I want to declutter, partner does not want to?

I always thought I was good at decluttering because I've moved 15 times in 20 years but the biggest lesson I learnt was when my landlord decided to provide my neighbour and me with new very large black bins (the sort you see outside cafés). I create very little rubbish so I thought it would be an ideal place to store 'things'. An upright cupboard really. How useful!! 😄 My neighbour naturally assumed it was full of rubbish and because I was away that week she very kindly put it out for collection. So, crockery, games, tools etc etc etc all went in the rubbish van. I felt sorry for the waste of useful things but I didn't miss any of it, so it was a real, if very steep, learning curve about holding on to 'stuff'.

Yes i can respect tjat, and I'd steer clear of those. .but a torn blankef that the dog dug up????

MissAdventure I'm not sure what funny little things might be sentimental to my husband to be honest.

He has some things I know about - but even after half a century we still have our own thoughts.

Can you just declutter your own stuff, for now? He might be inspired by the difference it makes and make him want to do his own.

Sodapop I usually clear out some of my stuff ostentatiously then ask him what he is getting rid of.

That seems a bit rude and confrontational to me (but maybe he doesn't mind?)
I'd be more inclined to just pick one or two things he almost certainly won't need and ask nicely if you can pass them on?

I wouldn't start decluttering as though it is a challenge and a face-off.
I can't see that working to be honest.

I'd quietly remove stuff.
Its ridiculous keeping things that have no value, either sentimental or money wise.

The cause of many a row in our house. I don't keep anything unnecessarily but my husband retains everything. I usually clear out some of my stuff ostentatiously then ask him what he is getting rid of. He has the lions share of storage in our house and three barns full of
crap useful stuff.

Personally, I would never throw out my husband’s ‘stuff’ without checking with him first.

I too would hate it if anyone did that with my stuff.

Thank you for replying quickly by the way.

A lot of threads on here are started by a poster I have not noticed before, they start a post, and often never return to say anything else.

Tbh if partner did this with my things, I would be grateful

But I think you are saying that he would not be?

What about stuff you'll never use? Like a blanket with no sentimental value that the dog tore up?

Tbh if partner did this with my things, I would be grateful. I am reaching the point where a lot of things are just anchors that are holding me back. I had a lot of puzzles that I held onto, but felt super relieved when I donated them.

I mean if they got rid of my "clutter" without asking.

I wouldn't do it.
I'd collect the things I thought were unimportant (including my own) and say "are you bothered about any of these or can I give them to Oxfam?"

I think seeing them in one reasonably small collection at a time is unlikely to ruffle feathers.

I would hate it if someone did it to me.

I once knew a lady whose husband had a penchant for smart suits. They lived in a long walk in wardrobe and some of them were 20 years old and more. Despite this he would continue to buy new suits. On the arrival of the next resident, the lady would remove one he had bought years ago and donate it to charity so the suits were actually contained in the wardrobe and he never even noticed one was missing.