Weaponised incompetence

Parents?

By all accounts some don’t teach them how to cook either

Parents?

I remember where i used to work asking a man in his 20s to hoover and he didn't even know how to turn it on. At my work now, youngsters unable to wash up or mop floors or even how to use a brush, wtf is going on?

MissAdventure

I keep reading this as weaponised incontinence.

On reflection, that sounds much more tricky.

I hate the ads (flash especially) where the guy looks so smug that he has cleaned the floor. He wouldn’t be if he had to do it every day.

I once read an article by a male journalist, who said that when nobly doing the hoovering for a change, a good way to really p*ss your wife/partner off, was to do a particularly thorough job, e.g. hoovering under the bed/sofa, and then saying, ‘Goodness, it’s been a long time since the hoover went under there, hasn’t it?’
Sorry, but I did 😂!

I keep reading this as weaponised incontinence.

On reflection, that sounds much more tricky.

I think a vacuuming delivery man is doing more than his share, unless this is part of the advertised service? The last time I had new beds delivered they were going onto new carpets, so maybe it’s something they do now. I can’t remember what happened the time before. I know it costs quite a bit to get them to take away old beds and assemble the new ones, so maybe putting them down onto vacuumed carpet is included in the charge.

All the same, it’s usually better to say what you mean, rather than hinting, in my experience.

Weaponised incompetence, really. More feminist c.... Just another example of putting all men in one basket.
In my day it was called, not doing your share, women can be just as guilty. My son could tell you that.

I think congrats to the delivery man who offered to hoover. If you didn't want him to do it you should have done it yourself. If he started knocking into furniture then you should have just thanked him and taken over. He was trying to help you.

I don’t recognise any of these women in my life who act useless when it comes to using screwdrivers and hammers. The nearest man to me shows zero interest in such things and the “precious giant toolbox” is buried under heaps of other c@#*p in the junk room - I’ve actually been known to go and shop for more screwdrivers, hammers and a new drill. …(just need to learn how to use it now) rather than answer 20 questions on what I want it for👹 will search for instructions on YouTube it’s my best friend sometimes.

It works the other way round as well. The number of women I have seen act useless when it comes to using a hammer or screwdriver and look to the nearest man to help them. If I am close enough I takeover before the man can.

GrammarGrandma

Why on earth didn't you just say, "please don't bash the walls/furniture" instead of coming out with something too nuanced for the delivery man to understand?

‘too nuanced’ what a great phrase!

CariadAgain

Ah - now I see what that phrase means that I've heard women use about men.

Cue for taking delivery of new bed today and the male half of the two delivering it took my vacuum cleaner and started hoovering the floor. Bash at my furniture (new/not cheap), bash again. I make comment of "I've replaced that furniture pretty recently - got rid of the original cheaper stuff I'd had and bought MINE finally". He then bashed my walls - cue for me saying "I've decorated the house throughout - I won't be doing it again". Cue for apparent total oblivion on his part was what I was saying was "Do NOT bash my furniture.....do NOT bash my walls".

Pity the poor women who are married to those doing weaponised incompetence - visions of them telling them "Don't damage my stuff" umpteen times before saying "Here I'll do your share of the housework for you....for free....so go and get lazy and watch the tv instead and I'll do your share, as well as my own".

That would be because he is a narcissist and gaslighting you ?

GrammarGrandma

Why on earth didn't you just say, "please don't bash the walls/furniture" instead of coming out with something too nuanced for the delivery man to understand?

Not only the delivery man either

and regularly touch up the dado on the stairs, which seems to see the worst of his apparent vandalism
😂😂😂
I'm not laughing, honestly!!

Everywhere needs decorating here, no point before having the new kitchen installed.
Just wondering why we're doing that, should we go on a world cruise instead?

Allira

As my DM used to say "Mind the paintwork!!"

I say that all the time to Mr Dog

We've recently had the house decorated, and I don't think there is a single room that doesn't have a chip, a scratch or some other sign of his clumsiness on the paintwork. I think it's because he doesn't realise that he's not as strong as he used to be, and thinks he can carry things more easily than he actually can, so it ends badly.

I found a tiny bottle of white gloss paint on Amazon - a bit like a bottle of liquid Tippex - and regularly touch up the dado on the stairs, which seems to see the worst of his apparent vandalism. It's the best find I've had in ages.

As my DM used to say "Mind the paintwork!!"

Why on earth didn't you just say, "please don't bash the walls/furniture" instead of coming out with something too nuanced for the delivery man to understand?

Why make all the oblique comments about having decorated and bought expensive furniture when what you meant to say was 'don't bash the woodwork'?

People aren't psychic. I agree that it was very good service if a delivery man hoovered under the bed.

petra

Oreo

When an old divan type bed is removed you should see what the carpet is like underneath😲so it does need hoovering before the new bed is brought in, but have never had the delivery men offer to do it.
Are you maybe either really old or disabled OP so they were helping you out?

No, she’s a woman that doesn’t like men. 😂 as she frequently tells us.

You've obviously not got the ability to read peoples posts clearly if you think I'm saying I don't like men.

Actually I often get on better with men than with women...

How frustrating.....

But regardless of the above comments, I have often wondered if there are folks who do a chore/job poorly on purpose so that someone else takes over, does the chore, and never asked that person to do that job again~~ Hmmm.......

Agree! Weird thread

Neither would I DamaskRose. We ran a furniture retail business and our delivery men never offered to vacuum up for a customer.

Yes just either hoover it yourself, or just say, thanks, but please be careful of the walls & furniture, ive just had all done new.🙄😆