"Popping in" on someone without notice.

Have always loved the surprise pop in of a friend or family member.
Since covid I have gone right off the idea. Car kept in the garage so that nobody knows if we’re in or out.
The odd uninvited caller in the early days of lock down was kept chatting at the door and invited to pop back in the summer for a socially distanced chat in the garden.
Friends and family now phone first and we’re all respecting hands, face and space, open windows and testing where appropriate.

We did this yesterday but would usually would phone first.

Yes covid has changed a lot for some people who dont want to go back to how it was. The boundaries have moved.

When I was a child the back door was always open as aunts lived nearby and would often pop round.
Other visitors tended to knock on the front door.

I don’t like it when people just “pop in”but my friends know that and they will always text or phone first..

Where I live it’s quite common. Doesn’t bother me - we’re retired so rare that we don’t have time to chat for a short time. Might ring first, but not always.

We were used to popping into each others houses when I was young - family, neighbours, friend's families. Most of the time I am quite happy for people to pop in. I'm more likely to get annoyed with people who constantly phone/text to arrange a 'pop in' as I don't carry my phone around and it leads to complications when I miss their calls and texts. Very occasionally if we don't want to see people (maybe we just want a quiet evening) we just don't answer the door. No one we know is nosy enough to peer in windows looking for us.

I can't stand it if someone decides to pop in. My friends know this but now and again I'll see a vague acquaintance pulling up.

I take evasive action by hurling myself on to the floor or if I'm lucky enough to be upstairs I just stay quietly in the bathroom.

My dogs go mad of course, apart from my very well behaved chihuahua who understands the assignment. She sits close by my side, wide eyed, flat eared, just waiting until those pesky people give up.

Nope, I don't like it at all. If you send me a text or a quick phone call to check if I'm around and available, that's fine but don't just pitch up and expect a warm welcome.

I love it when people”pop in”. My friend and family and I do it, not on a regular basis, but it’s a lovely surprise when it happens. Years ago, as a service wife, we used to just knock on each other’s doors, if they were busy we went away. Some of my family are working from home, so no I wouldn’t dream of just popping in.

We don’t mind people dropping in, we don’t have many friends and the ones we do have will take us as we are, but we always call ahead to make sure they are in.
MrOops mate often dropped in with his wife, but she died last year and he now has a new ‘friend’ and I’m not too keen when he drops in with her as I don’t know her and she is very young. That shouldn’t matter but somehow it does!

With so many people WAH today it just becomes so inconvenient. The work still has to be done after they have gone. Ive had my share of clingy needy neighburs in the past and now I steer clear. My NDN is a whinger.

When we are outside neighbours often pop over and are welcomed.
In the past people just dropping by would be welcomed but nowadays I would expect at least a text. I consider it rude to assume that you could drop by unannounced and be welcome.
Life changes.

I’m so glad I have never lived anywhere where people pop in. I would hate it and hide like Zoejory.

I hate it too. I don't mind 10 minutes' notice, with the option to say no, so a quick text is fine. I don't understand why people don't do that - it's not as though you just find yourself on someone's doorstep. You must know you are heading that way, so why not just let them know?

I hate people popping in, though it seems to happen quite regularly at our house.

I always try to say, 'If you are going to call, please text first to make sure that we are in so that you don't have a wasted journey'. It seems to be working and I would do the same if I wanted to call on them.

Unfortunately for me, my DH has many acquittances who call around at random times. They are all very nice but some of them will sit there for ages. I usually make myself scarce.

Random callers bother me because although my house is fine by most standards, I always plump the cushions, tidy stuff away, make sure the kitchen is tidy etc. if I know someone is coming.

Not a problem at all ? I often have people pop in when I have other people here who have popped in.
My very close friend ( lives next door but one) even brings her own cup of tea.
We have always been an open house type of couple.

I don't mind if people call in but I choose who and when I ask them in. I think that's fair. I will call in on a few friends but most I would phone first.

Generally it is inconvenient. Someone from afar visiting in passing are welcome, but even then, I would prefer some notice.

The French have a phrase for it Autres temps, autres mœurs, 'other times, other ways'. Nowadays, with mobile phones, texts and email therereally is no real excuse for calling in on people without warning.

A friend of my husband ‘popped’ in to ours last week and then texted a day later to say he had COVID!

Felt unwell a day later and yes he had passed it on to me. Fuming!

This has really changed over my lifetime. However, my DH was brought up in a small, insular family, who would never have dreamed of seeing anyone without arrangements, and he found the casual, open attitude of my family home quite bizarre!
We only really have one set of people who now 'pop in'. They are relatives, in their late 80s, and have just kept the old ways.

I really don’t mind if people pop in but I very rarely do that myself. It doesn’t take 30 seconds to send a quick text asking if it’s convenient to do so.

Now that most people have mobile phones I do think it's bad manners to just call in without even sending a text. A couple we know, who's house is always immaculate, have a habit of popping round when I haven't dusted or washed the dishes, I know this will be duly noted and reported to their other friends.

I find it tedious to be honest. We don't have a set timetable for household jobs etc and we like to be able to go out when the fancy takes us. Wouldn't dream of dropping in on anyone unexpected or uninvited.