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Son not doing jobs he promised

(55 Posts)
Lucca Sat 09-Apr-22 08:33:55

But buy a different air freshener. Compromise !
Just book the tradesmen and tell him then are coming. If your son kicks off, too bad !

PECS Sat 09-Apr-22 08:31:42

Would telling him that his lack of financial contribution to the household needs to be met by his practical contribution of xx hours a week handyman/ cleaning/ general chores. Otherwise a greater chunk of his UC needs to needs handed over?

Kate54 Sat 09-Apr-22 08:30:33

Got their first Aggie!

aggie Sat 09-Apr-22 08:29:24

Get an expert for both those jobs .
Get another expert to fit an extractor fan in the bathroom
Tell son to find a flat

Yoginimeisje Sat 09-Apr-22 08:24:04

Moved into this house 2.5months ago. I had already ordered a shed costing £870 to be delivered 1 week after we [son & I] moved in. We did the base together which was real hard work, I was let down twice with a groundsman not turning up, so that's why we did it ourselves.

So 2.5months later and the shed is still not up. Every time I say to my son 'ok, lovely dry sunny day, let's get the shed up' he says he's not up to it. I have said if he doesn't want to do it, that's fine, I will get someone in to do it, but he replies he wants to do it. He constructed a friend of his, log cabin last year, so said this shed 6ft X 12ft, would be easy. Tuesday was going to be the day, at last, but didn't happen, then definitely Friday, didn't happen. I didn't talk to him for 7hrs, which is not like me at all, maybe an hour after a dispute, but then I let it go.

I'm hovering over the 'My builder' page to book someone to come and put the shed up, but know my son will say 'I said I'd do it and I will' and then another month goes by!

Same problem with the dish washer, he says he can do that, and to borrow a hammer drill from my s.i.l & a pipe cutter, but I'm not so sure he can do it, it's not a straightforward job. Not just connecting the pipes up, but cutting in to join and drilling through the wall for the outlet pipe, as he says that's easier than trying to join it to the one under the sink. I'm afraid I'll end up with no water & heating. But when I say I'll get someone in for both jobs he acts offended saying he can do them & I've no faith in him [or words to that effect] and so the months roll by!

Other problem is he hates the toilet freshener spray, I do one quick spray & open the window. He then opens all the windows and doors, including the patio doors, saying he can't breath. When he uses the toilet he doesn't spray & the whole house stinks & I can't go in for a quick wee, till I've spray and the whole thing begins again with all the doors & windows being opened. I'm going to tell him to walk down to the shops this morning and buy an air freshener that he can tolerate. Also, as I'm up at about 6am, putting the heating on, he gets up at about 10am, so all that heating being lost out the doors & windows! So I either sit freezing or put the heating on again, wasting money! He doesn't work, pays for his food, but not rest of the bills.

It's really getting to me now, what to do??