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De-cluttering, the never-ending process

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karmalady Tue 21-Mar-23 07:49:13

De-cluttering can be emotionally and physically draining. We, when we were two, started the process from the family home and that was in 2006. The big de-clutter

Since then we moved house twice and had two more de-clutters

Then we became just I and I moved again to a new build with much less storage but I got storage made and I developed room for stash

Now at 75, I am on another mission, to remove what I don`t need or will not need. Last remove was from my garden just two days ago, tall planters, short planters and the contents

That bit of help, advice and encouragement is all we need. We know what to do but it is, or can be, psychologically difficult. Slow and steady is key

karmalady Thu 09-Nov-23 08:39:33

Maybee, a big hug from me. You have a daunting task ahead of you. Grit teeth and do it, you need that air flow

I get so tempted by fabric offers, I am only buying really good fabrics and just had one for 25% off linen, all too easy with the internet. It is my usual supplier and a known make of top notch fabric so I have bought two (relatively expensive) dress lengths.

I think, `so what`, sewing is a real pleasure and my garments are well made, would cost far more in a designer shop. To make up I am going to take 6 useful items from the house to my dd in wales, I have stashed them in the garage and I may travel next week

In the meantime, I am deliberately limiting myself to what I wear this autumn/winter, so they get more use and can then be replaced when they get past their best

Doodledog Thu 09-Nov-23 10:19:12

I hope you can get rid of the mould, Maybee. I'm not sure what to suggest, but maybe a furniture specialist could advise on how to keep it at bay when you have eradicated it?

kl I am going to have to thin out a lot of my yarn collection. I have far too much of it, and realistically am unlikely to use all of it. It takes up such a lot of space that it is stressful, but now is not the time to deal with it! My plan is to bag it until the decorating is over and sort it as I unpack it. I can't resist 'bargains' when it comes to knitting yarn, but it is not saving money to buy yarn then get rid of it because I haven't used it. I I like to knit with luxury yarn, as I do it as a hobby rather than out of necessity, and shop-bought knitwear is always much cheaper than hand knit anyway. This means that my 'stash' cost a lot to acquire, but I am going to have to take the same approach as I did to my clothes, accept that the money is already spent, and be ruthless about the likelihood that I will use it. Now that I don't have a regular salary I won't be able to keep buying more in such quantities, so I should find it easier to keep on top of it all.

karmalady Thu 09-Nov-23 11:06:40

Same doodledog, I only ever buy good quality British made yarn and often from an artisan company in Devon but mine will all, eventually, be used. I am hoping to live to a grand old age smile

Ravelry is very good for selling yarn, costs nothing to sell and the forum you need is called uk classifieds. Upside of stash of course is the stash would cost a great deal more today and if kept sealed from moths will never deteriorate. I bought a large airtight cardboard drum for much of mine, costs from £27

Doodledog Thu 09-Nov-23 11:34:12

I have bought a lot of it on UK Classifieds grin.

There is a whole alcove (shelved) of stash yarn in a fairly large bedroom - it is beyond a joke. A storage box wouldn't take a tenth of it. I don't know what all of it is, as it wan't carefully labelled, which will make selling difficult, and as with clothes I really can't be bothered with all the listing and bagging and taking to the PO. I'll worry about what to do with it later though. Maybe a care home would like it, or there is an upcycling centre nearby who runs classes on how to reuse things - I could contact them and see if they want it.

AreWeThereYet Thu 09-Nov-23 13:00:12

We had one of those Cash-for-any-old-things roadshows here today. Finally got rid of MrA's old train set and a load of camera equipment that hasn't been looked at for twenty years. Not a lot of cash but a nice hole in the cupboard for other things and less things sitting getting dusty 😀

While I was getting it out I found some old scuba diving gear in the cupboard that I didn't even realise we still had so that's gone in the skip.

