Luck

Greciangirl Fri 04-Dec-20 15:00:55

There was a program on ITV the other night about scams.

Never pay cash. Use a credit card so you are covered.

How did you pay him Luckylegs?

4allweknow Fri 04-Dec-20 14:50:35

Were they advertised as secondhand (not familiar with Marketplace). I thought with anything purchased online the purchaser has a legal right to reject the item and receive full refund. Contact your local trading standards office, this person may be well known for scamming people and they will certainly be able to advise you of your rights.

Albangirl14 Fri 04-Dec-20 14:28:13

I belong to a Reuse and Recycle site on Facebook and all posts are Moderated . If your site has a moderator you should let them know then that person is banned from posting again.

TrendyNannie6 Fri 04-Dec-20 13:45:45

I really feel for you, I’d try and contact trading standards and give them as much details as you can, can you report him to Facebook market place, I think nowadays you have to be so careful when you buy things, so many scammers about now,

ExaltedWombat Fri 04-Dec-20 13:40:26

Hard luck! Yes, report it to Marketplace but I'm afraid, barring miracles, you've lost the £180. A larger amount might be worth pursuing.
Didn't you LOOK at them before handing over the money? But no sense in beating yourself up over it now.

RosesAreRed21 Fri 04-Dec-20 13:37:50

How awful for you - what a vile man.

curlz Fri 04-Dec-20 13:36:32

You could try and get your money back through a small claims court but tat would cost time and money and you would have to find out all his details. Personally I would chalk it up to experience and vow never to buy that way again

Newatthis Fri 04-Dec-20 13:25:24

Recently I was almost scammed out of my life savings by someone on Marketplace. I was selling something and they said they would send a courier but I had to give my bank details so they could transfer the money and to click the link in the email that the courier would send. BE CAREFUL EVERYONE!!! If it sounds a bit fishy then it is.

seacliff Fri 04-Dec-20 13:20:12

flowers for you Luckylegs, I know how I'd feel. So sorry, could happen to anyone, some of these people are so convincing. Just a nasty criminal who does it all the time by the sound of it. Hope Karma comes and bites him on the bum big time.

Hope you can eventually let it go and get on with your life.