Angry with dh

You have my every sympathy Gingster I’d have at least 2 G&T large.
I do wonder if there’s any equivalent site somewhere Mary with a man making a similar list about ‘old women’?

My DH used to call anything I asked him to do a ‘5 minute job’. Trouble was it took him 6 months (minimum) to get round to even looking at the job - then GAMI - got a man in!

Oh goodness, what a day you had. Hope the G and T has a calming effect soon.
My Dh doesn't have a strimmer thank goodness; it would drive me potty. He does wonder where he might have left his power drill for a fortnight each year- it magically reappears after Wimbledon!

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Right, Marydoll my dh has all those symptoms apart from the sports one. Now you’ve diagnosed him - what’s the remedy?? A hole underneath the patio? ?

If only I knew Sue, I would make a fortune advising others in a similar position.

I have another symptom to add.

•After your wife has spent ages sorting the washing for four adults into appropriate bundles, grab it mix it all up and dump it somewhere, whre it will get in the way! ?

Right, Marydoll my dh has all those symptoms apart from the sports one. Now you’ve diagnosed him - what’s the remedy?? A hole underneath the patio? ?

How much can you tell someone in a second. Not enough to put your point across properly I would think.

Would it be fair to say that Mr Ginster's is probably somewhere around 65/70 years old and ordinarily is a sensible enough kind of chap. He's probably been operating a strimmer for maybe 20/25/30 years and understands how they work and what they do. Even if he hadn't had a second of advice from his lovely wife, he could possibly be expected to know that stones flicked up by the strimmer are mini missiles and if they were to hit something fragile...... like a glass window for example..... it would break! If this isn't something that would naturally occur to Mr Gingster, should he be left in charge of a strimmer? Or, alternatively, was he just like most of the men mentioned on this thread: he doesn't listen; he thinks he knows better; he is never wrong.

Answers on a postcard please!

Ditto Marydoll DH needs hearing aid but insists I mumble…

Spot on, Marydoll.

There are more symptoms, but I'm sure someone, not realising your post was tongue in cheek will come along and tell me off for complaining about my DH, Gingster!

Spot on Marydoll . You must know my Dh as you have described him down to the ground. ?

Gingster, I have had a day like that, only without the broken glass, thank goodness. I am weary of it. Youu have my utmost sympathy.

I am beginning to think there is a condition called Old Man Syndrome.

Symptoms:

•They don't listen
•It is their way, or no way.
•They are never wrong.
•They never put anything back where it belongs
•They are permanently grumpy and anti-social.
•They have a fixation on sport, any sport. Even two ants racing.
•They tell you that you are mumbling, when in fact they
need a hearing test.
•They will never deviate from their plans, especially if it
is a golf day.

What is it with men and strimmers? The bungalow next to our house has grass about 6ft square. They are not gardeners when they moved in they cut every tree down. It's now like a rubbish yard filled with anything and everything.
Yet every week their son is out with the strimmer I mean literally about 3 hours on the small patch of grass. As soon as I hear the shed door open I get myself out of the house because it drives me mad.

How much can you tell someone in a second. Not enough to put your point across properly I would think.

Nice to hear many of you sympathise with me and know ‘the feeling’.
Thanks - yes the G and T went down a treat. .

Don't tell your DH this but male brains aren’t designed to listen to female voices. However, I do sympathise with you, I have been telling DH for years that our raspberries are producing low grade fruit because he doesn’t cut the canes back after fruiting. The other day I went into the garden to find him cutting back the raspberries and he told me that the berries were poor because they were growing on old wood. He looked puzzled when I told him I had been telling him that for years but he thinks it’s his idea. It’s insignificant compared to your problem Gingster but infuriating nevertheless..

Oh Gingster I feel your pain. I hope you enjoyed your G&T xxx

I'm having a nice chilled rose in solidarity with everyone who has one of these dhs.

Ps, I mostly love mine a lot!

OH: "Why are you standing on that chair reaching so far back in the cupboards? You could fall!"
Me: "Because stuff has been sitting on that step for days/weeks/months now and it needs putting away."
OH: "Why didn't you ask me? You only needed to ask!"
Me: "I've asked every day for a week/month/year/lifetime and you didn't do it so I'm doing it myself."
OH: "I hate it when you nag. I'd have got round to it".

Why don’t ‘they’ listen

I’m not the person to ask, today! This afternoon my dh asked why I was trying to carry too much stuff outside (rubbish and recycling) and that I should let him do it. I said ok and left some of it for him to bring out. He then appeared without the recycling I’d left behind! Said he didn’t see it. ?‍♀️ So I pointed out that that’s why I do things myself and he said I only had to ask. I responded that I didn’t see why I needed to ask, it’s fairly obvious what needs doing. Except it clearly isn’t obvious to him. ?. The atmosphere in the car was a bit chilly, and we didn’t even have the air conditioning on. ?

Going off at a tangent here but do all men get really huffy when they’re criticised about something? We always have a car full of stuff when we go away but DH bought a load of plants to take with us this time even though it would make far more sense to just buy some up here. In the end he left some behind. And I had to leave the soup maker I’d bought from a garage sale to keep here.

Oh no. Strimmers are notorious for doing that, it’s one reason why I don’t use one. We’re on holiday this week and a neighbour told me last week that some masonry had come loose overhanging my other neighbours garden. Thankfully a local builder came out and fixed it for me. Why do these things always happen just before you go away!

Haha have the same issue with power washer! Every year men have to power wash the drives even if they are not very dirty. Any dirt is then sprayed up the house wall or on anything nearby which has not been moved which then needs cleaned. Why? At least it doesn't usually break glass though. Let him sort it and enjoy your gin Gingster.

Thankyou Chewbacca - yes it was 100% his fault. No excuses!
I’ve just had a stuff g and t GG . It does take the edge off my fury! ?

It seems to me it was 50% him not hearing you and 50% you not making your point.

No, it wasn't; it was 100% Ginster's husbands fault. She clearly said in her OP: He stopped for a second and I shouted to him to tell him to stop strimming the drive because of the stony ground, but he chose to ignore her and carried on regardless. It's his fault that the glass was shattered; even a 10 year old could foresee the consequences and would have stopped. He broke the glass; he should be the one to sort out an emergency glazier to fix it.

If he didn’t hear you when you were in garden how could he hear you knocking on window? It seems to me it was 50% him not hearing you and 50% you not making your point.

You also need to make your house secure before you go away as it will invalidate any insurance, as I’m sure you know already.

Next time you want his attention appear in your underwear or with a cup of tea in hand or both ?