I'm hoping that MrA can now learn to live without his old Scalextric as well 😀😀

MayBee70 Thu 09-Nov-23 13:38:00

I gave my youngest grandson a chess set that I’d bought for my eldest grandson because he’d taken an interest in chess. They returned it to me. Was just about to put it away and found there was one chess piece missing. This will totally do my head in especially as I’ve got ancient chess sets that belonged to my ex husband that are probably 60 years old and all of the pieces are there! The pieces don’t fit the newer chess board, though. If I’d lost that piece at home I would now be turning the house apart looking for it. It has the same effect on me as seeing the corner of a page turned over in a book! I feel as if I need to lie down in a darkened room….

Callistemon21 Thu 09-Nov-23 15:41:53

There is a whole alcove (shelved) of stash yarn in a fairly large bedroom - it is beyond a joke

If you have a Knit and Natter or a U3A Craft group near you they might be glad of it because they will knit/crochet things for charity.
I gave a big bag of various yarns to someone whose mother makes blankets for care homes.

Callistemon21 Thu 09-Nov-23 15:44:53

The dresser is full of exquisite little things that my daughter made when she was little and I’m going to ask her to take them to her house. I think I’ll shed a few tears when they go

Something I saw on, I think, House Doctor, Maybee, take photographs and put them in an album.

Although I'm not sure if that would help or make it worse!

karmalady Thu 09-Nov-23 15:46:57

Maybee, I understand that. I have got out of bed in the middle of the night just to look in a place that might have had a missing part. It disturbs me a lot if I cannot find something

I need to get some self-control, this being indoors while it is gloomy and raining out, I have done enough hobby crafting today and find myself yet again online and buying more sewing patterns. I will be making each of them and yes I already have the fabric. I think I need the endorphins, which I get when I buy patterns, fabric or wool

Doodledog Thu 09-Nov-23 16:00:08

Well, the back bedroom is finished, the carpet fitter is coming in the morning, and all going well I will order a new bed when he's done and I have spoken to the shop. Progress is being made.

Tomorrow I have a few work things to do, but the weekend is going to be devoted to sorting out the room with the yarn in it. It's getting tricky now though. The back room is painted, but until the carpet goes down we can't put anything back in it, and other rooms need to be cleared. The decorator is starting on our room next (the one with all the wardrobes), so that will be out of action for a while. We're running out of places to put things, and goodness knows where all the wardrobes are going to go.

I keep repeating 'All things must pass' to myself.

MayBee70 Thu 09-Nov-23 16:02:39

This year I was going to have the porch rebuilt and the garage re roofed so I could store things in it. I also planned to put a heated clothes airier in the garage. Because of the asbestos problem none of it has been done. But I am cleaning and tidying the garage ( my ex has finally moved his stuff out of it) and I’m going to store things there in containers. My house is full of the sort of things that most people store in their garage. I’m also going through several items of upcycled furniture. I git a bit obsessive about buying things from charity shops and Annie Sloaning them. I don’t want to get rid of it because, if I downsize at some point I might wish I’d still got some of it. There’s a bookcase that m ex’s father or grandfather made for him and a lovely wash stand with beautiful Mackintosh type tiles. The local bric a brac shop says no one wants them these days.

HelterSkelter1 Thu 09-Nov-23 16:17:57

I have kept so much stuff since we married. Loads of toys, but neither daughters have had children and not likely to now. I was able to sort out a large box with my daughters' agreement and they went to a neighbour with 4 children. So some space in that cupboard.

But I still have so much furniture, soft furnishings etc etc which the girls are unlikely to want. Like so many others I have some of my parents things as well. So many things hardly used so I shouldn't really miss them, but I will.

This is the winter for the Big Sort. Good idea to photo things before I say goodbye to them.

MayBee70 Thu 09-Nov-23 19:57:09

I’ve rearranged the kitchen cupboards so I can, hopefully put the mugs in there that I’ve bought over the years. Never use them: just display them in the dresser ( which I now have to clear).

