"Popping in" on someone without notice.

Where we lived previously close to family everyone used to just pop in. And we did the same.
Now our ACh and extended family have all gone onto the appointments system plus we live 100 miles away now.
Doesn't seem as friendly to me

Zoejory

Oh I agree, WW2. Eat the goodies before they get there!

Bugger

A huge NO from me, I would be happy if someone text or called first and checked but never a knock on the door..

Opening a text from someone to ask if they can pop round can’t compare to the the joy of opening the door to a friend you weren’t expecting.
I love it.

Witzend

And because we’ll just eat them, we never buy biscuits unless anyone’s expected at short notice - so a quick dash to the corner shop.

My mum says exactly the same so I was delighted to find a variety box of biscuits packed into packs of two in Sainsbury's the other day. It'll be her Mothers day present.

I have always enjoyed the unexpected visitor.

Many years back when my children were small, we actually lost the key to the back kitchen door, it remained unlocked, known to close friends and family. I would sometimes arrive home from shopping, etc. to find a friend or two in my kitchen, drinking a cup of coffee waiting for me. I loved that.

Obviously, grew more security minded as the years past. But was nearly always happy for the unexpected ring at the front door and a friend saying they were passing, etc. If I really was too busy at that moment, or had an appointment to get to I would tell them.

Nobody seems to do that now. Will usually, at least telephone before they come, except some of my g.children living nearby who will still occasionally, just turn up.

There are very few people that I would be happy at them popping in to see me - about 3 or 4 people - and I would be really frustrated at anybody else doing it. I have 2 friends who insist on me being around when they bring presents to me, even during the lockdowns and even though I had told them not to come round! and even though I have a post box at my door when they can put things into. The last straw was at Xmas when I was trying to sort out going abroad and getting all the paperwork and everything else I needed to do and had to speak sharply to one person who was still insisting on seeing me in person. The problem was I didn't know when I was going to be in due to all the arranging and they got quite stroppy with me. Why can't people take 'no' for an answer. My home is my castle, my safe place and I want it to stay like that.

And because we’ll just eat them, we never buy biscuits unless anyone’s expected at short notice - so a quick dash to the corner shop.

We 'drop off' things at family houses if we're passing but not to go in, especially with people WFH most of the time, but only for close family.
They sometimes turn up on the fly and are welcome but I definitely prefer friends to let me know they're coming and I always arrange to visit them in advance. OH usually arranges to play golf if he knows there's going to be a tea party!

It doesn’t often happen here, and I’m not tidy, so I infinitely prefer at least a couple of hours’ notice.

Funny how nobody ever pops in when it’s all relatively pristine, though. Which is usually when I’m expecting guests anyway, and have had a good blitz.

We get vaguely irritated if a delivery man disturbs us never mind someone wanting to come in

Oh I agree, WW2. Eat the goodies before they get there!

My children and grandchildren are welcome any time day or night.

Everyone else - I prefer to know because I can eat something nice in to eat and drink.

Not bothered about the house

Well said Maw I prefer friends to pop in ,but they are all too reticent

Yes of course it is considerate to text or ring to see if it is convenient, but what short memories we have - only 2 years ago do you remember when you were unable to do more than wave from the garden gate? You could not even meet in the garden?
I bet most of us especially those who live alone would have given our right arm for a “drop in” friend.

I really don’t care anymore what other people think, that’s the advantage of aging surely ?

I love friends popping in far more than pre arranged visits.

Prefer to be told prior to visit, someone caught me in my dressing gown at 5 o’clock one afternoon, said it’s ok don’t worry! Or say you have just cooked a lovely omelette that you can’t eat in front of anyone, I wouldn’t, if they weren’t, I wouldn’t enjoy it, so for me it’s let me know first please.

When all the kids were at home people would pop in all the time. We had a problem with our next door neighbour who had actually originally built the house. He would turn up almost every day, sometimes downstairs in the workshop looking for tools to borrow without asking. I was glad when we moved even though he wasn’t a nasty man. Now people ring before they turn up which is how I like it.

We moved house because we were fed of people popping in. Some family followed us, that’s fine, but it’s much better now everyone else text first to make sure we’re in.

I had a friend who would often drop by unannounced, I'd always ask her in and put the kettle on. She'd then say, "Oh not for me, I'm not stopping."
I actually found that quite rude! I always made myself a coffee though.
I was never quite brave enough to just keep her talking on the doorstep in the first place, or when she turned down a drink to say, "Well don't let me keep you then" and show her out.

I dont care about the house being untidy or whether people who come without arrangement will "judge" me because Im not "dressed". Thats their problem.

Mine is that I have customers to service and they pay for my attention. Unscheduled visitors contribute nothing to my income and are just a distraction. I dont walk around with a smartphone glued to my hand so someone phoning or texting to say they will be with me in ten minutes does not work for me. Unless Im expecting a package or have an appointment I probably wont even answer the door.

Apart from family there isn’t really anyone who would drop in, unfortunately. I grew up with family and friends dropping in but OH’s family were the total opposite.

It’s a huge “no” for me. I don’t pop in on people and I don’t like it when it happens to me. I have Aspergers and frankly, I like to know what’s going on.

Was given a surprise birthday “do” some years ago and hated it. Really really couldn’t wait to leave!

Daisend1

dolphindaisy
You call these persons friends ?

Afraid so. The husband once kindly pointed out we had a cobweb on the ceiling!