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The friendliest and least friendly places to live in U.K

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Yammy Sat 03-Sept-22 18:17:05

Following on from yesterday's post about where do you live. Having had to move around the U.k quite a lot with DH's job I know which I found the friendliest and which was not.
Tyneside would get my vote for being extremely friendly.
The East Riding of Yorks not Hull City the most unfriendly .
If you have had to move quite a lot what would be your choices?

Sago Sun 04-Sept-22 11:53:55

East Yorkshire,Rossendale Valley, Newcastle upon Tyne,South Yorkshire,South Oxfordshire,Shropshire,Ribble Valley, North Yorkshire,Hampshire and back to East Yorkshire!
All the above have been our home since 1983, I have encountered lovely people in all places, I was not happy in Hampshire so therefore made few friends.
I believe you reap what you sow, the UK on the whole is friendly.

Galaxy Sun 04-Sept-22 11:57:24

I am going against the grain a bit, I have lived in the North East all my life, and I find people in London very friendly, I have never received so many offers of help as when many years ago I was negotiating a buggy on the tube. I find Merseyside very friendly too.

Greyduster Sun 04-Sept-22 11:57:49

Yes we Yorkshire folk are renowned for being a friendly lot. When DH and I first got together and he came here, he was always asking me “Do you know her?” “Is he a friend of yours?” whenever I had a casual conversation with a stranger. He never really got used to it, and he was from South Wales and they are very friendly folk. The most hostile people I have ever come across were in mid Wales. They don’t seem to like anyone who doesn’t speak Welsh and mostly won’t give you the time of day! As for your very funny link, overthehill that might have been us on one visit to London trying to find our way to the National Army Museum. We asked five people for directions and only one actually had the courtesy to speak to us! One didn’t speak English and three didn’t even make eye contact when we said “excuse me…..”!

nanna8 Sun 04-Sept-22 12:14:07

I have found everywhere in the UK that I have been friendly except Oxford where they stared at you as if you were going to rob them or something. Possibly because most there were not permanent residents.

FelicityFleur Sun 04-Sept-22 12:28:42

Hi - I agree about some areas of Yorkshire- not welcoming to ‘comer-inners’ (?!) as I was called. I’ve lived all over the UK in my 60 years, and Derby is THE most warm-hearted, welcoming and gentle place - including all the gorgeous villages in Amber Valley. South Wales (Merthyr Tydfil) is exceptionally friendly & welcoming too x With no shadow of a doubt, moving to Powys in Mid Wales, was grim, as children, from Dorset, we were ostracised, without friends, lonely and so sorely missed our lives before that- saying that, it was the 70’s and they’d hardly seen “the English “, and felt we were taking their jobs and boyfriends ? … may be different now! Derby is 100% great x

welbeck Sun 04-Sept-22 12:30:28

to be fair, i think v few people in london have heard of the national army museum, and fewer still would know where it is.
also people are wary of beggars, or being drawn into some scam. so it is often self-preservation that creates distance.
i used to be more open. now i am more wary.
the station staff at sloane square, if there are any left after so many cuts, are probably best to ask.

FelicityFleur Sun 04-Sept-22 12:42:32

Yes! The Amber Valley is exquisite- peaceful, warm-hearted and such good atmosphere- the East Midlands is indeed a very fine place x

Yammy Sun 04-Sept-22 13:05:31

Sago

East Yorkshire,Rossendale Valley, Newcastle upon Tyne,South Yorkshire,South Oxfordshire,Shropshire,Ribble Valley, North Yorkshire,Hampshire and back to East Yorkshire!
All the above have been our home since 1983, I have encountered lovely people in all places, I was not happy in Hampshire so therefore made few friends.
I believe you reap what you sow, the UK on the whole is friendly.

What should I have sown Sago?hmm

Beanutz2115 Sun 04-Sept-22 13:20:03

I too have lived all over the country. I can honestly say that the most friendly place to live so far has been the West Midlands.
The worst has been Rochdale in Lancashire. We bought a house at the bottom of a close and kids would cheer when we left and throw stones at me when walking the dogs. I had an Asian man looking at the house when we were trying to sell it , a neighbour shouted at him 'get off my garden, we don’t want your sort here.' Being a southerner I now know what it feels a little to have racist bullying.

