How can I be expected to pay £ 1,000 per month top up for my father.

Thanks for the tribute, glamma, but I haven't got that piece of info at my fingertips. I don't think you can be made to pay for a parent's care, but wouldn't take an oath on that until I can look it up on the CAB info system. However, you will find the real experts at Age UK, so I advise consulting your nearest branch and getting chapter and verse so that you can confront that social worker in full possession of the facts.

YES sorry anagram!

Thinking it may be annobel with her wealth of valuable information ?

(*jeni*, you must be confusing me with someone else! I know nothing!)

Like the others, I'm not well up on this subject, but surely it can't be the case that grown up children are liable to pay the cost of their parent's care if the parent has little or no money!
When will it end - will grandchildren eventually have to fund their own parents' care from any legacy left to them by their grandparents?
What about a second cousin twice-removed...?

jane1945 I am pretty sure that you cannot be forced to pay for a parent's care, except in very exceptional circumstances which do not appear to apply to you. However, we have Gransnetters who have professional expertise in this area and who will, I am sure, be able to help you. I am familiar with a bullying social worker who is not prepared to listen but wishes to steamroller arrangements through. Stand your ground – with all the quiet courtesy in the world – while you find out the exact legal position. How horrid that you have been so badly upset.

Try carol or anagram I think

jane1945 How dare the person doing the assessment scare you like this how does he/she know what your dear fathers condition will be this time next year ? The fact that you own your own home does not come into the equasion as it is your father who needs the care not you.I am not totally up to speed on the rights and wrongs of this but I am sure that one of our more clued up GNers will have the answer for you,please do not get stressed about it,I am sure good advice is on the way.

OMG! I don't know, but I bet someone on this forum will! You must be worried stiff - it cannot be right? xxx