Doodledog Thu 09-Nov-23 20:58:48

Welcome to the Clutter Club, HelterSkelter! Honestly, if you make a start on the Big Sort you won't believe how much you can get rid of by this time next year. It's about 18 months ago that I started by clearing out a sideboard, and since then I've worked my way around the house, decorating and clearing space. It's made a huge difference.

I had a lot of time off between spurts, but when I decide to 'go for it' I've got quite ruthless. When I get the bedrooms back I will have another clearout of the various wardrobes, finding the things that survived the first round of sorting and getting rid of those. I'm hoping to make a habit of decluttering grin.

Doodledog Thu 09-Nov-23 20:59:50

Oh, and I meant to say - good news about your ex, MayBee. That should give you the push to crack on, now that his stuff isn't everywhere.

MayBee70 Thu 09-Nov-23 21:15:43

That’s just the garage. I’ve still got his dad’s stuff in the loft.

Doodledog Thu 09-Nov-23 21:40:18

Ah. Well, it's a start.

MayBee70 Thu 09-Nov-23 22:53:21

The chess piece is safe in my son’s car. I can concentrate on the decluttering now!

loopyloo Fri 10-Nov-23 05:56:35

Don't know what I have been doing for last 3 years but it's not been clearing and cleaning out the kitchen.
So a start has been made.

Tops of cupboards first.and why do we have so many plastic drinking bottles??
My new brilliant toy is a handheld vacuum cleaner. Wow the dust it picks up and I don't have to cart around the Miele.
Then I made pickled red cabbage what mess and need to reboil it as very runny.but very tasty.

Chocolatelovinggran Fri 10-Nov-23 07:34:38

Fellow gransnetters, I salute you. My journey of a few things each week has been slow. I'm not sure that my bookshelves show any evidence of slimming down- probably because when I go to the cs with half a dozen books, I sometimes come away with- er - two or three books.
I'm with Doodledog in sorting out bedrooms. The wardrobe in the smallest one is being taken by DD and I will replace it with a desk/ craft table ( ooh, furniture shopping..)
The contents of said wardrobe will need to be ...redistributed somehow/ somewhere/ sometime .

fancythat Fri 10-Nov-23 07:47:31

Thankfully I dont replace what I get rid of, with other things.

I think, having given it some thought, is that I have a relatively good amount of storage space. So things can be put somewhere, and left there for 5 years quite easily.

After having done the slow method for 4 years[I think 1 more year to go], I have been able to get rid of about 3 pieces of furniture.

The less storage should also help with me keeping on top of things going forward.
Also, with several grandchildren running around, it gives them more space.

fancythat Fri 10-Nov-23 07:50:04

I saw a photograph recently of a part of the house when we had only been married a few years.
I was shocked as to how little was in the room!

Callistemon21 Fri 10-Nov-23 11:05:53

Sigh.

Onwards and upwards - to the little bedroom which seems to be full of clutter moved from elsewhere!

fancythat Fri 10-Nov-23 11:11:44

I have a confession to make.
It is not something I have told many in real life.

I dont like totally tidy areas.
Especially if there are a few.
It is what stopped me from starting a complete declutter a few years earlier.
It was when it dawned on me that it was going to be a long process, that I was happy to begin.

At the moment there is a space behind me that is empty.
I find it boring.
I am tempted to put a cloth on it or something, so it looks less boring to me.

I am not much for ornaments.
I dont like too many photographs.

fancythat Fri 10-Nov-23 11:14:39

Callistemon21

Sigh.

Onwards and upwards - to the little bedroom which seems to be full of clutter moved from elsewhere!

I have a few items left like that.
It can take me ages to decide on a final home, if it is something I am keeping.
A year I have realised, occasionally!
But largely I have gone through most of it now, either now gone out the house or found a place for.

I was given something 3 years ago, something small, and it has been around the house all that time!