Sloegin Sun 04-Sept-22 13:43:58

I have lived in N.ireland, Kent and North Devon. N.I. definitely most friendly of the three, Kent least friendly. N.Devon folk are very pleasant but tend to keep themselves to themselves. However so many people there from outside N.Devon easy to make friends. My daughter lives in Cardiff and I find it a very friendly city.

Greyduster Sun 04-Sept-22 15:30:57

To be honest, welbeck, until we met the fifth, a Chelsea resident, we had not got as far as mentioning the words ‘national’ ‘army’ or ‘museum’. She actually offered to walk us there, but we accepted her directions gratefully.

StoneofDestiny Mon 05-Sept-22 12:34:16

I've lived all over the England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. Hands down Glasgow is the friendliest place. I found Yorkshire more nosey than friendly. Northern Ireland too divided to be unreservedly friendly, but the Republic of Ireland very friendly.

Paperbackwriter Mon 05-Sept-22 12:38:28

BlueBelle

I haven’t found anywhere unfriendly but I think I shock Londoners on the tube or on buses as I talk to everybody and they don’t do they ?

I live in London and I talk to everyone! But it's probably my long-ago northern roots showing!

Paperbackwriter Mon 05-Sept-22 12:40:45

I think most people are pretty friendly wherever you are but in Cornwall there's occasionally a lot of hostility to anyone from east of the Tamar. I realise there are housing issues but to resent 'incomers' just because they're from up-country and not born and raised in one local village can be disappointingly insular. Having said that, my daughters both live there and have made good lives and great friends.

doormouse Mon 05-Sept-22 12:41:07

I think my street in Bristol is the friendliest place on earth. My fabulous neighbours organised a street party to celebrate my 80th birthday. Nothing could be friendlier than that!

pascal30 Mon 05-Sept-22 12:45:46

overthehill

This is funny
youtu.be/PT0ay9u1gg4

hilarious

Grantanow Mon 05-Sept-22 13:03:49

Somerset is pretty friendly, much more so than Surrey!

HannahLoisLuke Mon 05-Sept-22 13:05:09

Elless

I think Merseyside tops the lot, even when you are on holiday, here or abroad people pick up on the accent and chat. Scousers are tainted with a reputation they don't deserve.

Could that have anything to do with the tv “comedy” Bread I wonder? All the characters in that were portrayed as work shy scrounges, not a flattering picture.

westerlywind Mon 05-Sept-22 13:08:37

I moved to SW Scotland from another part of Scotland. It is a strange place. There are several buildings containing flats. They are nice flats. It is near town's main street, there are good walks interesting places to visit.
What is awful about the small area I am in is that there is a household who think they run the place. Their expectations are unreasonable such as a delivery was made before I even moved in and a bit of a mess was made. They wanted that cleared up before I could even get a brush out my flat. They want to tell everyone who should do this that or the other. In the properties closest to them there have been 5 changes of occupants in 2 years! No-one seems to be able to shut them up. No other resident seems able to make their own decisions. They just comply. They are just miserable people.
It is very disappointing.

weenanni59 Mon 05-Sept-22 13:11:14

I think that Glasgow is a very friendly city . The people are very open and whenever I am there someone will always strike up a conversation with me ( even in public toilets ! )
The North East is England is also one of my favourite places , partly because of its beautiful coastline and also because of the friendliness of the people who live there

Bea0802 Mon 05-Sept-22 13:17:30

Skybird I agree about Belfast. I worked there for a while. Travelling on the bus was a nightmare, everyone would talk to you! If I wanted a bit of morning quietness I had to keep my head down, bless them!

Nannashirlz Mon 05-Sept-22 13:22:10

Being from the north east I’ve got to say us. Having traveled all over country and lived overseas. I’d say north east I talk to anyone and everyone no matter if I know you or not and everyone from north east is the same. Definitely not down south most ignorant people I’ve ever met. You can smile at them and they don’t even smile back lol

NotSpaghetti Mon 05-Sept-22 13:24:17

I found Norfolk hostile. We have lived all over the place but wouldn't choose to go back there.

ginny Mon 05-Sept-22 13:36:41

Nanashirlz that is an awful generalisation.
Mind you I’m not from the North so obviously ignorant.

Plunger Mon 05-Sept-22 13:40:08

Partner from Yorkshire, me Kent and we live in Surrey. On visiting Yorkshire I would be frequently informed how friendly Yorkshire folk were and how unfriendly Southerners were. Basically they were insulting me and I was expected to suck it up. I wouldn't, so of course that proved to them how unfriendly Southerners were.