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*Will I be made Homeless if mum dies*

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welbeck Wed 22-Jun-22 22:46:29

do not move out of your present flat.
wait until they get a court order for eviction.
that will mean you are officially homeless, and in a better position to negotiate with the council, whether in your area or your mum's, with a view to moving with her to a suitable 2 bed flat.
she cannot manage stairs, so would need to move probably at some point. stair lifts are not always the right answer. some people cannot safely use them. also not suitable to get to a loo in a hurry.
contact shelter for specialist advice.https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice

Beautful Wed 22-Jun-22 22:45:42

Like some have suggested ... get in contact with your moms Council, as I don't think you would be entitled to live there also someone else suggested about getting a flat , or bungalow, even a warden controlled flat or bungalow , as she will still have her independence, has she got an alarm that if she needed help in an emergency that would help aswell

NotTooOld Wed 22-Jun-22 22:44:03

Definitely contact the council from whom your mum currently rents. They are the only ones who can give you this information. You need to be very sure of your position before you make a decision.

Hithere Wed 22-Jun-22 22:42:14

The question is - do you want to be her career?
Answer it without guilt or sense of responsibility

StarDreamer Wed 22-Jun-22 22:36:30

As your mum has trouble with the stairs, could you ask the council if they have any single bedroom bungalows, so bedroom, living room, kitchen, bathroom, and ask if you can have joint tenancy, explain the circumstances, then your mum has the bedroom, and you use the living room as both your bedroom and as the living room, then if and when you are the only occupant, you would be one person in a single bedroom bungalow. These single bedroom bungalows are often occupied by elderly married couples, so two people living in the building would not be overcrowding.

I don't know if that is possible, just wondering.

It might help if your mum's doctor or a nurse from the doctor's practice supported an application to do that.

In fairness, as your current landlord wants you out at some as yet unspecified time, you don't need to stay there until they say so: you are going to have to move someewhere anyway.

I hope this helps.

Ali08 Wed 22-Jun-22 22:22:00

As your mum is in a 3 bed that she doesn't need, would she consider downsizing to a 2 bed flat/house so that you could claim together for?
That way you would be a tenant!
Look into this as the councils often pay to help you move etc when downsizing as they need the places with more bedrooms for families with children!!

Casdon Wed 22-Jun-22 22:07:31

I’d seek some more information from Citizens Advice before you do anything. As your mum is occupying a three bedroom house my guess is that is highly unlikely that you’d be allowed to succeed to the tenancy as the house will be needed for a family. However the council may have an obligation to find you alternative accommodation for a single person at that point? There’s a lot to consider though, as presumably you will have to leave your job and your friends too, you have to think about your long term future as well as your mum. The council may well consider alternative, more suitable accommodation for her if she requests it?

crazyH Wed 22-Jun-22 22:03:16

I can’t help you with any advice, but I’m sure there will be someone who can. All the best and look after yourself.flowers

Oldnproud Wed 22-Jun-22 22:02:31

I suspect that carer or not, you would have to leave if your mum died, but perhaps you could contact the housing department of your mum's council to ask about this.

My previous neighbour, in a housing association property, remarried a year after his first wife died. His new wife could not have stayed in the house if he died. However, as he had health issues, they were able to get a transfer to a different, more suitable property, and the new tenancy at this property was then in joint names.

Harris27 Wed 22-Jun-22 21:52:20

Get in touch with your mums council and social worker and see what they have to say.

munkee Wed 22-Jun-22 21:45:20

Hi everyone, I'm trying to find out the situation for live in carers of a parent when they die, and wonder if anyone knows or has been through the problem i now find myself in. I will explain my situation which is... I am 56 and live on my own 80 miles from my mum in a private rented flat. My mum who is 76 has been asking me to move back home with her into her 3 bed council rented house for sometime as she struggles to get up an down the stairs, she finds it hard and painful to lift things like saucepans kettles etc due to a past shoulder injury. she has various other ailments including her breathing, blood pressure etc she gets very lonely and due to some close family tragedies struggles with depression, so she wants me to move back home with her and maybe look into being her carer. what my problem is, is if give up my private rent flat here and move into mums council house with her I said she needs to make me a joint tenant for my security. she says that the council will no longer allow me to be a joint tenant with her or for family members to take over the property when she dies. this means [or does it ??] i would probably be in my mid 60's and homeless which ive said to mum im not going through that sort of turmoil at that age especially as i have my own health issues. does any body know if i am my mothers registered full time carer, do councils allow for this? do they or will they? give you some kind of assured tenancy and that they will not just say "ok mums dead ! you have 14 days to move out" and the issue has Now been compounded as my landlord has messaged me in the last couple of days saying that they are selling my flat and need me to vacate [no date or time given as yet] so as she can update the boiler cooker etc and redecorate. so i need to make some decisions pretty soon and don't know what the heck to do I'm feel really stressed an down myself now and just want to bury my head in the sand till it goes away. hopefully someone here can advise or has been through a similar problem. thanks in advance hopefully for any help or information given. confusedsad