Off to annoy another NHS Continuing Care Nurse today.

Perhaps I will feel differently when I am in my care home, but if I hd a £750K house and my parent could have a more comfortable final few years if they were self-funding, I would not begrudge them the money. I was brought up to stand on my own feet. I believe adult children have no right of expectation of an inheritance when their parents die. If there is anything left over, fine, but you do not expect the state to look after you and yours* if you are capable of doing it yourself* It's as wrong to expect the state to pick up the tab for your parents as for your children.
Don't bother to reply to this Frank we obviously have differing views as to responsibility and self-respect.

Hear hear!

Gracemum / Galen

If a son / daughter has inherited half a house from 1 parent and decides to move in he / she becomes an owner occupier and can not be thrown out.
The other parent can not sell the property as nobody would want to buy a house with somebody living in it so that in effect makes the other parent's share worthless.
What she could have done if the mother was only qualified for social funding she could have took it and paid top up.
In this case only 1 home would take the mother because of behaviour problems which was an expensive one so the mother would not have got a better care home if the daughter paid.
As the mother was violent and the daughter would not finance the care the NHS had no alternative but to pay.

Frank

Yawn!

Galen

Hi gracemum / Galen / Soop

You may laugh but these people are still living in the houses.

Frank

So they haven't assed on then?

absent

The parent has passed away but in all cases I have been involved in the children are still in the houses.

Frank

Ariadne's darkened room, anyone?

Just been asked by a lady if I can attend her father's assessment in 3 weeks.
The letter is signed by the care nurse I saw the last time.



Frank

Goodness Frank how do you fit all this in? Is this yet another lady? How many is that in the last week?

The nursing homes aroun suttoncoldfield must be full by now!

My offspring and their partners have bought their own homes, without much help from me - except for a loan to make up the mortgage deposit. I am proud of their self-sufficiency. Please stop me if I sound as smug as you-know-who.

I may laugh? Doubt it somehow.
Monkey's. Give a. Don't. I.

They must have a lot of £500K homes in your area.You will become a community of singletons all living in big houses,how sad and lonely it must be.

Geez Frank! I'm new and now I feel like your the boy who cried wolf!How can we feel for someone who lost there wife he had known since he was 11 when you say these things? what are we suppose to believe? Nothing.Fine,I'll still enjoy your post.

glamma if he lives where I think he does £500000 is cheap! Or was when I lived I the midlands.

Google Roma. Road Sutton Coldfield and you'll see what I mean

Roman!

Galen

I wish I had the money to live in Roman Road.

Frank

Oh and the nursing home is not in Sutton Coldfield.

DON'T CARE!!! - now renamed [yawn] emoticon

Gracesmum I love your wit.

Where's Sutton Coldfield? Did it have something to do with TV once upon a time?

Part of downtown Birmingham. Google roman rd suttoncoldfield. Houses for sale and you'll get an idea!